Does your spouse know your passwords?

ShandiH

I think it's weird... I don't see why other half should know.

Occasionally have given one to him to check things for me like banking (entirely trust him) but have changed them too after to be extra secure.

I don't have anything to hide, nor should he but sometimes you have to have your personal space-it's the same with mail. I wouldn't want anybody else opening it. It's addressed to me, and e-mail etc is just like a phonecall and sometimes you need to just moan about the other half in private... unfortunately with e-mail I guess its there written down... and never goes away really even if you delete it!

My philosophy is to NEVER put anything into writing that I don't want someone else to see - work, personal, whatever. If I need to vent, I *talk* to my girlfriends.

My husband and I know each others passwords, not that either of us demands to know. I thought it completely strange when I first heard that someone's wife didn't know their passwords. Whatever reason/excuse you want to give, it comes down to a trust issue in my opinion. You ask, why should I? I ask, why not??

deeharley

My husband misspelled a password once and I had to help him figure out HOW he misspelled it. We tried every misspelling we could think of, never did figure it out.

Yes, I know most of his, he knows none of mine - I don't think he cares to know them. I'd tell them if he wanted to know.

ShandiH

After reading more of the posts, I find it very interesting that both sides of the discussion use trust as a reason as to why/why not . . . as one post said, if you have nothing to hide, why hide it?

Ocarina

LOL! I hope I'm not in a unhealthy relationship as we are to the point where my husband ASKS me what the password is to all his junk. He even makes me sign up for things for him or change stuff on his accounts that I don't want to be on like our Best Buy card. The check goes into direct deposit into my bank account that has his name on it and he's pretty much clueless as to what is in there. He's rather me manage the finances as I have more time to do it and actually enjoy it. The only passwords I don't know are the ones for his work as they are classified by the government. TRUST ME! I'm OK with that. More crap for me to worry about otherwise. We aren't like this because of trust issues but because he's lazy and it's easier to have everything the same. We don't even use Facebook because it's too complicated. I had to set up one for him and he never used it so we deleted them. =P

I guess you can have all sorts of extremes.

scs143

I know his and have given him mine on occasion for whatever reason, however, I doubt he ever uses them or even remembers them. I don't ever use his either. I don't feel a need to look at what he does.

KatFierce

I know all my husband's passwords, as he uses the same two for everything and I set up alot of his accounts for him. My husband also knows mine, but he probably has no clue what site I go on, other than here and facebook ( he says I am addicted lol). It's not a big deal in our house.

jwhit31

I think its a trust issue !!! My fellings are if I can not trust you you are worthless . Trust is the base of any relationship . Bet this pisses some people off.

EXACTLY!!!!

Also have nothing to hide, my FB is always logged on and there have been times I've asked DH to check something and has given him my PW and vice versa. aDo I ever remember PWs he's given me......naw! Don't care enough.....lol!

goron59

My wife and I have a lot of shared accounts,but personal accounts no.

Certainly not banking or credit related. If there was ever fraud on your account and it was discovered that you had told someone else your credentials/passwords/PINs, you'd be liable.

Secret_Agent_007

My SO knows all my passwords, including email and I'm fine with that. Our relationship is based on trust, mutual respect, love and enjoyment of each others' company. No secrets required.

JulieSD

I should clarify what I originally meant

I always leave my accounts open (mfp, hotmail, gmail) so that anyone at anytime could scroll though what I have been up to. With my ex it was never a matter of trust (we are no longer together because we are just very different people on very different paths). But the trust was always there.

Even now If I really wanted, I could still use my debit card for his account (it was a shared account, I opened a new one with a new bank), but he knows that I would never do anything shady. Occasionally he asked me to transfer money from his account to my new one for child support with online banking.

I only wanted to know if you've had or known someone who has had a spouse demand passwords. To me that is not normal. I've seen people I know freak out over not knowing this information. This is bizarre to me. You're in a relationship, shouldn't you trust that the person your with is on the up and up and if you can't then you shouldn't be with them.

They could obviously have accounts that you dont know about and be living a secret life.....lol

CoraGregoryCPA

Nope, but i know his. Which i dont care if he knew mine he has never needed to ask. Women are clever beings!

dovesgate

I've had trust issues with my husband before and I demanded his passwords.

Yes, I found what I was looking for. We chose to work through it. It has taken a few years but finally we are in a good place. Mostly healed I think.

I still have the majority of his passwords but I no longer feel the need to check obsessively to see if something like that pops up again.