So lost, So alone...

1Corinthians13

I so feel you.

This is the first Vday in 8 years that I will spend alone (in the beginning throes of my divorce). So far, I've done okay not thinking about it too much. The hardest thing is hearing my very close girlfriend telling me about the romantic night she has planned for her fiance.

However, this is my suggestion.

Do something on Vday. I am lucky - my sister's bday is the 10th, and because my stepdad works on Vday, and my mom didn't make any plans with him, my mom is doing the traditional "whatever you want for dinner" dinner for my sister on the 14th. So I will be looking at the 14th as my sister's bday celebration, not Valentine's Day.

But it's not easy. All I can think about is how last year for Valentine's, my then-husband took me to Orlando. We went to Disney World and had a great, romantic time...

And this year, I'm alone while he's with his floosey (I'm being nice here, but she deserves other names).

I know how you feel, and I will be praying that God gives you the strength to get through this.

Phoenix_Rising

I so feel you.

This is the first Vday in 8 years that I will spend alone (in the beginning throes of my divorce). So far, I've done okay not thinking about it too much. The hardest thing is hearing my very close girlfriend telling me about the romantic night she has planned for her fiance.

In the same boat.
This will be my first Valentine's alone in over 11 years.
Maybe this is why I've fallen back into binge eating too. :frown:
Maybe this is where I should consider myself lucky that my husband never did anything romantic or sweet to celebrate Valentines Day in the first place. No card, no chocolates, no flowers, no dinner. I was lucky to get a quick kiss and a "happy Valentines day".
So I guess my plus is this year won't be much different.
Holidays suck. :grumble:

1Corinthians13

I so feel you.

This is the first Vday in 8 years that I will spend alone (in the beginning throes of my divorce). So far, I've done okay not thinking about it too much. The hardest thing is hearing my very close girlfriend telling me about the romantic night she has planned for her fiance.

In the same boat.
This will be my first Valentine's alone in over 11 years.
Maybe this is why I've fallen back into binge eating too. :frown:
Maybe this is where I should consider myself lucky that my husband never did anything romantic or sweet to celebrate Valentines Day in the first place. No card, no chocolates, no flowers, no dinner. I was lucky to get a quick kiss and a "happy Valentines day".
So I guess my plus is this year won't be much different.
Holidays suck. :grumble:

I'm sorry that you're in the same boat as me. It does suck, but you're right...having fond memories of Vday's past makes it hard. Last year was Orlando, the year before that...he was so sweet. Our dog (now his dog) ate my underwear. He loved underwear. I was running out of it, and the ones I did have were falling apart. But it was something I rarely bought for myself. So my then-husband gave me a gift card for Victoria's Secret for an insane amount of money that I never, ever would have spent on myself. Then he made dinner. And the year before that...

Ugh.

I'm trying no to think about what he's doing for his...girlfriend (it's hard to restrain myself here ladies) this year.

Shannon023

Sorry you're having a bad month. :flowerforyou:

Now get back on the wagon & make Valentine's Day 2010 a day to celebrate!

amymeenieminymo

Ugh, I remember the crappy feeling around Vday when I was single. But just remember that your prince charming could be right around the corner, ya just never know. I wasn't necessarily looking when I met my boyfriend, and I met him through a friend (she is his cousin) that I have actually known for years, I just never met any of her family before then. So someone wonderful could be right under your nose and will come around when you least expect it. This is my second Vday with my boyfriend but before that I hadn't had a boyfriend on Vday in years. In fact, a couple years ago I got dumped just before sweetest day (not sure if you have it where you live, but here in Michigan its like Vday but in October).

Do what I do when you're alone and in need of some TLC.....pick up your favorite (healthy) meal, pop in your favorite DVD and just relax knowing that you don't have to deal with the looooong waits at restaurants on Vday, lol. Or go shopping that day, or get a mani/pedi...whatever it is that you love to do, just pamper yourself. I know it's just a few days away, but maybe for the next time your facing a day like this, promise yourself that if you eat well for two weeks before hand, that you can reward yourself with a cheat meal that day. Don't go overboard, just something you ordinarily couldn't have.

Juliebean_1027

I'm single this Valentine's Day too, but I'm actually really excited about it. I'm trying to stay positive and think about all the money I won't be wasting on this overly commercialized holiday. Do you have any girlfriends you could get together with? Every year my friends and I get together and hang out. This year we're getting together at my house and we're renting the most action-packed guy flicks that we can. None of that lovely dovey make me want to cut myself valentines crap, but hot sweaty guys blowing stuff up instead! I'd much rather watch a muscled guy with no shirt on than The Notebook anyway.

Fitness_Chick

i have just one more suggestion--clean when you're lonely, sad, bored. there is immense satisfaction in making something go from dirty to clean, for me anyway. i love the vacuum stripes! plus when your hands are occupied and you're scrub, scrub, scrubbing, you can't be eating and you can focus entirely on the task. be one with the sponge. :laugh:
"have something to look forward to every day. Momentum is important."--Joan Lunden (I've butchered the quote, but you get the idea.)
anyway, thanks for being so honest. and thanks for letting us love you with our posts.

Cleaning is my way of feeling good as well, not necessarily when I'm down but anytime it just makes me realize how awesome it will all look when I'm done!:flowerforyou:

But tis true, cleaning out a closet and listening to your favorite upbeat music can do wonders to distract and help you find lots to pass along, trash, and treasures you knew you had but wondered what the heck had happened to them! Closets...they are magical wonders:blushing: :laugh: :bigsmile:

FC