Can't seem to stop :(
Swtlilangl786
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I started mfp three weeks ago and I was doing great controlling what I ate and exercising on a regular basis. I lost four pounds. Ever since this past Wednesday I cannot control what I eat and I am just going off control and not exercising and not having the motivation to do either. I feel like I am on square one again. I don't know what to do 
I don't know how to start again. I am 140 and overweight the doctor said I need to be 115-125 in order to be healthy according to my height and age. I need help 
I don't know how to start again. I am 140 and overweight the doctor said I need to be 115-125 in order to be healthy according to my height and age. I need help 0
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Just... start now.
Look, tomorrow is going to come no matter what you do. So you can either make wiser, healthier decisions or you can throw in the towel and live with great regret everyday.0 -
We can all encourage you to get back on track, not give up, etc. But, at the end of the day? It is totally and completely up to YOU to do it. YOU have to want it. YOU have to take the necessary steps to get back on track. YOU have to realize that you're worth it.
Good Luck to you! You CAN do it - but you have to REALLY want it!0 -
You do know how to start again - do what you did to lose 4 pounds.
What height are you - 115 seems very little to be healthy?0 -
Hmmm I seem to be out of give a crap lately too. I don't want to think about counting calories or exercise. You can preplan your day and meals. That helps with the not wanting to give it much thought. Stick to healthy stuff you know instead of finding new stuff right now. Look for new recipes and exercises when you feel motivated again. Don't eat a bunch of crap because you'll just feel worse.0
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It's ok, don't give up, just start over as many times as you need to. Don't be hard on yourself, forgive yourself. Try to find things that can motivate you or different ways of doing things that can help you stay on track. It's definitely a learning and growing process and discovering about yourself and how your body works. You can do it!0
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i hope for you when you wake up in the morning you will put your desire to be free of guilt and regret into action. i hope you choose wisely your food choices and have a clear path to exercise. Success breeds success.0
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Just... start now.
Look, tomorrow is going to come no matter what you do. So you can either make wiser, healthier decisions or you can throw in the towel and live with great regret everyday.
Wise words0 -
Monday. :flowerforyou:0
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One thing i will say is that doctors don't know what theyre talking about. When i was 9st 7lbs (think thats 133lbs), i looked very slim. Infact my mum thought i looked too slim and so did a couple of others, well the doctor told me i was borderline over weight. Now to me, i felt good at that weight and to say that to someone who is alright with their weight can cause a lot of damage, i've read about it leading to Eating Disorders and Anorexia all because of that little comment from a doctor. I know what im saying is a little off topic but i just think doctors should be careful especially when some of these people are well in proportion for their height.0
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If it makes you feel any better, I used to have bad days all the time when I started. But it gets easier the more you do it. It becomes second nature. If you have a bad day, just start fresh the next day. Soon you'll have more good days than bad days.0
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I'm right where you are! Since Wednesday, I have eaten everything in sight and not exercised at all. I'm going back to proper diet and exercise on Monday. I'm giving myself one more day of irresponsibly, then I'm strictly sticking to my 1200 calories + 1 hour of cardio a day.
However, I think you should know that the BMI is not always right. You don't seem to be unhappy with your body (from what this post sounds like) so I wouldn't stress to hit a magic number on the scale.0 -
Every day is a new chance to do the right thing. Set a goal and then add a new goal every day. It doesn't have to be a big goal… for me it's much better to make intermediate "reachable" goals. Maybe it's not to eat "perfectly". It can be to not eat any fried foods (or whatever "bad" food you have an issue with). Then, set a goal to exercise for 10 minutes. If you're in that big of a rut, sometimes the only way out is baby steps. Some people can go "cold turkey", some can't. Neither way is wrong. The right way is which one works for you!
Good luck. :flowerforyou:0 -
I hear ya- I will share w/ you what helped/helps me-
Log your eating- even binges- as best you can- it doesn't matter if you're the only one who sees it (although having supportive friends who won't throw stones is a HUGE asset!)
....it's helpful to really SEE the *damage* and take a look at it....sometimes you can still exercise *some*, sometimes all/most, of it
BACK OFF...which is a very victorious feeling....
but, if not, it keeps you honest with yourself.
And YES, each day is a new start.........
I *used* to binge for several days in a row, figuring I'd "already blown it....might as well just keep goin........."
Logging it- for reasons I can't fully explain myself.......has kept me from staying in that vicious mental trap....
and I learned quickly that I could start FRESH the next day.
Best Wishes to you........YOU CAN DO THIS!0 -
They can because they think they can.0
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Can't see your food and exercise diary so have no idea whether what you were doing was unsustainable in the long term, or whether your goal is reasonable for your age / gender / height.
If you open your food diary and profile you'll stand a far better chance of getting useful replies.0 -
When this happens they, it's occasionally because there is a deeper need we are not addressing. Our bodies can take on a life of their own and rebel against us. It's not always about will power and sometimes it's just simply being honest with ourselves and being willing to look at the situation and what is really going on in the moment. If you have to have something it's not about avoiding it its about providing in a different way. Somethings are good to avoid like smoking but that is a whole other story. We tend to forget what a gift our bodies are. Find some motivation. Seek it out and give yourself small attainable goals. Find a buddy to help keep you accountable, they are out there. That is one thing about us humans, we like to fix things so someone is out there who will come along on your journey with you. Oh and blogging your struggles would not only help you but bless someone else and if you typed your thoughts out it would give you a moment to process why your eating and by the time you finished the hunger may have passed. Be blessed and I hope you find your journey prosperous into abundant living.I started mfp three weeks ago and I was doing great controlling what I ate and exercising on a regular basis. I lost four pounds. Ever since this past Wednesday I cannot control what I eat and I am just going off control and not exercising and not having the motivation to do either. I feel like I am on square one again. I don't know what to do I don't know how to start again. I am 140 and overweight the doctor said I need to be 115-125 in order to be healthy according to my height and age. I need help 0 -
.... your walking up a set of stairs.......
unfortunately you've stumbled and stepped back a step....
what do you do now.???.. go back to the bottom of the stairs and start again...??
or........ do you keep going from where you are, and keep steping forward...???
see your not starting again, you just gotta keep going.... xox0 -
Oh I forgot, arming yourself and setting boundaries helps! I have logged a week out before and it kept me on track. It gave me the ability not only to stick to it but also wiggle room to add in the extras, like deserts. It was earning my reward. It comes down to basic budgeting. You stick to your budget so you can not financially implode. You skip buying that extra pair of shoes that were just too cute even though they were a super good deal so you can have food otherwise you go hungry cause you don't have the money to eat. You have a goal of not necessarily losing weight but getting healthy, and weight loss is a side effect of that.0
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Your wisdom is showing. That is great advice!.... your walking up a set of stairs.......
unfortunately you've stumbled and stepped back a step....
what do you do now.???.. go back to the bottom of the stairs and start again...??
or........ do you keep going from where you are, and keep steping forward...???
see your not starting again, you just gotta keep going.... xox0 -
I know how you feel. You care enough to worry and seek support, that's the good news. Look at it this way, if you had one flat tire on your car would you go run over nails and get 3 more flat tires ? Nope! You just patch the one up and keep on moving forward.0
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Okay, just know holidays are hard for all of us but we encourage each other to stay focused. Why not go in the groups section and find a group you have something in common with and also a challenge. There are many in the group sections. It will hold you accountable and be fun to do with other people.
Write down a list of why YOU want to be healthy and loss wt despite doctor. Commend self for 4 lbs because hey you know you can do it and YES DO IT AGAIN!!!!!!! If there are tempting foods freeze them or take to work and share. Keep plenty of fruits and veggies around. Do try and exercise in increments...10 minutes. You will do fine don't give up.0 -
I know how you feel. You care enough to worry and seek support, that's the good news. Look at it this way, if you had one flat tire on your car would you go run over nails and get 3 more flat tires ? Nope! You just patch the one up and keep on moving forward.
I LOVE THAT. Totally gonna use that, too. I tend to be an "all or nothing" person when I eat something I shouldn't. Asking myself why I'd choose to immobilize myself when I can get back on the road will definitely help!0 -
That's an excellent simile, which I intend to shamelessly steal. :bigsmile:Look at it this way, if you had one flat tire on your car would you go run over nails and get 3 more flat tires ?0 -
At 140, you are certainly not fat fat. I'm confident that you are healthier than you feel. I believe it's a matter of some basic lifestyle changes that will naturally bring you down to a weight that is right for you. 3 weeks is a learning phase, it takes time to build up stronger eating habits and finding the activities that you enjoy and stick with. Make label reading automatic. Learn new recipes, how to tweak your favorites, substituting an ingredient for another, not salting something, etc It doesn't have to be huge, you want these to become a part of you.
It's the Holidays and there's tons of food, that's understandable, but healthy choices can be worth binging on also. Each minute is a chance to change your mind and make a better healthier choice, even the slightest change is in the right direction. It all adds up, so I don't believe in "I've already ruined today, I'm going to finish this stuffing up now" but rather " I had some stuffing, it was awesome, more will taste the same so I had enough" Each bite is a chance to stop putting more fat and empty calories into your body. Each minute is the first minute to the rest of your life. Not tomorrow, but right now. What happened is done, but looking at your weight loss as a long term life-bettering opportunity. Each bad bite you don't take is a victory in willpower and health. Truly. You deserve to be happy with yourself. You will just know when your body is where it should be. Don't think of this as a punishment, rather you are rewarding yourself and treating yourself with the best. A happier, fun and energetic life.
Right now you can do something as simple as check your posture, chin up and smile.0 -
I started mfp three weeks ago and I was doing great controlling what I ate and exercising on a regular basis. I lost four pounds. Ever since this past Wednesday I cannot control what I eat and I am just going off control and not exercising and not having the motivation to do either. I feel like I am on square one again. I don't know what to do I don't know how to start again. I am 140 and overweight the doctor said I need to be 115-125 in order to be healthy according to my height and age. I need help
Where should you start? Kicking what the doctor told you out of your head. I'm 5ft1" tall and pass 140 pounds. Because of my height, my doctor told me that I need to get down to 101 pounds. I've told my doctor that I wasn't doing that. I may be 5ft1" tall, but a healthy weight for me is not 101 pounds. The smallest I was before gaining weight was 125 pounds and I don't even want to get down to that weight.
If I can suggest something to you, I would suggest you start tracking your body fat percentage. Scale weight loss and fat loss aren't the same thing. Your scale weight is broken down into two categories: Pounds of fat and Pounds of lean body mass.
This is the formula to use to see how much of your scale weight is from fat and how much is from lean body mass.
Weight x Body fat percentage = Pounds of fat
Weight - Pounds of fat = Pounds of lean body mass
If you decide to start tracking your body fat percentage and after you get your number, I can help you see what will be a healthy body fat percentage number and scale weight for you.
I have a body fat percentage goal that I'm aiming for and it will take me a year or so to get there. When I get there, my doctor will still see me as being overweight and I don't care. Why? Because, I will be healthy. Fat loss = healthy. Scale weight loss doesn't equal healthy.0 -
I am 5' 1/2" ( ha! that .5 inch MATTERS!)....
I am currently @ 120 lbs....and for my height, I'm *supposed* to be in the 110-115 range.
I've been there before ( in HS- and back then I STILL considered myself "chubby")
so I am NOT focusing on the scale number as much as a healthy BMI/Body Fat percentage....
and I played around with the "maintenance" mode on the GOALS here on MFP
to see how many calories I'd need to maintain @ various weights of 110, 115, 120, 125, etc...
and decided I wanted to *try* staying in the low 120's for right now- and see how to maintain it.
I've reached my final goal weight- just to say I did it, but the maintenance mode is how to live it out
when you reach it-
and
I asked my doctor about it- where I should be? She said my thinkin' was the healtiest, wisest choice-
not going by "feelings" ( as I said before, I *felt" chubby @ 110 YEARS ago- so the scale is subjective)
but rather by the BMI/Body Fat as well as the scale- and blood work as well....THOSE are the best indicators of
where your final goal weight should be.......0 -
I am 5'00
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Poppycock. I am 4' 10 and if the OP is as short as me, she's bordering on clinically obese. If she's 6' 4" she's underweight.At 140, you are certainly not fat fat.
As I said before, without knowing anything about the OP, it's impossible for anyone to make helpful suggestions.
EDITED TO ADD: Just spotted this
Okay, well you are overweight, and at the risk of upsetting everyone by using the dreaded f word, you're fat. Not hugely fat though, so you won't have much to do to get down to a healthy weight and you've already made a great start.I am 5'0
The fantastic news is that unlike all the taller people, if us shorties lose even 5lb it makes a HUGE difference to the way we look and to our health. If I were you I'd forget the lower amount and set a goal of 125lb and see how you feel when you get down to that. After all, it's your health that counts, anything under 125lb is just vanity. Which has its place, but health comes first.
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Thanks. I don't remember where I heard it, but I shamelessly stole it from them too!
That's an excellent simile, which I intend to shamelessly steal. :bigsmile:Look at it this way, if you had one flat tire on your car would you go run over nails and get 3 more flat tires ?0
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