Motivation is hard to keep in touch with...

naturegirl84

I am finding myself comparing my goals, weight loss and even food logs to success stories and thinking why bother. When friends attempt to motivate me, it does the opposite. What on earth is going on?!

jillcwhite

Sounds like depression to me.

gazz777

Sounds like me.... I am really watching others at times. Sometimes I feel jealous.

You know what ? Sometimes I realise they have been at it a LOT longer that me.

Sometimes I figure it is hard for me to do this. Yes, IT IS.

But you know what ? I did it. I have lost 30kg (66lb) from March 2011 to now.

I still get the blues .... really, but it has come down to a low self-esteem and a self-image issue.

I think of others that overcome and have no problems with their image. Google 'nick vujicic' - one of my inspirations.

I AM handsome and YOU are Beautiful - already ! Accept that.

Now, get up, dust off and move forward. You CAN do this !

Gazz

BeanyFrog13

I think motivation only works if the weight loss and changes are something that you *really* feel ready and able to do.
Comparing yourself to others also only works if it's something that you're aspiring to, rather than thinking "well, I'll never be able to do/look/complete a plan like they are" and knocking yourself down.

Work out realistic achievable goals for *you*, things that you feel ready to do and things that are going to be sustainable for you. Also, one person's success isn't necessarily going to be yours, yours will be unique to you and the life that you live!

Don't give up, just find your own rhythm and things will work out and happen for you, then *you* can be putting up *your* successes and *your* ways of doing things for others to be inspired by!

babybellyfat

If you need motivation im here! I need more too!!! add me.

SarahLiz24

I am the exact same way. I compare everything I do with everyone else and find myself being like an elementary school kid thinking, "I want to be just like them!" And when other people try to to motivate me - forget it. Their motivation has the exact opposite effect on me and I want to eat MORE and workout LESS. But I feel like there are ways around this, which I'm still learning, but I'm getting better.

First, because of my personality type, when I started to watch what I eat and everything I went against all popular opinion and told NO ONE about it. That way, no one was there to attempt to motivate me.

To motivate myself and keep it "all about me" I keep a journal - not like the food journal, but a real journal that I write in every day. That way I can get all my frustrations out, or congratulate myself for the good things I've done. But I make sure I write in it every single day before I go to bed, even if its just something little like, "I had a great day today!" or "I'm really tired."

This has been working for me pretty well for the past couple months. In fact, just the other day, one of my close friends asked me if I had lost weight since she had no idea I was even trying. And I could said, "Yes I did!" That's the best motivation to me.

Hope these ideas help! And if you need any extra help, feel free to add me!

deadmittens

Sounds like depression to me.

To me, too. Weight loss can be incredibly difficult and get you down more than it gets you up because your body is changing. Think of it as a second puberty! :noway:

If you continue to feel this way consider talking to someone about it.