Hostile reply posts?

Nataleenerlou

Ive found just reading a lot of various posts that so many of the replies and responses can be really hostile and flat out rude!? Almost like there are people on here simply looking for an argument. Of course in comparison to the encouraging responses the negative ones are low, but I was really suprised to see how many people seem content to attack another persons input.

Does anybody else notice this?

jamesyounce

I haven't really gotten on this message board yet, but it happens in every discussion group I've ever been a part of. It's like natural for it to happen? I don't know why.

rochey1098

Yep but you see a similar profile picture in the hostile replies so I'm starting to build up a mental image of who to ignore lol

newarkco05

I've posted a topic like this before and I got even more rude responses, such as I should know I'm going to get rude responses before posting a question.

koosdel

I've noticed an excessive of whiney posts lately. It's really a shame so many take the internet serious.

8BaughDad

Its to bad that it happens, with so much positive going on here. What can you do?

youcandoitjess

Yup. That's why I choose to only reply to comments in a general way. Voicing opinions only really gets you trouble, unfortunately.

tikshapatel

Really disappointed to hear that! Personally, I haven't seen anything like that but it's sad to hear there are people in this community who are like that... Good thing it's a minority though!

DixiedoesMFP

When I read those, I think: Man, they really need a cookie . Apparently getting fit and fabulous makes some people cranky.

raige123

I've noticed. I've been attacked! I made a comment once about the potato being the devil of foods because it messes your insulin levels for days, and people jumped all over me.

tracy287

Yah I've noticed that too jeez we are all here to lose weight and become healthier people those people should just go to a debate class or something if they want an argument lol!

youcandoitjess

Yep but you see a similar profile picture in the hostile replies so I'm starting to build up a mental image of who to ignore lol

^^^

Puffins1958

If someone wants an opinion, I'm going to say it. That's just the way it goes......


Created by MyFitnessPal.com - Free Calorie Counter

i_love_vinegar

If someone wants an opinion, I'm going to say it. That's just the way it goes......

In my experience a lot of people dont ask for opinions -- they simply get attacked. Not to mention, there are polite ways of phrasing things, which will get ones point across just as clearly as being hostile and rude.

wrevhn

Yup. That's why I choose to only reply to comments in a general way. Voicing opinions only really gets you trouble, unfortunately.

I totally understand what you mean, but I don't believe you should ever be afraid to voice your opinion dear. be who you are and be proud. there are ppl who died to be who they were you know? and if i am to be fair, i suppose the *kitten* holes are "being who they are" as well. we just have to see past it i guess. i figure they are unhappy or empty on the inside. broken. (or plain immature, but still...we should see past it)

i'm not much for quoting the bible, but i think there is a "turn the other cheek" line in there somewhere.

tlilly80

It's easy to be rude online when you don't have to look someone in the eye. Likewise...it takes integrity to be polite when you really don't have to be Take the good with the bad and don't let it get you down!

Nataleenerlou

Yeah I made a comment about carbon biproducts and pop once and I had two people basically call me retarded. You almost wanna give em a banana and tell em to quit with the **** slinging

Amayrial

During the holidays people become very unhappy with their own lives to the extent they can't be nice to anyone. Its a shame and sad..

and then, some people just are not happy in their own lives. ever.

ahinescapron

Yeah, I have noticed this too. I really hate it when people attack someone for asking a question. No matter how stupid people think the question is, I don't see any reason to get so snarky and belittling about it. I think some people will say things online that they would never say in person, because they don't have to see the consequences of what they say and how they hurt people's feelings. I try really hard to be encouraging and remember that there is a person on the other end of the post.

40Rennie

I honestly don't read the negative stuff, its not worth reading. Its actually sad for people to come to this site with negativity because being apart of the overweight population in society, that negativity goes without saying but here where we're all trying to lose weight, maintain our weight or just get our body healthier why would we want to break each other down, if we don't feel that sense of belonging anywhere else we should feel it here. Bottom line don't let anyone else steal your joy. Have a bless evening.

lauristewart

Yeah....I am pro spenda/artificial sweetener and when I post on this type of stuff, the anti-artificical sweetener people jump all over me! So now I preface my posts by saying this is only for people who intake artificial sweeteners and I don't want hear anything negative! LOL! That usually keeps them away!

Tennessee2019

I have noticed that to.
Some people on here think it is their right to speak their minds & forget that this site is to encourage each other on our weight loss journey.
Most comments are encouraging, but some are downright rude.

wrevhn

When I read those, I think: Man, they really need a cookie .

luvs this

Derameth

If someone wants an opinion, I'm going to say it. That's just the way it goes......


Created by MyFitnessPal.com - Free Calorie Counter

I agree that if someone asks for an opinion, I also will be giving one, however, opinions are like *kitten*...everybody has one. So if you don't want your feelings hurt, 1. Ignore the moronic replies, 2. If the reply is rude, consider the source and think how miserable that persons life must be and they are just taking it out on you and 3. Don't ask for opinions that might be very different from what you are looking for.

As for giving an opinion and that's the way it goes, sometimes one has to use some diplomacy, if someone chooses to deliberately be rude and hurt someone's feelings...shame on them...Nuff said BUT if someone wants to argue with me about this, or give a rude reply.....*opens the door* Come on in....I'll take you on, I am not afraid of your miserably rude commentary...*lol*

hbrittingham

It's easy to be rude online when you don't have to look someone in the eye. Likewise...it takes integrity to be polite when you really don't have to be Take the good with the bad and don't let it get you down!

Well put! And very true.

fteale

While absolutely I agree there are rude people on this site, I have noticed on the internet in general compared to in RL, people seem very liable to read things the wrong way, and take offence where none is intended. I have been told I am being rude or nary several times when I haven't at all, so much depends on the way the person reading chooses to interpret.

cramernh

There are those said-replies where you can definitely tell through the chosen word-usage, who is just plain nasty...

I find for the majority though, its easy for people to automatically ASSUME someone is being nasty, when clearly there was nothing posted nastily to begin with - when in fact, it was probably the most civil collection of replies I had ever seen. I would love it if we had the ability to have an AUDIO-REPLY option - so you could actually HEAR the person's reply so you can hear with your own ears, their message... hearing it, and seeing it can be construed so differently!

This happens ALOT on the threads where the OP will post "Why cant I lose weight? I exercise, I eat the right kinds of foods, I drink plenty of fluids", etc... and then when you actually see their food logs, you find nothing but junk food, fast food, and the types of foods that are definitely the problem causing the no-weight-loss... you try to bring that up in a non-threatening way and suggest they consider eating foods that are fresher, perhaps cooking your meals instead of relying on high-sodium, fatty fast food options... then the OP goes hay-wire...bad....fast...

cramernh

While absolutely I agree there are rude people on this site, I have noticed on the internet in general compared to in RL, people seem very liable to read things the wrong way, and take offence where none is intended. I have been told I am being rude or nary several times when I haven't at all, so much depends on the way the person reading chooses to interpret.

BINGO!~

Puffins1958

If someone wants an opinion, I'm going to say it. That's just the way it goes......

In my experience a lot of people dont ask for opinions -- they simply get attacked. Not to mention, there are polite ways of phrasing things, which will get ones point across just as clearly as being hostile and rude.

I agree, BUT, I'm not rude. Some people just appear hostile....

Giraffe33991

Some people get off on being rude and snarky.

Don't forget you can always click on the little arrow under their name/profile pic and select "ignore user"!

UpEarly

I think because people have such strong and widely differing opinions about what brings about effective weight loss and health improvement, tempers are likely to flare when people don't agree. Weight loss and health are pretty personal topics and personal topics tend to breed defensiveness!