Skinny people who don't want you to lose weight

Riara11

Hey all,

I'm finally getting to the point where I feel that I can control my own cravings. This is a big deal as I don't think I've ever exercised self control before - I pretty much have always eaten what I wanted (which is why I now find myself trying to lose weight!).Anyway, just as I'm finding that I can trust myself to consistently say 'no' to junk food and unhealthy food generally, I'm finding myself under pressure from people much skinnier than me - be they colleagues or even friends - to eat stuff that doesn't fit into my new healthy diet.

Just to give you an example, I was having lunch with some colleagues and one of them brought a chocolate torte cake for everyone to share. Now, while I accept that this was a lovely thought, I wasn't really willing to sacrifice my hard work for the sake of 'being nice' so I politely declined. At this point, one of my female colleagues (who is about 5'3 and no more than 120 Lbs) looked at me in horror saying 'Why not? it's delicious!' I declined again saying 'no thanks, I'm trying to eat healthy'. For some reason this STILL wasn't enough for her and a few minutes later she piped up again telling me I just HAD to have some.

Now this is a scene I've experienced on a weekly basis since deciding to lose weight. I tell people I am trying to lose weight and that I'm eating healthy; they see me eating salads and soups for lunch, and they hear me talking about my punishing personal training sessions but sure as clockwork when I start saying 'no' to cakes, crisps, chocolate, greasy takeaways and junk they go out of their way to persuade me to eat them. Usually, these people are SKINNY so I'm beginning to suspect they'd rather I stayed a fatty!

Is it sabotage? Has anybody else experienced this?

Gabriall

people have sooo many conflicting opinions and they are almost always completely set in stone, you do what you need to do dont mind the "feeders", my brother works in an office where they get pizza donughts all sorts of things almost every day, he just comes home tells me about them and how he said no and managed to resist and then i help him update his profile.

bugger has lost more weight than me good for him

CouchSpud

No - in all fairness - I think it is how they perceive you. They are happy with you and they get one with you and they do not think you need to change. I get that often from people ^^
The whole office knows that I am trying to be more healthy - today they brought in donughts and tried to make me eat one - when I didn;t I heard a lot of comments like - this isn't like you. Are you okay? Criticising that I only had soup for lunch etc pp. But I know they are not being mean or ****ty, they are just struggling to come to terms with the fact that all of a sudden something has changed ^^ - lot's of people do and they can't quite cope with it.
Eating also is kinda a social thing - in the office wel all grab comfort food, as there is a higher level of stress at the moment. So it is even more strange, for the one who was eating everything, to suddenly decline and say no. ^^
Well that's my opinion anyway - I just don;t think there are many people that would want you being unhealthy

Riara11

"feeders" is the right word! I just never realised that I'd have to contend with pressure from my own cravings AND pressure from other people!

Jeff92se

Alot of skinny people don't have to watch their diet at all. Sucks but they think everyone can eat anything and nothing bad will happen.

kit548emt

UGH!! I hate that!! It's so frustrating... It's like...I just spent 5 minutes talking my self back and fourth between whether or not I should and then finally settled on no and now you're trying to get me to eat it!! SERIOUSLY??? I get those a lot, and after the first time they say something I usually try and relocate myself so I don't have to deal with it. It's so irritating!!

Gabriall

please don't stress about this, remember your not doing this for them your doing it for you. Saying no the first time is the hardest, it gets a lot easier as you go, and the more that your colleagues get used to it, the more they will look to their own health and fitness, and eventually what happens is they will start asking you about how they can improve their own diets/health.

"Change is hard because people overestimate the value of what they have—and underestimate the value of what they may gain by giving that up."
— James Belasco and Ralph Stayer

kit548emt

That is so true!!

Figuringoutme

People do that to me all the time!! It drives me nuts. At work I was in the break room offered me a cookie and I said no thank you. He wouldn't quit bugging me about eating! I'm trying to be healthy so no, I don't want that cookie!!!!!!!!

We just have to ignore them, hopefully they will get the idea that we are serious about this

maceycarey

my weight loss dr acually told me that this would happen as soon as i started dieting that everyone would try to sabotage me so maybe is true ... i just happend to have the rest of my family wanting to lose weight at the same time as me lol so maybe i already was prepared for it since she said that... good luck and your doing awesome by sticking to your guns!

josery1630

I just started this four days ago, and I was eating my turkey wrap when two of my co-workers walked in with a big bag of McDonald's. They sat down and said, "Look at you, eating all healty" in that really snotty tone. I said, "Yep, and I'm working my butt off and making sure I eat healthy." They left me alone after that, but I know how you feel. It sucks to have to defend yourself to people who should be encouraging you.

I think it's jealousy that you have control over something they don't.