Friends with benefits

katherines2230

How long do you think you could have a FWB relationship before developing feelings for that person? I'm particularly interested in the men's responses because I know in the past for me, it was usually pretty quick..like a month or two. Is it longer for men?

HarlCarl

What are these feeling you speak of, I'm confused. :noway:

rhiannon1621

Some I fall for straight away, others I never do... so I guess if I haven't in the first month I never will haha I think it depends heaps on how they treat me so differs from person to person.

katherines2230

:laugh: feelings that you want more than just sex.

voluptas63

I used to have a slew. Then I messed up and fell in love with one after nearly 6 months. But I've had FWB for years. It's important that both of you have the understanding that it's just sex and nothing else. Ground rules are important. Some of mine were: No cuddling, no discussing personal things IE what went on in our day, how our extended families are etc., no dating activities (going to dinner/movies/concerts).

Just helped me to keep things in perspective. But then again, I was far more interested in getting laid than getting a boyfriend. Be safe!

rochey1098

To be totally honest, if i was going to develop feelings then it would have been pretty fast. If it's already at the FWB stage then probably never. That's just me though, not all guys are the same I guess

riley711

It is much longer for men. Most of the time they will move on to the next one if they start to develop feelings, or even so they won't develop feelings. Friends with benefits is not really all that beneficial, particularly for women.

DakotaKeogh

This will cost me my man card, but I can't go there if I don't have feelings in the first place.

annabellj

What are these feeling you speak of, I'm confused. :noway:

omg so cracking me up right now!!!!!!!!! i just had to ck out this post even though been married for 20 yrs! all the guys I dated had feelings fortunately!

katherines2230

I used to have a slew. Then I messed up and fell in love with one after nearly 6 months. But I've had FWB for years. It's important that both of you have the understanding that it's just sex and nothing else. Ground rules are important. Some of mine were: No cuddling, no discussing personal things IE what went on in our day, how our extended families are etc., no dating activities (going to dinner/movies/concerts).

Just helped me to keep things in perspective. But then again, I was far more interested in getting laid than getting a boyfriend. Be safe!

Wow...we violated all those rules within the first week :ohwell:

mrmarius

It is much longer for men. Most of the time they will move on to the next one if they start to develop feelings, or even so they won't develop feelings. Friends with benefits is not really all that beneficial, particularly for women.

true. back in the day i always had friends with benefits and after a few weeks they would develop feelings and i would be like "eh"... If it was a girl i already had feelings for it would be different but if i only saw her as a friend from the jump the feelings never came

kenzietea

I have never tried a fwb type of relationship. Women release the same chemical during sex as they do when they breast feed, forming and instant bond towards their partner. I am not saying it is impossible for women to not have friends with benefits, but I know it is impossible for me. I've never had sex before monogamy~ but if someone is capable I say go for it so long as both parties know the relationship is very casual from the get go.

InvictusPheonix

i can't do fwb... i'm too much of a romantic

Going4Lean

I've never had one

MercenaryNoetic26

To be totally honest, if i was going to develop feelings then it would have been pretty fast. If it's already at the FWB stage then probably never. That's just me though, not all guys are the same I guess

I was waiting for a guy to say this... because I was going to say it from a female perspective and you did not want that. Never expect a "FWB" to want a commitment from you. There's exceptions, but extremely RARE ones.

SergeantSunshine_reused

Not a fan of FWB at all really. Maybe I am lame, but I don't have sex with someone unless the feelings are there and I am already in the relationship.

I would just end up getting hurt

rochey1098

Women release the same chemical during sex as they do when they breast feed, forming and instant bond towards their partner.

Am I the only man in the forum disturbed by this fact? lol

kenzietea

This will cost me my man card, but I can't go there if I don't have feelings in the first place.

From a woman's perspective, you gained an extra man card for this one.. and respect, admiration, and a whole bunch of other things

voluptas63

Women release the same chemical during sex as they do when they breast feed, forming and instant bond towards their partner.

Am I the only man in the forum disturbed by this fact? lol

As a woman, I'm disturbed.

kenzietea

I have never tried a fwb type of relationship. Women release the same chemical during sex as they do when they breast feed, forming and instant bond towards their partner.

Am I the only man in the forum disturbed by this fact? lol

Lol, it just forms a loving bond, not a sexual bond with either a baby or a partner, lol. I can send you an article that might explain it better so you feel less creeped out

deadstarsunburn

This will cost me my man card, but I can't go there if I don't have feelings in the first place.

There's nothing wrong with that at all, I think that's great.
I've not had sex and am waiting until marriage. However if I hadn't chosen that path I'm so easily jealous and emotional I don't think I could have a fwb and NOT get attached with in a couple weeks.

skierxjes

I had a friend with bennies for 10 months. Best sex of my life and no one has come close to topping it yet. I don't know if I developed feelings for HIM or for what he could DO. He was kind of a burn out, but I still wonder (3 months since he moved) if I liked him and if things would have been like it he was still here. All my friends that knew about our "relationship" said he certainly had feelings for me by the way he treated me. It was sketchy...

pph79

I never had a FWB relationship honestly. Would I? Who knows. I fall pretty quickly. Hopeless romantic Scorpio syndrome.

Carl01

No idea as I don`t have one but if any ladies want to help me research this question please PM me.

HarlCarl

My wife took my man card away...24 years (+ one week) ago!!!! :laugh:

InvictusPheonix

man- some of the men on this board are sweeties! extra man cards and endless affection from the more feelings/bonding/relationship oriented ladies
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ok some aren't- but points for honesty!

katherines2230

It's really weird. We haven't discussed what this is or isn't but a relationship is the last thing I want at this point, although I COULD see it turning into something eventually. I've had FWB before and it really was just sex. No cuddling, leaving immediately, no chit chat about your day or personal life. And this is all of the above and I'm dying to spill the beans....it's with my PT and the best sex I've ever had in my life. I'm not sure how to keep things from getting more complicated than they already might be?

servilia

Never done it so I can't tell you. I think it's easier for women to fall in love in a FWB scenario though so we're more likely to be burned.

stayxtrue

I always saw Sex as something that was to be spent with the one person once being married. I havent always lived this way and regret every moment of it! But from here on in Sex is something I will be saving untill I am married.

deadstarsunburn

I always saw Sex as something that was to be spent with the one person once being married. I havent always lived this way and regret every moment of it! But from here on in Sex is something I will be saving untill I am married.

=] that's so cute

misskerouac

I have a best friend with benefits... My husband.