Scary but necessary

kimmerkay

This is a scary proposition, but I'm attemping to lose weight again. The last 19 years have seen more failure than success, but I need to turn this around. As I watched the biggest loser last night, my 19 year old was complaining about putting on some weight. On a regular basis we look at each other and say, We need to do this! and we may last a day before we get excited about going out to eat at a restaurant or decide this or that food sounds good. Then all good intentions go our the window... WELL, last night when my daughter was complaining about needing to lose weight, she said, she don't want to end up like me... I totally understood where she was coming from, but it ripped my heart out... I'm hoping, enough, to get in gear. I believe everything happens for a reason and I think me taking a look at myself from my daughters eyes may have done the trick. So, I'm here to take a stand and lose the 100+ pounds that need to be lost. Any help and support or similar stories out there would help... Thanks! Kim

kira000

The longest journey starts with a single step. I don't know any magic tricks to make weight loss easy, but I would be glad to lend support and encouragement.

katdouce

Good for you Kim!!! MFP is full of people in the same boat who are looking for support and ready to give support!!!! including me...good luck and add me if you want

WalkingZero1

Good luck on your weight loss journey!

FunkyGranolaTree

Kim, you should be very proud of taking the first step!! That is the hardest part. Keep your willpower about you. I also have to lose 100 pounds. Feel free to friend me. Also.. I saw this yesterday and it really hit me... keep this in mind:

A year from now you will wish you had started today!!!

GOOD LUCK!!

seesusanwrite

It is often through our children's eyes that we see who we really are. Since you have watched Biggest Losers you know that the weight can be lost. It won't be fast, it won't be easy. You will have ups and downs. You will fall off the wagon but as long as you get back on that's what counts.

You can do this. The only person in front of your goal is you. YOU CAN DO THIS!

CathiAnne

You've taken that all-important first step by coming to MFP. This is a great place to come to give and receive support and encouragement. You can do this and then your daughter will want to be like you!!!

MoooveOverFluffy

it CAN be done. You should check out the success stories area, if you haven't already. And look at them EVERYDAY. they are so inspiring to me................. good luck to you!!

SimplyDeLish

one step at a time...you can do it! Best advice - eat healthy and make it a lifestyle. Don't deny yourself your favorite foods - just eat them in very small portions!

Here's to your success!

Gabriall

aw hun dont worry sometimes people say things that they never intended to be hurtful they just feel that way to you, she didnt mean it. BELIEVE me i know how that feels and i can symperthise. the other day my mother commented on how people wouldnt employ somebody as large as me, even if they liked me on the telephone. she didnt mean it hurtfully but it did hurt, and i couldnt tell her.

if you want to lose weight and your ready to do so then you will your here which is a great first step and theres loads of loverly people here who can and will be supportive, and importantly understand and symperthise.

ive more than 100lbs to lose again dont panic, its a journey a diet is just what you eat every day not some horrific mountain to climb, and sooner rather than later the changes you gradually make will become a lifestyle choice not a choar.

do it for you, do it because you want too, and dont worry if there are mistakes a long the way, just learn from them and move on. its all good.

tashjs21

Good for you for making the choice to get healthy.

Just remember when you cave in (cause it will happen) not to let that derail all of your efforts. If you go out to a restaraunt and order badly or eat something not so healthy...just make up for it the next meal. Don't let one slip up knock you off track completely. It won't come off in a day so don't let one day wreck you! :flowerforyou:

ansonrinesmith

It took a catalyst like that for me too! Do something to keep that in mind. Maybe put a picture of your daughter on your mirror so you see it every morning and remember why you want to be healthier!

MelissaE27

Good for you.. welcome.. I know how hard it is.. and stay motivated can be hard.. but the friends you make here will make sure you keep on track... feel free to add me

KaylaTie

One of my lovely MFP friends put it best... "A year from now, you will wish you had started today..." I hope it helps you as much as it's helped me!

Vonnie2006

Congratulations! Remember as the Kaiser Permanente commercial reminds, one step forward and two steps back is still ONE STEP FORWARD, so yes, there will be some days when you get off track but if you dust yourself off and not wallow in it, I bet you can make big things happen! We are here for you~

ged630

Good luck! Feel free to add me as a friend. Having a good network of friends on here will help more than you know!

Its_ali_bella

You can do it!! Let me share what has helped me lately: I make my breakfast bigger, dinner's smaller! Eat carbs only early in the day. You can do this!! Weight gain doesn't happen overnight, neither weight loss. But you can lose 100 lbs in one year in a healthy manner!!

TWrecks1968

Everything said the motivational stuff real well, so I will just ditto what they said. I am just floored, though about what your 19 year old daughter said. I mean, at 19, you pretty much have to take responsibility for who you are and what you put into your mouth. That was completely out of line.

suemurphy2010

Finding this site was the best thing that could have happened to me. I've logged in every day, chatted with some lovely people and been kept motivated seeing others walking the walk. I'd convinced myself over the years I didn't eat much and I was just big boned, slow metabolism, no time to cook etc..

Now I eat 4 meals a day, most of my food is cooked from scratch and, with another 84 lbs to go from a starting point of 289.9 since August this year it hopefully shows you it can be done. If you'd like to add a slightly strange Brit then feel free. Best wishes for your journey

brewer000

I totally understand...My sin would walk around calling me flabby arms and belly....Hes 10 but still it hurts sometimes. The real thing is to have a support system that is willing to push you to your limits. And there are many times that I quit...just don't give up!

mbar12

Good quote to remember (wishing you would have started today a year from now). I think that will really help me right now.

Ephena

Welcome to MFP. Best of luck with your journey, feel free to send me a friend request and I will do my best to offer support and encouragement.

A few things to keep in mind to help you succeed....

1. This isn't a diet, it's a lifestyle change.

2. Forbid yourself nothing, it will make you binge.

3. To make this lifestyle stick you have to admit and accept your weaknesses. Then work on overcoming them.

4. Calorie counting isn't always easy but MFP does a great job at helping and you can learn how so much about what you eat and how you feel afterward. What keeps you full the longest (lean protein and fiber), what won't stay with you and will make you have junk cravings (processed sugars, starches).

5. Plan to allow for some special treats not as a reward for doing good but as a small indulgence. Many people on here work to plan out these indulgences to make as much room in their calorie allowance as possible so that they don't halt progress.

6. You will fall off the wagon, everybody does. The trick is not the throw in the towel (sorry for all the expressions), but get right back up and stick with it. Don't bail on the rest of your day much less week, just accept the slip and put some extra veggies on your plate at your next meal.

7. Log everything you eat and drink, EVERYTHING!!! Even the bad stuff, otherwise you will never learn how to manage your eating habits.

8. One step at a time. Exercise is a very important part of being healthy but your can't dive into it recklessly or you will injure yourself. Start slow and see what you can do right now, then work your way up in intensity and duration.

9. When you have a question or concern, ask somebody. A doctor, a nutritionist, a personal trainer, or the forum on here.

AMIS456

Good for you for making the choice to get healthy.

Just remember when you cave in (cause it will happen) not to let that derail all of your efforts. If you go out to a restaraunt and order badly or eat something not so healthy...just make up for it the next meal. Don't let one slip up knock you off track completely. It won't come off in a day so don't let one day wreck you! :flowerforyou:

Great quote "It won't come off in a day so don't let one day wreck you!" thank your for that! I am going to write that down where I can see it everyday!

And congrats for getting started! Get your daughter on board by enlisting her help with throwing out the junk, gorcery shopping and meal planning! When she takes ownership in it you will both be more likely to succeed! You two can rely on each other for strength on the days you just aren't feeling it. Best of luck!

grannisue

You will find amazing support here. You can do this and if you dissapear for a couple of days the people you have added as friends will hunt you down and give you encouragement to keep going. I love being able to track my food - the good, the bad and the ugly ~ I always know where I stand on my calories. I don't always make perfect choices but it makes me think twice if I have to write it down. You can choose to keep your diary public or private. My friends see mine. They see I have a weekness for rolos and Fat Boy Ice Cream Sandwiches but that's okay. I feel this is a life style and I can eat right, have some treats and still lose weight. I have learned to check a restaurants website before I go and decide on what I will have and I will usually stick to my plan.

I want to be able to keep up with my grandkids, see them get married and hold my great grandkiddos. I know that will not happen if I return to being like I was a year ago. I am no longer considered pre-diabetic. Hadn't seen my doc in a year and he was shocked and wanted to know what I was doing and he was looking into this website to recommend to his patients.

It's all about what we really want out of life - YOU CAN DO THIS - believe in yourself and take those baby steps to make changes and before you know it you will not recognize yourself in the mirror. Good luck on your journey. Feel free to add me as a friend.

kandrews24

You can do it. Just keep doing it and start out easy. This requires a lifestyle change, not a fad diet.

I spent 3 months just logging what I ate. The next three months, I spent walking around our block, 3x per week. Now, I'm nuts! I try to do it all = log, count calories, eat fruits and veggies, keep protein high, keep sodium low, cardio, strength, core, stretching . . . challenges, lots of water. I'm 10 months in to my fitness frenzy. I'm down 54 lbs. I stayed on track over Thanksgiving!!!

I'm a new person and I've got A LOT MORE TO LOSE. I've been overweight my entire adult life. In the past, all I did was gain. I could not even think of dieting. Now, worst case, I switch to maintance mode, enjoy a few days of higher calories, and then get back in the game. I don't intend to ever gain another pound. And now I know I can do this = not gain anymore, and lose if I chose!

You might start out just logging what you eat. The rest follows. I promise! Then maybe switch your goal to losing half a pound a week. Baby steps leads to great success!

Roni_M

I agree...first step is the most important one! Try not to be too hard on yourself and don't feel the need to make all the changes at once. Baby steps in the right direction is all you need to start! Cut out something, move a little more...keep doing it and before you know it you'll be there

I have 125 to lose...feel free to add me too!

ecalonge

Reading everyone's posts here makes me very glad I joined this site! It's so helpful to have others who are going through the same issues and getting support as well as giving. We can't do it alone and we shouldn't.

Please consider this your "DAY 1" and continue logging, being aware of calories, portions, etc and log on EVERYDAY that you are able to check in, especially when your feeling discouraged. Even if you have an "unhealthy" day - share it. It's amazing what that does for you and what kind of loving, encouraging responses you'll get. And the responses that aren't positive.... screw 'em! LOL

Reaching our goals is inevitable and guaranteed with dedication and a good support system.

Let us help you reach yours!

Lady_Senie

I really wish there was a way to save one's favorite Threads, 'cause, honestly, I would save this one and read it whenever I start to feel that I'm never gonna make it to my 127lbs. I know that 'Rome wasn't built in a day' and all, but sometimes I just wanna do something drastic (and likely stupid) to make it all go away.

Then I come to this site and see folks doing what needs doing to reach their goals. No magic, no fads. There's real struggles here, real battles being fought and won - even lost for the day. But everyone keeps coming back. It's humbling to behold. It's amazing to be part of something so big and good. I'm just glad to be a part of all this. ^_^

Keep up the good work, everyone. We're all gonna make it!