Oy! Some people!

rml_16

Honestly, it's not even about trying to help. If she came to me and asked for help, I would gladly give it. But otherwise, I don't stick my nose in others' business, especially their weight loss. If she is happy with herself, then more power to her. I'm not friends with her because of how she looks or what she eats.

But I've tried to just be her friend as I would with anyone and she's pretty much spit in my face. What she did to S a couple weeks ago was the cherry on top. There's no excuse for her behavior and it says a lot about what kind of person she is, deep down.

When I met her, she was overweight and I wasn't. We managed a friendship that I enjoyed for a long time until she went all wacko on me. I got the impression that she took it personally that I eat right and exercise, like I'm judging her for her lifestyle and size simply by taking control of my own. Her comments to me about feeling sorry for me were not in response to a conversation the two of us had, but in response to a blog post I wrote that had nothing whatsoever to do with her.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

I think you can ignore people on fb, so if you're worried about it impacting your other friendships then just hit the ignore and move on. If you're not, remove and walk away while brushing your hands off, good riddance to bad rubbish.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

I partly don't hide her because -- as awful as this is -- it's kind of entertaining.

The thing is, when I met her, she seemed like this fun, funny, interesting, extremely nice person and she overnight turned into Satan.

Oh, and I almost forgot. A friend of mine, S, works part time in a grocery store and K and her husband were in there a couple weekends ago and went through her line. S was counting some money and didn't look up right away and K didn't realize who she was and I guess got REALLY nasty with S because she didn't look up right away. Soon as K saw who it was, she turned all sugar. I never would have thought she'd behave that way, but I guess my judgment was way off on this one.

But still ... entertainment.

She's either not a good person, or she's an okay person who was having a really bad day.

tam120

Possibly this is her way of "protecting" herself from rejection. She acts crazy to reject you (and others) before you can reject her (not that I'm saying that's what you were doing - I'm talking about in her own head). She feels like she's not worth anyone caring about her so craziness is her shield. It's a matter of her own self worth. Being rude to others can also be a way of protecting onesself, rude people don't make many friends to begin with so no worries about being rejected. I think feeling rejected can sometimes be a much worse feeling than lonely.

justanotherbrickinthewall

I seriously hate people like that. She needs to understand you're trying to help her, not hurt her. She may feel a little insecure since you're so fit but that doesn't give her an excuse to be blatantly rude. I'd drop her even though you have mutual friends. I've been in this situation before and even though you both have mutual friends, it's not awkward or anything, in my opinion.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

Honestly, it's not even about trying to help. If she came to me and asked for help, I would gladly give it. But otherwise, I don't stick my nose in others' business, especially their weight loss. If she is happy with herself, then more power to her. I'm not friends with her because of how she looks or what she eats.

But I've tried to just be her friend as I would with anyone and she's pretty much spit in my face. What she did to S a couple weeks ago was the cherry on top. There's no excuse for her behavior and it says a lot about what kind of person she is, deep down.

When I met her, she was overweight and I wasn't. We managed a friendship that I enjoyed for a long time until she went all wacko on me. I got the impression that she took it personally that I eat right and exercise, like I'm judging her for her lifestyle and size simply by taking control of my own. Her comments to me about feeling sorry for me were not in response to a conversation the two of us had, but in response to a blog post I wrote that had nothing whatsoever to do with her.

I love the response, I smile my biggest **** eaten grin and say "well, I suppose that everyone has a right to their opinion, and you know what they say about opinions right?" and then I wink, literally right in their face (sometimes with the double finger guns and a click), it's so rewarding.

SinIsIn

Dude, I'd remove or hide what you can from FB, or punch a ho. Up to you, really

THIS! or just block her!

lizziebeth1028

I have a very overweight friend I've known for about 10 years who at least 4 or 5 times a year asks me for help as far as diet and exercise and then reject anything I suggest.....which is usually just start walking and cut your portion sizes. It got to the point where she would get a little pissy about it and say she's just going to by some diet pills and try those. I've given up trying to help her, now when she asks for help I change the subject. Some people are just not ready to help themselves, until that time no one can help.

But I totally understand your frustration...she asked you about walking now she's getting all nasty.

And your right, this is not a weight issue per se....it's about being a good friend...and she is NOT being a good friend!

PJilly

This is the kind of situation that reminds me to fall back on the Serenity Prayer. It comes in handy a LOT!

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
Courage to change the things I can
And wisdom to know the difference


I also like this version:

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.

boomboom011

Dude, I'd remove or hide what you can from FB, or punch a ho. Up to you, really

I love this! Almost spewed my drink all over my monitor! Great minds.