My man is going to Afghanistan

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So got the news today that there isnt much of any hope that my man won't be going to afghanistan, he is not military but might as well be. So looks like they ship him out in 3 weeks and he'll be back in July. Its bittersweet, it means when he gets back he will have a better job and well be moving in together and finishing merging out lives, but it also means spending the next 7 months without him.

He has doubts that I will be able to go 7 months without being intimate and that this seperation will end our relationship. I would be lying if I said I dont have similar doubts. But I have decided to try to wait for him to come back and put my focus on improving myself while hes gone.

I got into a car accident 2 months ago and have lost a significant amount of memory so will be trying to re-educate myself because I know this seriously bothers him that I cant carry a conversation like I used to. Dont get me wrong, he rarely criticises me but I have no doubts that he would not object to me being more attractive.

So I wouldl ike to get to my goal weight by the time he gets back, Ive already lost over 50 pounds so another 20-40 really isnt that much. There are also a few other things I would like to improve. I definatly would appreciate any support though right now

Haz89

I have never experience this, so all I can say is...You have come a far way. Just enjoy the next 3 weeks and stay positive, giving up 7 months is okay considering you will have him for a life time. If its meant to be and you and him truly respect and love each other it will work out. Have faith in yourself, him and your love. best of luck.

mochalovies

Hey girl,

I have been there -- plenty of times -- on the deployed end, and on the staying home end. My hunny is actually home visiting on his 2 wk break from a 13mo deployment right now. Add me if you'd like - wont mind sharing.

Deployments are not easy for couples, but if you have the right mind set and the right tools you will be able to get through them successfully. I know it is difficult to see it right now, but time will fly by and he will be home before you know it. You can make this experience and opportunity to make you guys stronger. If he is having those doubts, make sure you stay in contact with him if you can and always remind him that you miss him. Try not to be pessimistic about it, and see the positive (ie you have time to focus on something you never got around to) things like that. Also, if he is working for the service as an employee, then you can find out what support they have for families etc. They usually plan days out and stuff -- you could join some if your honey is attached to a company. Not sure if contractors have stuff like that for their employees. There are also websites you can join.

Best of luck to you! :flowerforyou: