Help me make a decision please? :D

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  • livnlite
    livnlite Posts: 520
    big decision. i only have enough time and money for one. either go visit my Nan and Pop I have not seen in years and miss dearly... or go to the coast with my bestie. oh yes, did i mention going to the coast with my bestie would mean i would have to pay for everything for her..Which would you choose?

    Considering this is an issue, I am assuming your Nan and Pop mean a lot to you but I am confused and a visit to see them would me so much to them AND you .. Soooo, What is the obstacle?

    If it's money .. tell the bestie that she's gotta pay her own way .. and you can't go until she saves enough to do it...Plan for NEXT year THat gives her a whole year to save up. Not too many people I know, would pay the way for their friends to go on a holiday .. That's just very unusual.

    If it's time .. and considering it's already been 'years' since your last visit .. Personally, I would choose family over needy freinds ANYDAY. You never know when the last time you visited your Nan and Pop ... WAS the LAST time.

    Priorities Priorities Priorities. Who do you want to please most .. Your Nan & Pop, your friend or yourself?

    You know .. as an added suggestion ... If you need a holiday .. take your friend with you when you go and visit your family. I'm sure you would still have a blast! It's not "the coast' but it is a holiday.. and if YOU are paying the way or any portion of it ... She should be grateful to have a free trip out of the deal. Beggers can't be choosers! At least THIS option leaves nothing for regret.

    There is always NEXT year for a 'coastal' trip .. There may NOT be a next year for a family visit, because one of them may be missing.
  • Ashleysh22
    Ashleysh22 Posts: 204 Member
    Grandma and grandpa. My grandfather just passed away recently. Your bestie will be around for a lot longer I am su
  • deadstarsunburn
    deadstarsunburn Posts: 1,337 Member
    Family for sure, I wish I had a nan and pops to visit....my grandparents hate me.
    If this is the same bestie that you told me about and you had all those problems with I wouldn't go with her and I sure as heck wouldn't pay for her.

    Good luck and have fun whatever you decide =]
  • snhamilton
    snhamilton Posts: 103 Member
    I feel like you've already made a decision, based on the wording of your post. :D

    Family.
  • wickedcricket
    wickedcricket Posts: 1,246 Member
    as a Nana, this is a no-brainer. You can see your bestie another time- but a visit would mean the WORLD to your grand-parents. And they're old, they don't get that many thrills anymore.

    Christmas & Memorial Day are two Holidays I can't enjoy without my kids & grandkids underfoot.
  • MysticMaiden22
    MysticMaiden22 Posts: 324 Member
    See your Nan and Pop. Family is always top priority. I love mine and you never know when it will be the last time. My grandparents have always been around and the one weekend I chose not to go on a weekend trip to Laughlin with them, my grandfather keeled over and had a heart attack while out there. I watched him die in a Las Vegas hospital 3 days later. Not a day passes that I don't think that I should've been there when he keeled over...either for emotional support or to even save his life (since I know CPR...and the lack of oxygen to his brain is what killed him since the paramedics took 10 minutes to get there).
  • Bunnyfufu87
    Bunnyfufu87 Posts: 39
    Family over friend just because you haven't seen them in a while:flowerforyou:
  • EricNCSU
    EricNCSU Posts: 699 Member
    How is that even a choice for you!? ... Nan and geandpops always. family first. especially if the best mate is a pikey scamming so and so.

    ^^ This. Family much better option than pay the way for a friend to go somewhere. If you and the friend were splitting the trip, that would be different, but your money your choice.
  • JeSuisPrest
    JeSuisPrest Posts: 2,005 Member
    Family first!!

    See if friend wants to go with you.

    Great solution!!!
  • Espressocycle
    Espressocycle Posts: 2,245 Member
    Let's see... elderly family you miss or moochie friend...
  • hhcote
    hhcote Posts: 78 Member
    Family! I see my parents once a year and it sux. If I had $ to go more often, I'd be there monthly!!
  • IxLovexLink
    IxLovexLink Posts: 14
    :) Nan and Pop all the way
  • garlic7girl
    garlic7girl Posts: 2,236 Member
    NAN and POP hands down. If something were tohappen to them you would punish yourself with 'regret'.
  • ariel3561
    ariel3561 Posts: 27 Member
    I'd always choose nan and pop because you don't know how much longer you will have them. Your bestie should be around a long time for you to spend time with. I always regretted not spending more time with my grandmothers before they died.
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    I think the OP answered her own question....

    Family :)
  • ummlovelovesyou
    ummlovelovesyou Posts: 1,024 Member
    Family first!!

    See if friend wants to go with you.

    Yes.
  • runs4zen
    runs4zen Posts: 769 Member
    How is that even a choice for you!? ... Nan and geandpops always. family first. especially if the best mate is a pikey scamming so and so.

    Ditto!
  • CouchSpud
    CouchSpud Posts: 557 Member
    nan and pops
  • brendaswenson
    brendaswenson Posts: 8 Member
    The coast will always be there, I vote Nan and Pop.
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 944 Member
    Nan and Pop. Not because they are "family" but because of age. I have friends who treat me more like family then my real family does. Except for my Grandma - she is #1 to me!!!! She's 94 and recently in a nursing home (actually cooked me dinner the night before she fell and broke her hip)........Even if she wasn't "family" I'd still look up to her. She is amazing and up til now was SO active. She would still work in her yard - couldn't stand weeds!!! Sometimes family can suck. Alot.
  • TRIMoses59
    TRIMoses59 Posts: 86 Member
    I lost my mom almost 12 years ago and all my grandparents are gone. I would give anything to have the chance to see them again.
  • zoe4friends
    zoe4friends Posts: 727 Member
    I would definitely go visit Nan and Pop, spend as much time as possible with the loved ones. I wish I did :-(
  • ChristineMarie89
    ChristineMarie89 Posts: 1,079 Member
    seriously do u really need to ask :P going to see family is much more important than going on vacation with a friend and taking care of them xD
  • JulieSchreier
    JulieSchreier Posts: 44
    Easy Nan & Pop!!
  • Tori_356
    Tori_356 Posts: 510 Member
    go see your family. they may not be around forever and you should cherish every moment.
  • Puffins1958
    Puffins1958 Posts: 614 Member
    I agree with most of what I read, family is so important. I would definately go see them,
    Have a WONDERFUL time!!!!

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  • tattooedtwiin
    tattooedtwiin Posts: 246
    I'd give anything for time with my grandparents. Life is way too short, this is a no brainer.
  • WilliamsPeggy
    WilliamsPeggy Posts: 440 Member
    Nan & Pop get my vote.
  • dsjohndrow
    dsjohndrow Posts: 1,820 Member
    seriously, nan and pop seems like a no brainer.

    I think your bestie needs to pay their own freight.
  • beautifulbrat
    beautifulbrat Posts: 171
    family all the way
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