4 year old playing beer pong?

thatgirl125

Today I was making a snack for my 1 year old son and 4 year old step son when he picked up a ping pong ball and goes, I've played ping pong before. I was like oh really? did you have fun? He says yes I had lots. Of course I was thinking of the typical ping pong... With battles and all... Then he goes I've played with mommy and tyler (his moms bf) and her friends. I just didnt drink the stuff. I just stopped making lunch and was like oh really? you didnt drink any correct? and he said yes. What I do NOT understand is why are they having a 4 year old around while they're all getting drunk? It makes me wonder about their parenting skills and I do not find that right at all. I do not feel they are teaching him morals. Am I wrong for being angry that they are doing those things? Am I just being over protective?
We have joint custody for him and get him 2 full weeks out of every month, yeah of course we like to drink, but we do not do it unless someone is watching the boys or if they're in bed. And we have DEFINITELY never had a bunch of people over drinking and playing drinking games while they're around.
I wish we could just get full custody for him so he did not have to grow up in that sort of an environment. : /

Am I right to be angry?!

mleoni092708

Some people just feel like it's more important to party and have fun then raise kids properly. I'm no expert, but I'm the same as you-would never do those things. Seems like they aren't quite ready to grow up themselves and be good role models. What a shame. There's something called a babysitter-use one :drinker:

thatgirl125

definitely on the same page as you!!! His mom had him at age 17 my husband was actually 15 at the time and his head is on straight and I wonder where her's is, esp. because she JUST had another child with her current bf. Crazy people. : /

Iamfit4life

ugh that's just wrong. You have every right to be angry, and you should probably sit and discuss it with them.
I would talk it out before throwing out phrases like "full custody".


What you need to do is something my siggy and I have discussed. The fact is two weekends out of a month they can have whatever reindeer games they want, but when the kids are up and awake it's really not proper to have drinking games going on.

Especially at that age. Especially with the kids participating.

thatgirl125

yes I know I should not throw out the full custody phrase but when I was saying that because of anger from other issues, we were just told her bf was smacking him at the grocery store (she denies it). And he has had bruises on him and the school as come to us before because of them and was asking about her temperament and even HER (his moms) step mom came to us wanting us to check him whenever we get him.
When my husband gets home from work im planning on talking to him, because its not okay. Just like all of our attempts to communicate with her he'll call trying to talk and she'll just send him to voicemail. : /

sjtreely

As a teacher, here's what I tell parents ..... "I'll believe half of what I hear happens in your home if you give me the same consideration and believe half of what you hear happens at school. If something sounds too crazy, give me a call so we can see if my memory is the same as your child's."

My suggestion is to find out more about the story. If they're 21, they have the legal right to drink in their own home. There's a difference between drinking and being too drunk to make responsible decisions with children in the house. I've certainly enjoyed beer and wine when my children were young, but I like to think I didn't go over board.

Now, with all that being said ... just because someone has the right to do something, doesn't make it the right thing to do.

I'm not siding with either side right now - I'm saying, "Hummm...something doesn't sound right. Let's find out more."

AwesomelyAmber

IMO, YOU need to talk to HIM and HE needs to talk to HER... I would be furious. Obviously the kid knows TOO much if he knows that it involves cups and 'stuff that he isn't supposed to drink'. I don't know about anyone else out there but I have never played beer pong for ANY other reason than to get drunk. This is NOT having a beer or two at a bar-b-q. Lots of questionable things that need to be worked out it seems. YIKES. Good luck to you and your stepson, especially.

thatgirl125

yes I get where you are coming from also. His mom is of age and her boyfriend is not. I do not disagree with with having a beer or wine. Growing up my parents of course would have a drink and never went over board. But just knowing who she is and who all she hang out with you know more then likely she was going over board.
We do not take everything he says seriously, one day he told us she burned him with a cig. then the next minute it was her boyfriend then the story changed 3 more times so we have learned to not believe everything. I even had to tell my husband if it happened it was prob. not purposely and how there was times when I was younger and would sit on my fathers lap and accidentally put my leg or arm into his cigarette.

thatgirl125

IMO, YOU need to talk to HIM and HE needs to talk to HER... I would be furious. Obviously the kid knows TOO much if he knows that it involves cups and 'stuff that he isn't supposed to drink'. I don't know about anyone else out there but I have never played beer pong for ANY other reason than to get drunk. This is NOT having a beer or two at a bar-b-q. Lots of questionable things that need to be worked out it seems. YIKES. Good luck to you and your stepson, especially.

Exactly... That is the only reason why I have ever played it with friends was to get drunk. No one plays beer pong to have two beers, why go through the hassle of getting the cups/balls/table/filling the cups and everything just to have two? : /

I dont get in the middle of things with him and her. Anything I have ever questioned I go to him and leave it up to him on what actions he wants to take if he even wants to take any at all. He does know far too much we have gone on walks and he goes I smell something I am not supposed to smell... I am like really? I dont smell anything then suddenly it hits me and all I can smell is weird. Then I have to question how on earth does he even KNOW what that smells like?!?!! His father and I both do not smoke so it does not come from our household.

savlyon

Definitely document what was said and talk to the mom about it. That is too much for a kiddo to make up. I've never played beer pong and had no idea what it was until I was 26. He couldn't make that up. He has at least seen the drunken behavior.

thatgirl125

Yes definitely agree, I guess the only thing I could say they did right was call it ping pong and not beer bong. But for the fact he could even say he got to throw the balls into the cups but not drink it... He's not going to make that up, not at all.

prettyfitchick

I belive they were totally wrong for getting drunk around the kids I grew up in house were we never seen beer in the fridge and let alone my parents drinking they just were never in too those things and they lead by example But every one is diffrent and even though they didnt brake any laws What they did was wrong in moral sense

Goal_Seeker_1988

I don't have any kids but I get really pissed off over the fact that my fiance's one friend and his wife have a 7 year old kid and have drank around her since she was a baby. They drink daily it makes me very sick! They have parties while she is home and allow her to be around other drunks. The mother yells @ her daughter. I don't understand how they still have her!

_Timmeh_

You can drink without getting drunk. How do you know they were all getting drunk?

TDGee

They could be teaching him this in preparation for college too.

thatgirl125

@TDGeein preparation? he is 4!!!!! lol. Nice sense of humor though!!
My dad prepared my brother for it after he graduated from high school.

@ timmay: also, I know they were getting drunk because thats what she does. a year ago she would send him off to other people for up to a week at a time so she could go out and party. Like in previous posts, you DONT play beer pong just to drink two drinks.

@goalseeker: yeah that is horrible, a child should not grow up in that sort of environment.

drog2323

yah, I would think beer pong might be a little offside with a 4 year old.

I don't have kids..but a neice and nephew (both young) Ihave indulged with their parents, but we weren't getting plastered!

christine24t

i guess i have two views on this

1) being so young, i'm guessing the mother is immature, and i'm guessing then she was playing with beer or other liquor and let the kid take a few throws

2) however, it's a good activity to learn hand-eye coordination. if the parents set it up to practice and they played it as a game without liquor, i don't see why it's bad if the child doesn't know it's associated with drinking. it's simple and probably keeps him entertained. but she seems really stupid and immature, so maybe you should talk to your husband about it. if you're having a child play the game, it should be done responsibly.

AwesomelyAmber

You can drink without getting drunk. How do you know they were all getting drunk?

Never played beer pong huh? SOMEONE? ANYONE? GET THIS GUY A TABLE AND SOME CUPS!!! He needs to see how it's done! THEN he can say "how do you know" and see for himself WHY that is a hilarious statement. :laugh: :laugh:

thatgirl125

You can drink without getting drunk. How do you know they were all getting drunk?

Never played beer pong huh? SOMEONE? ANYONE? GET THIS GUY A TABLE AND SOME CUPS!!! He needs to see how it's done! THEN he can say "how do you know" and see for himself WHY that is a hilarious statement. :laugh: :laugh:

Ha I love you, that was awesome and so true!

AwesomelyAmber

Thanks! :laugh: