friend advice

themrsbriggs

hey all!!!
i need some advice from my MFP family... i have been friends with a girl for a little over 1 1/2 years. she is a teacher like me and we hang out a lot together. she is different from me in the fact that she can be a little negative (ok a lot) and doesn't really see other people's point of view..... anyway, i met some friends through her and we all went to louisana for one of the girl's bach. party. we had a good time but when we got back to the hotel room to play a "girl's night out" game (kinda like have you ever.....) one of the questions was "one word to describe my first time is...." answers were: "awful, fast, sucked" and mine was "great" i can proudly say that i have only been with one person and that we have been together for 4.5 years and are (hopefully) getting engaged soon when the other girls looked at me weird (like the first time always sucks) my friend says "well, she's only been with one person" like there was something wrong with me (or at least that's how i felt) i have NO judgement what so ever on other's personal relations, but i feel blessed that i waited for the man i was (and still am) VERY much in love with, but feel that it's a very personal matter and not something to be broadcasted (as i type it on mfp lol) but i am comfortable with who i am and when i asked my sister about it, she said my friend is just jealous. (she's been with more than 1 person..... and engaged several times and is about 8 years older than me) i really care about her and don't want to lose her as a friend. i didn't even really act like it bothered me but the more i think about it, the more it hurts. the worst part is she later told me in the hotel room that her and her bf (of 16 months) have talked about me and my man (we hang out together a lot) and that she felt we should (or should have) taken a break so i could go out and "experience" other people?? so basically you want me to go screw a bunch of guys just to prove what i've known all along??? hmmmm... NOOO!! i haven't talked to her since we went on the trip (which was sunday) and i want to address my feelings but am not sure how..... help a fellow mfp(er) out

ajbeans

I don't know... anybody who would judge you that harshly doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. I'd tell her so, and forget her.

Dootzy1

Just stay true to yourself! YOU have taken the high road......

Katbaran

I'd stick with whatever is working for you. Don't let anyone tell you or push you into doing anything you don't want to do. Maybe she is hoping if you and your guy "take a break" she can run in there and nab him for herself? Just ignore her ideas and be you!