Constant comments about weight loss.....

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  • JoyousRen
    JoyousRen Posts: 3,823 Member
    People who are used to seeing you overweight take a while to get used to the smaller you.

    I was very tiny most of my life and overweight for about a year-and-a-half period. When I lost weight, I was still about 15-20 pounds heavier than I had been MOST of my life and my mother (who obviously has known me my entire life) accused me of being anorexic. I was 132 pounds and 5'3".
    ^^This^^
    I had the same thing. People that knew me when I was heavy always made comments about losing too much weight but people that know me know or even part of the way through my journey don't think anything of it. I don't think is jealousy (all the time). IMO, It's more that people are used to a heavier you so you look "too thin" in comparison. They'll get used to it and stop commenting.
  • kikkipoo
    kikkipoo Posts: 292 Member
    I get it all the time now too. Buti realized I'd set myself up by saying no...I still have xx lbs to lose or try to prove I wasn't too thin by pinching an inch, but that's when they'd comment the most when they realized I had no intention of stopping yet. However I quit telling them I wanted to lose more and started lying and saying, thanks, I'm in maintenance now and just trying to tone the rest. They seem better with "thinking" I'm done losing and I can attribute any further changes to "toning". My BFF is the same way. She's 5'8" and 130 pounds...but eats a ton so even when I eat next to her it does look like I eat like a bird, and more than anything I think there is some intimidation to her that I might actually get smaller than her (not happening by the way...I'm 5'5 and aiming for 140) when she's always had me as the Chubby (translate as all attention on her) friend. They only see it as how our changes might impact them or make them feel. So sugar coat the situation and let em think they're perfectly safe. It's one situation I think lieing is ok. Their opinion of me is none of my business.
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    as long as they know how I really feel (I have shared it with them in the past multiple times and they don't pay it any attention, I have a few family members like this) I just tell them what they want to hear to change the subject then talk about stuff that is funner to talk about. If they are talking about diet and health, I just listen because they know where I stand, I do it all the time and I still love my family and friends whether they are leading healthy life styles or not.

    If what I have to say doesn't matter, then I am not going to say it any more.
    If they are trying to get me to do something that is not healthy I don't do it, I will say what ever I have to to have fun, but I am not eating that thing, I just don't want to, and I am not tasting it either. If they love me and they do they will respect what I want and don't want in my life and sugary food is something I don't want.

    I know it is hard, but with time they will get the message that you are happy to enjoy their company and still will choose to do what makes you feel comfortable without making them change their habits.
    Good luck!
  • 1shauna1
    1shauna1 Posts: 993 Member
    I can see how this would be annoying, and from your stats you definitely don't sound like you're too thin. I think it's just their perception....they're used to seeing you at a certain weight and now you're thinner, it can be a big change. I like to think most people aren't being malicious and that they even think they're being cute/funny or trying to cheer you on.....but definitely speak to BFF about her comments and how they're upsetting to you. And keep up the good work!
  • ilike2moveit
    ilike2moveit Posts: 776 Member
    I responded by telling them that I am in my weight range for my height and telling them my BMI.
  • camillehardeman
    camillehardeman Posts: 46
    Wow that's inredibly rude, I am sorry that your best friend can't just be happy for you! You have a very healthy goal, and if some people are jealous/can't handle it, that isn't your problem!

    Also I just hate hate hate when people say someone "looks anorexic". Anorexia is a very very serious, often fatal, mental disease and it shouldn't be a way to describe someone who looks thin. Anorexia is not a fad diet! I can't help but call people on that when they say someone "looks anorexic". Would you ever say someone accuse someone of "going scizophrenic"? Uh, I hope not.
  • JeSuisPrest
    JeSuisPrest Posts: 2,005 Member
    Thank you all....you've all been very helpful. I had even said to my husband last night, that maybe it will take time for people to get used to this new me. I'm just not comfortable with the attention. Funny though, those that have lost weight too are very supportive, those that have not or haven't tried are usually the ones making the most comments. I know most have good intentions and I usually change the subject as quickly as I can and I will speak to BFF again.
  • Scorpioangel
    Scorpioangel Posts: 951 Member


    them: " you are obsessed! take a break! no need to keep losing weight and excercising all the time! it's the holidays!!!"
    me: "I have allergies. I have to stay active or my allergies flare up."
    them: "what are you allergic to?"
    me: "excuses"

    Oh my I love this one!!!!!!!! :)
  • JeSuisPrest
    JeSuisPrest Posts: 2,005 Member


    them: " you are obsessed! take a break! no need to keep losing weight and excercising all the time! it's the holidays!!!"
    me: "I have allergies. I have to stay active or my allergies flare up."
    them: "what are you allergic to?"
    me: "excuses"

    Oh my I love this one!!!!!!!! :)

    I just might use this!!! ;)
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