Worried I'm going to be on a diet forever.

beeny83

Diet=way of life

Food=fuel

Guilty?
Really?
Dont buy crap and eat it!
It's simple!

I don't eat crap!!

DesertSunsetRain

Diet=way of life

Food=fuel

Guilty?
Really?
Dont buy crap and eat it!
It's simple!

It's not that simple. I have times where I feel guilty for eating over a certain number of calories... and usually what I eat is yogurt, veggies or some kind of fruit. When you're afraid of gaining weight, it's not what you eat... it's any kind of calories.

I would suggest getting some kind of help. Talk to a nutritionist and a therapist, or talk to SOMEONE. You're going into some very dangerous territory. I have been there, and I got really sick... it's not fun. Please get help from someone, it's not going to get easier unless you really force yourself to get over that fear that food = weight gain/fat/failure. It helps to have a support system to get you back to a healthier mind set.

wildestian

Try upping your calories slowly until you get to your maintenance calories, that way you can have control and get to know if you gain or not. That's what i'm planning to do when I get there, I'm a bit worried about it too.

Helloitsdan

And you should be having 1200 cals a day MINIMUM...dont go under!

This is crap advice.
Have your numbers run and only cut 20% from maint for safe weight loss.
1200 is for people who like to starve.

1200 is a great number if you have very low body fat and stand about 5foot tall!

lmelangley

Staying under 1200 calories day after day isn't good for ANYONE! You start risking your health - it's very difficult to get proper nutrition if you eat under 1200.

Try to stop looking at this as a "diet" and start looking at what you're doing as a way to be the healthiest you can be. Food is fuel, nothing more. Your body really is a machine - albeit a living machine - and the only way to keep it properly running is to eat food. If you seriously feel guilty for every little nibble, you may want to talk to some type of counselor.

snkeller24

Women: BMR = 655 + (9.6 X wt in kg) + (1.8 X ht in cm) - (4.7 X age in years)

Note: 1 inch = 2.54 cm.
1 kilogram = 2.2 lbs.


Now that you know your BMR, you can calculate TDEE by multiplying your BMR by your activity multiplier from the chart below:

Activity Multiplier
Sedentary = BMR X 1.2 (little or no exercise, desk job)
Lightly active = BMR X 1.375 (light exercise/sports 1-3 days/wk)
Mod. active = BMR X 1.55 (moderate exercise/sports 3-5 days/wk)
Very active = BMR X 1.725 (hard exercise/sports 6-7 days/wk)
Extr. Active = BMR X 1.9 (hard daily exercise/sports & physical job or 2X day training, i.e marathon, contest etc.)

Helloitsdan

I suggested body recomp and offered to run numbers but I dont think she understands what it all means.
*shrugs*

Its like buying additional gear for your car to make it beautiful, installing the gear but never painting it!
You have lost the weight now let us turn you into a SEXY BEAST!!!!!
*fistpump*
BRING ON THE BEAST!
BRING ON THE BEAST!
=D

muffyjog

There was a time in the 1950s when the word "diet" meant the kind of food that was eaten. Monkeys have diets, polar bears have diets and we have diets. The word has been morphed into something that means "a means of loosing weight" or in some cases "a means of adding muscle". I'd say, lose the word. It's getting in the way of what you want.

You want a healthy body that feels good to be in. You want to give it the fuel it wants and needs to keep it running well. That means you need to feed it. Every day. Preferably a minimum of three times...I'm in favor of the grazing method, myself. Losing weight is easy, it's a numbers game. If you want to keep this off, learn more about healthy food and how awesome it is. Choose to eat MORE food..like leafy greens and veggies.

Celebrate food instead of fearing it. You can't live your life fearing the thing you need most to keep living. You know that or you wouldn't be posting the question.

With or without the weight, you are still you. Own your space, own your life, don't hold the weight responsible for everything bad in the world. It's just not that powerful. That's all TV melodrama if you believe it.

In with the good air, out with the crazy air.

Best wishes,

Muffyjo

Cathleenr

if you are to the point of measuring weight loss in grams, its time to take a break. Just focus on eating whole grains, lean protein and veggies. I hope that most of your weight loss came from healthy exercise and not just dieting. If you can't shake the feeling of obsession, try finding a local nutritionist to help you out.

actually, most of any weight loss or gain should be from what you eat, not how much exercise you do.
and many people, myself included, often have to experience the success of eating on maintainence, which means more calories and perhaps a wider range of foods than they they have previously experienced.

when i was training a few weeks ago, i was at 1223 calories a day and got very comfortable eating that way, but i had fat to lose and short amount of time to do it.
now however, i find myself with more calories (1400) but still losing 2 1/2 pounds in a week.
its hard to get it into the mindset to eat more...or put back into your nutrition what you were told to take out.
i did it before and now, since i've actually lived through the experience. i know i can lose it again. i know the formula and what it feels like and it doesnt scare me. i hired a nutritional coach and when i start training again in about 6 weeks, we will focus on maintaining muscle and losing the little fat that i need to without going all crazy with the cheese whiz. (there is even the possibility i might get ICE CREAM too!)
OP, be deliberate in what you eat and analytical in how you react to the changes, whether they are what you want to see or are opposite of that. make small adjustments in your macros, tweak your cardio til you get the results you want. allow yourself time to succeed and revel in it. its very powerful.

echoica

These thoughts are teetering on eating disorder territory. Careful.

^^ this

b0t23

your target weight is simply a number. the closer you get to it, the less it matters. especially if you are 600 grams from it.
I assume you are in a country that uses kg for weight and not lbs.


but really, measurements like hip to waist ratio are more important.

also, muscle tone, endurance, flexibility, energy levels. those are important.


how do you feel?

maybe you should slow down, eat a bit more. enjoy your new body.

shack1157

Don't look at is as a "diet." A diet indicates that it will end. Look at your accomplishments as the beginning of a life-style change. Don't let yourself feel guilty about eating, because - as was said before- that could be bordering on an eating disorder. Allow yourself treats now and then, but otherwise try to make healthy decisions and you won't need to feel guilty. Lots of water, green leafy things and fruits can help.

This is the way everyone should think about being healthier! Iknow this is my mindset and I still eat the things I enjoy! I don't eat them as often or as much as I did but I still enjoy them! It is a lifestyle change the sooner you adapt the better life will be!

asugar

muffyjo: Well said!

EMc4452

Up your calories slowly and dont weigh yourself everyday. Once you see that you don't gain weight with more calories, hopefully that fear will go away.

PixelTreason

hi all I have been doing the MVP diet for exactly 81 days and I'm just 600grams away from my goal weight.
I'm feeling guilty with everything I put in my mouth, at the start I wanted to eat more but now Im so paranoid about gaining weight I'm worried I'm never going to eat normal again or every time I eat I'm going to feel like I'm ruining my work. I really don't want to lose more then my goal weight but I think I have become obsessed with eating under 1200 calories. Does anyone else feel like this? Or has anyone reached their goal and continued to lose weight even though they don't want to just because of fear of eating more? ATM even when I have days where I tell myself that I can eat a bit more I always manage to be under. I think the fear is because I'm determined to no get back into my old habits. Any advice would be much appreciated.
I really don't want to be addicted to this diet.

Yes. I'm still there and now underweight. : /

Someone linked me this - http://jcdfitness.com/2009/10/the-former-fat-boy-syndrome/


and it was really helpful to me. I'm trying my best to eat more!

shakybabe

I think it has to be a lifestyle change rather than a diet. I was really struggling to lose weight at first then discovered a link between Hypothyroidism and wheat intolerance. I decided to go wheat free/low carb for 2 weeks to see what happened first.. I lost 7lbs first week, 4lbs second. I then had to decide whether this was a diet I could sustain for life.. I decided to stick with wheat free (for majority of time where possible) but still allow carbs like rice, potatoes in diet.

At first I only allowed them once a week and stuck to strict diet either side of that day to see how much it affected water retention.. I found it was mainly the wheat which was making me gain 4-5lbs a day (after re-introducing it temporarily as a test). ATM I have 2 treat meals a week which include chips or rice and rest I try and replace with other things ie carrot & swede mash instead of mashed potato, sweet potato chips or parsnip chips instead of fried or oven chips.

This is something I think I can stay on for life I still have chocolate.. I was never really bothered about pastry cakes and pies but found substitutes for my favourites (a rhubarb crumble topped with oats instead of pastry crumbs and gluten free chocolate brownies).

only exception I have made is i still have a regular mini yorkshire pudding on a sunday (which is regular flour) but its only thing that contains a small amount of wheat... if I could find a gluten free one I would switch to that. I find as its so small literally 2 bites, about 45 cals.. and only one day a week ( as removed wheat from rest of the week) it has no effect and I can still lose weight.

You have to decide what for you.. is something you can't live without out and how you can turn it into a lifestyle change rather than a 'permanent diet'!

p.s I'm still eating well over 1200cals and still losing. I only cut wheat-based cereal, regular bread and pasta. (though I use the gluten free versions instead)