I hate being noticed!!

lovekck

I was wondering if anyone else felt this way? I hate the awkwardness of [men] groping, making crude comments...i.e. "damn girl" or some other comment about my body, usually my butt.

I really want to wear all black and just blend into the crowd. I think that may be one of the reasons I gained the weight I did.

I absolutely hate it, it makes me feel like a piece of meat. I need to wear a sign, (besides the obvious one on my left hand) "Don't ****ing look at me creepers!"

Anyone else feel this way? I really hate the way my body looks right now and if I can't stand to look at myself, I really can't stand for anyone else to look at me either.

turningstar

I feel like that sometimes too. In a way I want to be noticed, but at the same time I just want to be invisible. Im hoping that getting in shape and accomplishing something I never have before will give me a boost in self confidence. I want to feel beautiful, and have it shine through my self confidence.

Scorpioangel

I think it's discussing when men have to hoot and howl as they make comments... I wish I was invisible also from these people.

Coyla

I don't think it's a problem of being noticed but of being treated like an object, a non-thinking entity that is just there to be ogled. Otherwise, you should feel great when you're noticed. I mean, if a guy thinks your attractive and stares, that's a compliment. I don't think men are as good at being subtle as women. They see a beautiful woman, and they want to look. They can't help looking. And that's okay.

If he gropes you or makes some kind of sexual comment, that's a different matter. That's not okay, and I've yet to see man successfully pick up a woman using this method, so I'm not sure why they employ it.

MeguPARN

I like to put the spotlight back on them. I got on the subway the other day and this guy who was with his friends and checking me out was all "mmm girl you smell so good." And I was all "thanks, it's hand sanitizer" (in a sexy voice of course.) His friends thought that was hilarious and he got all embarassed. I also like to respond to someone who is obviously looking at my headlights while I talk by saying, "yes they're very smart, but they don't talk yet. Those sounds are coming from up here." It's so much fun to embarass jerks like that right back.

lovekck

LOL thanks for the laugh Meg...maybe I'll try being a little snarky next time, I'm pretty good at it

MrsBlobs

Yup, my layer of fat is my defence against all this. I do the school run on foot and I have to walk down a road that frequently has cars backed up because of traffic lights. At my lowest weight I was whistled at, shouted at, stared at, commented upon all from the car window - I hated every minute of that stretch of walk, absolutely HATED it. My blubber is my shield. I won't miss it when it goes, but should I get to target by next summer I'll be the one wearing a full length, high collar, long sleeve dress!! lol.

Scorpioangel

I don't think it's a problem of being noticed but of being treated like an object, a non-thinking entity that is just there to be ogled. Otherwise, you should feel great when you're noticed. I mean, if a guy thinks your attractive and stares, that's a compliment. I don't think men are as good at being subtle as women. They see a beautiful woman, and they want to look. They can't help looking. And that's okay.

If he gropes you or makes some kind of sexual comment, that's a different matter. That's not okay, and I've yet to see man successfully pick up a woman using this method, so I'm not sure why they employ it.

I agree with you here! If it's done with class, it is a compliment