AM I the only one who is uneasy about posting my weight?!

Tjm288
Tjm288 Posts: 53 Member
edited October 6 in Motivation and Support
Ugh....I dont know why i am so uncomfortable about posting my weight! Did any one else feel like that? I know it isn't a "have to" or a must, but ya know? I am even like that with my boyfriend that I've been dating for 2 years.....I've never told him my weight hahaha but he's never asked either?! LOL
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  • budgetqueen79
    budgetqueen79 Posts: 310 Member
    I think if you do decide to post it it will help free you of that number. I started at 377...that's a 2big mac combos away from 400 (that's the thought in my head) but once I let it out I started losing.
  • deadstarsunburn
    deadstarsunburn Posts: 1,337 Member
    I was uncomfortable at first too, but I wanted to share my progress.
    I've been with my boyfriend a year and a half and I think I've mentioned it once, but guys don't really care lol.
  • NightOwl1
    NightOwl1 Posts: 881 Member
    That's the beauty of a place like MFP. It's a place where people who have been ashamed of their weight and appearance in the past can come to and be honest about their struggle without any judgement. I have friends on here of all shapes and sizes. I would say go ahead and post it, I think you'll find it liberating.
  • CrystalMarie253
    CrystalMarie253 Posts: 128
    Used to bug me too but after a while I realized it was easier to admit to others and myself and just come out and say it. I was 176 lbs at my heaviest and I am 128 lbs now.
  • Nikki582
    Nikki582 Posts: 561 Member
    I used to.. but then I realised once I posted my 'number' I wanted to make it smaller.

    I don't want to say 92 again! Except to say "I was 92kg back in September and now I'm -somuchsmaller-"

    You know? :)

    Be brave! :D
  • adjones5
    adjones5 Posts: 938 Member
    I never post my weight. 5 lbs from my goal weight and I still don't want to post it :(
  • Tonnina
    Tonnina Posts: 979 Member
    It's entirely up to you who you disclose that information to. I disclosed my weight to my then boyfriend now hubby within the first 3 months of us being just friends... I knew he was a bigger guy so it was less threatening for me. He has always known my weight and has always been supportive!
  • BobbyClerici
    BobbyClerici Posts: 813 Member
    Ugh....I dont know why i am so uncomfortable about posting my weight! Did any one else feel like that? I know it isn't a "have to" or a must, but ya know? I am even like that with my boyfriend that I've been dating for 2 years.....I've never told him my weight hahaha but he's never asked either?! LOL
    That seems to be a lady thing.
    Just hide your info to all except your friends here.
    And good luck with everything!
  • RahBuhBuh
    RahBuhBuh Posts: 585 Member
    Ugh....I dont know why i am so uncomfortable about posting my weight! Did any one else feel like that? I know it isn't a "have to" or a must, but ya know? I am even like that with my boyfriend that I've been dating for 2 years.....I've never told him my weight hahaha but he's never asked either?! LOL
    That seems to be a lady thing.
    Just hide your info to all except your friends here.
    And good luck with everything!

    Agreed.

    I don't mind telling my weight here, but then again, I am not looking to impress anyone other than myself and my wife, and all the teenagers I speak to and prospective employers....Crud. I'm going to go remove my weight now :)
  • trill0042
    trill0042 Posts: 110 Member
    They say the first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem. The first time I posted my starting weight, which was 237, I felt like I was finally admitting to the world how much weight I had to lose. It helped motivate me.
  • Artemis_Acorn
    Artemis_Acorn Posts: 836 Member
    I was reticent about it at first too. It's like somehow admitting to the number was some kind of confession about what a big fat loser I was. Guess what? That number is just a number. It is a simple fact, not part of your identity, and you will be surprised at how freeing it really can be to just say the number. When I started MFP, I weighed 252. My husband of 29 years did not even know that number. I was mortified of it - ashamed of it, but somewhere along the way it dawned on me that the number itself is not what defines me - I get to do that myself, and I am so much more than a number on the scale. Today I am at 203. Painless.
  • tiffany171720052005
    tiffany171720052005 Posts: 6 Member
    I am with my friends and my bf who is super fit. But I feel comfortable here. I am 220. I am ashamed. So I am deciding to fix it. You are in control. You can change your weight.
  • aquapussy
    aquapussy Posts: 112
    I don't care at all about posting my starting weight anymore. or my current weight. However I don't like my family knowing my current weight. They think I weigh less than I actually do, lol.
  • chevy88grl
    chevy88grl Posts: 3,937 Member
    I never used to want to talk about my weight. Now? I'm not ashamed to say I was once 203lbs and now I am right around 145lbs. I'm also not ashamed to tell you that my weight fluctuates a lot and I can be as low as 142lbs one day and the next day I can be as high as 150lbs.


    I tell my boyfriend my weight now - but didn't when I was heavier (I was around 180lbs when he and I met)
  • servilia
    servilia Posts: 3,452 Member
    When I started out here, I had no problem telling strangers my weight but my husband NO! Now I don't mind..
  • aaleigha1
    aaleigha1 Posts: 408 Member
    posting my weight has not been an issue for me
    as we all look different at that number
    people dont see the number on the scale they see YOU
  • Hola723
    Hola723 Posts: 159 Member
    That's the beauty of a place like MFP. It's a place where people who have been ashamed of their weight and appearance in the past can come to and be honest about their struggle without any judgement. I have friends on here of all shapes and sizes. I would say go ahead and post it, I think you'll find it liberating.

    Well said! I completely agree!
  • dpedi
    dpedi Posts: 37
    When I started I weighed 231. That is a number I never thought I would be at. I'm only 7 lbs down, but it feels amazing. I love 224 now because it is smaller than 231. Posting it is owning it and being honest about it and yourself. It gives you a sense of power. It sucks and feels good at the same time. Either way good luck!!!
  • SmartFunGorgeous
    SmartFunGorgeous Posts: 699 Member
    Like one poster said--it's just a number. 36! 24! 19! 120! 1,839,923! 299! 511!

    And 247... That's my current number, and I've never hid the first number from anyone but myself. People saw what I looked like. They knew I couldn't climb stairs without sounding like a big bad wolf. They knew I whined about my knees all the time. So they might not have known the exact number, but everyone could see what was important, except for me. I thought by keeping the number a secret, everything else was secret too.

    I first weighed 299, though I'm sure that just happened to be the scale that particular day. There's no comfort that it wasn't a 300+ because I was in such deplorable shape,

    I started running at 283 pounds, and ran my first 5k at 273 pounds. Those are meaningful numbers, cause they show my life improving.

    I ran my fifth 5k two weekends ago at 247 pounds, and I've struggled with that 247 ever since, but you know what? It's still just a stupid number.

    So, say it to a friend privately. Then post a feed about it. Then a blog. Then one day you'll finally realize it no longer has a hold of you. YOU are what is important. Not a number.
  • trainorgirl
    trainorgirl Posts: 44
    nope.. if ya dont like your weight then change it!!! work hard, achieve hard, push yourself hard until you want to rave about your weight.. if you lie about it your only cheating yourself!!! you got to the weight you are... no one to blame. so if you are embarrassed then take that feeling and turn it postitive and work towards your goal... if you cant be honest with yourself you will fail!!! and the only one that will fail is you.. harsh but true!!!!
  • trainorgirl
    trainorgirl Posts: 44
    nope.. if ya dont like your weight then change it!!! work hard, achieve hard, push yourself hard until you want to rave about your weight.. if you lie about it your only cheating yourself!!! you got to the weight you are... no one to blame. so if you are embarrassed then take that feeling and turn it postitive and work towards your goal... if you cant be honest with yourself you will fail!!! and the only one that will fail is you.. harsh but true!!!!
  • dpedi
    dpedi Posts: 37
    Also everyone on his is so supportive and understanding no matter what your weight is or what their weight is! :)
  • PuddleRat
    PuddleRat Posts: 5
    When I started I weighed 231. That is a number I never thought I would be at. I'm only 7 lbs down, but it feels amazing. I love 224 now because it is smaller than 231. Posting it is owning it and being honest about it and yourself. It gives you a sense of power. It sucks and feels good at the same time. Either way good luck!!!

    This a million times.

    I also feel so much prouder of myself seeing my actual weight number drop than seeing the weight loss total. 49 sounds like a lot, but going from 250 to 201 feels like so much more.
  • KaleidoscopeEyes1056
    KaleidoscopeEyes1056 Posts: 2,996 Member
    I won't tell my fiance my weight, but I share it openly here!
  • risefromruin
    risefromruin Posts: 483 Member
    I hated posting my weight or even acknowledging it until I had lost a significant amount of weight. At that point, I was super proud of what I had accomplished, so I didn't feel so apprehensive about it. You'll be proud about how far you've come someday :)
  • Tjm288
    Tjm288 Posts: 53 Member
    Oh my Goodness! I love all ya guys! This made me feel like 100 better about posting it and not feeling so scared!!!! Thank you for the support!!!!

    I REALLY feel better!


    Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!
  • GenYMissing
    GenYMissing Posts: 7 Member
    My boyfriend knows my weight because I have at least one panic attack about it a week.

    I'm not sure I really want to post here because my BMI is fairly low (but healthy) and I have some very specific goals in terms of body fat %, lean mass etc.
  • kenzietea
    kenzietea Posts: 614 Member
    Nope, I refuse as well. I have all sorts of recovered eating issues though, and it actually makes it worse for me to name the number. I panic and...when I panic I turn to food. I only ever look at the number on the scale when I weigh in and log. Besides, scale number does not matter for the most part anyway.
  • monkeydharma
    monkeydharma Posts: 599 Member
    Own what you are. Hiding it doesn't fool anyone.
  • TourThePast
    TourThePast Posts: 1,753 Member
    It's just a number.

    And to be brutally honest, unless someone never leaves their house, it's going to be pretty obvious to everyone who sees them what size they are anyway.

    Change it if you don't like it, hiding from the reality of it isn't going to help you do that.

    You've made a great start by joining here, most people aren't as blunt as me. :bigsmile:
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