Am I just being overly sensitive?
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I think your being overly sensitive but I in turn understand where it stimmed from. You worked out the hardest you had done and you were proud and then you were pretty much told in a subconcious why that it wasn't good enough. But to take up for your SO alittle...Take it from someone who is married to the king of wrong words lol I am sure he didnt mean it at all to be mean. He was probably wondering if you were ok...and thats how men tend to inquire..it's weird i know....lol
Oh and the sex line...PRICELESS!!0 -
I agree that you're being overly sensitive. Although my snarky and dirty side would have said, "YOU of all people should know you can get a great workout in under 15 minutes!" Which might have lead to him proving it. And more calories would have been burned.0
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Interesting.....
The OP NEVER used a word the specified the sex of her SO. She referred to the person as "they" and a good majority referred to the SO as a he. And some answered were even geared towards the response being typically male.
I guess people aren't going to assume that the OP is something other than straight. Either way it's none of our business....0 -
You could ask just to make sure, but you could take it as the opposite of bursting your bubble - you know how hard you worked out, and that is the important thing...he pointed out that it didnt seem to take long...so now you know that you have good workout that you can do and fit in when you are shorter on time. look at it that way.
30 day shred is what 20 min at a time to start? that is a hell of a workout but doesn't take too long
maybe you were feeling guilty because you did that workout instead of going to the gym - if that is the case dont! you COULD have skipped the gym and not done anything!
you did great, that is the bottom line!
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Your motivation & focus needs to be internal to succeed.
Don't let any real or perceived negativity distract you from your goals.0 -
If you're certain he didn't mean anything by it then you are being hypersensitive. Maybe he's trying to motivate you to work harder in his own way. I wouldn't worry about it unless it becomes a habitual issue.0
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use the same line on him next time you have sex.
^hahaha good one!!! lol0 -
use the same line on him next time you have sex.
^^^ Winner.
Seriously, if it's a pattern of behavior that condescending and making you feel bad, confront him. if he's normally a mean spirited a-hole, it's time to trade up.
But if it's meant in the spirit of helping, and coming from a loving place, then write it off or confront him. You know him much better than anyone else here. I can see myself saying something like that to my wife to encourage my wife to have a longer workout (cuz my workouts are minimum 30 minutes... 10 minutes for me is barely enough time for a warm up).
Either way, I think you should use the same line on him next time you have sex.0 -
Yes, I think you are being overly sensitive. He said "that wasn't long." 10-15 minutes really is not long - but it can be long enough to get a little burn, for sure.
If he had said, "that wasn't good," or "that was useless," then you'd have a legitimate beef with him.0 -
I'd say overly sensitive. You can do A LOT in 15 minutes. It all depends on intensity. If you're doing non-stop movement, then you had a good workout! Sometimes all you got is 15 minutes. So in the end, props to you for getting it done.0
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use the same line on him next time you have sex.
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You're being over sensitive.0
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He OR she (as has been stated..I feel folks are jumping to the wrong conclusions here) may have been indirectly questioning why it takes so long when you go to the gym vs the 10 minutes at home. So instead of a remark concerning the dedication or lack there of, of your exercise regiment, it could be a subconcious insecurity remark toward your relationship. In other words..."Why are you gone for 2 hours to the gym when it only takes you 10 minutes to complete your workout here??" I hope that is not the case but to me, that would be a more logical reason for a remark like that.0
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use the same line on him next time you have sex.
My favorite MFP advice EVER!!!
I have to agree! THATS FUNNY!!! I don't care who you are!0 -
I noticed that too. Not in a judge-y way on anyone, but heterosexuality is usually assumed. :huh:Interesting.....
The OP NEVER used a word the specified the sex of her SO. She referred to the person as "they" and a good majority referred to the SO as a he. And some answered were even geared towards the response being typically male.0 -
15 minutes in the grand scheme of ANYTHING (with the exception of pain!) really isn't long. I'm talking in VERY GENERAL TERMS, not in terms of how long you (OP) worked out. Because Lord knows 15 minutes of a killer workout can feel like an hour.
I've had my DH say the same thing to me. In no way does he mean that I wasn't working out hard or putting any effort into it - he sees me panting and dripping with sweat and basically a gross mess after a workout. What he means, and ALL he means, is that I disappeared in the basement for a workout and he was surprised at it only taking X amount of time.
I know it's a very sensitive area - trying to get in shape, working out, etc - is extremely personal, so it's easy to take things personally immediately, rather than thinking, processing, evaluating, etc. But intention has to come into play here, too. Would your SO *really* say something to hurt you when s/he knows you're trying so hard? (Some aren't supportive and that sucks, but I'm just saying - benefit of the doubt, you know?)
Keep on keeping on - and good for you for a great workout!0 -
Last night instead of hitting the gym I decided to do a workout at home..it was only about 10-15 mins BUT it was one of the hardest home workouts that I've ever done and I finished feeling quite proud that I actually did almost everything involved. When I was done my SO was standing in the kitchen (and although has been totally supportive in all my weight loss efforts) says "That wasn't long". Now, I know they didn't mean it as a negative remark and was not trying to hurt my feelings..BUT..it did. Am I over reacting!? I just felt like they popped my bubble a bit..
I am sure you would of said the same if that was the amount of effort he gave you in the bedroom.0 -
My family always makes remarks like that. It doesn't matter what I do, but they will say you didn't work out for very long, or that doesn't look very hard. However when I ask any of them to do, they suddenly shut up.
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What if he normally watches sexy movies while you're at the gym, and you totally threw off his schedule? Maybe he was just commenting because he was disappointed that he wouldn't find out the thrilling conclusion to "Saving Ryan's Privates"....0
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I noticed that too. Not in a judge-y way on anyone, but heterosexuality is usually assumed. :huh:Interesting.....
The OP NEVER used a word the specified the sex of her SO. She referred to the person as "they" and a good majority referred to the SO as a he. And some answered were even geared towards the response being typically male.
That's what I had meant - I didn't care the sexuality either way, just interesting to see the auto-assumption that the OP must be hetero by default.0
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