Husbands (who eats anything)

Mandypt

What do you do when you have a husband who eats and eats and eats and eats?

nalia08

I do the same thing he does....it's hard for me to control it, especially when he is the one treating. I'm trying to find that happy medium and learn to say no. I've realized there is no happy medium and only saying "NO".

brybre0413

Mine is 130 and 5'8 he eats about 4000 calories of HEALTHY food everyday sometimes I HATE HIM!!!!

Mandypt

Unless I have time to cook, he's suggesting the un healthy stuff... its gotta stop

AussieNikki

Nothing, it doesn't phase me. He has a very physical job so he needs the calories and he is lean.

Also he tends to eat things I don't even like so that helps!

moran1917

i have this problem. my husband is really large fella, 6'5" 390lbs. he is not on the same page as me about weight loss. i have goals, he doesn't care. so i eat what i eat and he eats what he eats. this is upsetting in several ways, like having to eat your meals alone sometimes, or watching him pile up his plate while i have a proper serving size. it always puts temptations in front of me, when i would rather just not have it in the house. I think it comes down to mental fortitude. I have to be stronger to overcome this extra obstacle to weight loss and a healthy lifestyle. I have created a cupboard rule. he has a cupboard in the kitchen that he can put anything in he wants. I won't buy it for him when i grocery shop- i only buy healthy food. i won't touch anything in his cupboard. it is almost like a rule- it is his, not mine...this keeps me away from it. I guess my ultimate goal is to get him to want to make the changes too.

pupcamper

In my expereince - Get over it! My husband is 6' 5" to my slightly less than 5' 4" and is always going to be able to eat much more than me, it sucks but there isn't much I can do about it!!

Mandypt

i think im gonna try that moran, thanks..

Mandypt

He doesn't understand why I am trying to lose weight but he wants to have a baby just as bad as I do so i gotta fill him in on the "its easier to get pregnant when you are healthier"

LetYourLightShine

I'm not married, but my boyfriend is 6'0" and weighs (at the most) 140. For a SNACK, he will eat a double quarter pounder, five chicken selects, a large fry, and a large coke; he doesn't gain a pound! In fact, he easily maintains a six-pack, his blood pressure is normal, and he's in excellent health. Talk about frustrating!

shana_phoenix83

My husband is definitely the same way, and I've found that there are certain things I can make that we'll both eat (he'll just have a lot larger serving). For example, he loves mexican food and so I'll cook some lean ground turkey (I think he just assumes it's beef), and use burrito seasoning on it, and while he puts his on tortilla chips and makes nachos, I put mine on lettuce and make a salad or on a low-carb high-fiber tortilla. It's definitely difficult, though. I also like Moran's idea of the cupboard.

SassyCalyGirl

My husband has the worst eating habits. He brings home everything he knows I will not eat-what do I do? Let HIM eat it. I even made him a breakfast sausage egg and cheese biscuit this morning for breakfast, and while it was cooking I made myself a protein shake. WILLPOWER! Just keep reminding yourself of your goals-you will get there and find the inner strength! Promise!

2Bme_again

My husband snacks on unhealthy foods and insists on large portions.He also does most of the cooking and goes grocery shopping with me. He wants everyone "to try a bite" or a sip of whatever it is he has made or is eating. What i did was, I have smaller plates I use for myself and encourage my kids and husband to use. (Kids are 16 and 18) I led by example, eating less and avoiding the junker things. I do not buy the stuff, he must remember to get it himself. I know in the evenings he is most likely to snack on whatever is handy, such as potato chips with cheese melted on it. So I try to have alternative and healthier choices in the front of the fridge or cabinet that he will grab first. (Such as sliced brie on french bread, grapes, apples, etc...) I also put the things want to discourage on a higher shelf so it is more inconvenient for him to reach and not something the kids or I will reach for.

He has always been on the thinner healthier side, and is 5'10. For the last 18 yrs I have been obese and gain weight easily, and am 5'4. I try to keep in mind part of it is genetics, exercise, and what he eats when we are not together.

Do not let it become a power struggle.

LeanMeanFitnessMachine

My boyfriend is like that - except he can eat and eat and eat and not gain a pound. Its so frustrating for me and he always looks at me like I'm crazy when I turn down a Klondike bar.

Mandypt

he has gained weight since we met and i think he needs to realize what i just realized the last few months.. you can eat what you use to 10 yrs ago...

meerkat70

Unless I have time to cook, he's suggesting the un healthy stuff... its gotta stop

Plan ahead. Plan together. Agree a cooking rota of healthy food.

Be clear on what you need from him. He doesn't have to be on a diet too, but he does need to support you in yours.

Mandypt

My boyfriend is like that - except he can eat and eat and eat and not gain a pound. Its so frustrating for me and he always looks at me like I'm crazy when I turn down a Klondike bar.

yeah and my hubby would say "but its good!"

Mandypt

Unless I have time to cook, he's suggesting the un healthy stuff... its gotta stop

Plan ahead. Plan together. Agree a cooking rota of healthy food.

Be clear on what you need from him. He doesn't have to be on a diet too, but he does need to support you in yours.

planning ahead is a struggle because of my work schedule.. i get overtime at the last minute and i work 12 hr shift days to begin with, this is something he definitely needs to help me with and i think we are gonna have a talk tonight


thank you ladies for your input.

meerkat70

I dunno. Busy times I can work 12-15 hour days, often quite unexpectedly - so I know it can be difficult to manage healthy eating against a demanding work schedule. But planning is really the only thing that keeps me reasonably straight, food wise. Not necessarily days in advance, but the night before, be clear on what you're going to do the next day. Agree together who'll cook the next day. If you're going to leave it all to fate, well, in my experience fate is a pretty unhealthy mistress who likes high calorie snacks. :-)

mommamindi

The crock pot is your friend! I have a crock pot and a steamer, with 4 kids, a full time internship and a full time student schedule plus homeschooling we are always busy, if you put dinner together in the morning, put it in the crock pot, cook it on low you will have a great meal come time to eat. My steamer it takes about 20 minutes to steam rice/fish/veggies all at once! Good luck

Mandypt

I dunno. Busy times I can work 12-15 hour days, often quite unexpectedly - so I know it can be difficult to manage healthy eating against a demanding work schedule. But planning is really the only thing that keeps me reasonably straight, food wise. Not necessarily days in advance, but the night before, be clear on what you're going to do the next day. Agree together who'll cook the next day. If you're going to leave it all to fate, well, in my experience fate is a pretty unhealthy mistress who likes high calorie snacks. :-)

thanks!

JamesonsMommy

He doesn't understand why I am trying to lose weight but he wants to have a baby just as bad as I do so i gotta fill him in on the "its easier to get pregnant when you are healthier"

SOO TRUE!! I have a girlfriend that tried everything with her husband including treatments to have a little one.. She decided to get healthy and lose some weight and now they are the proud parents to a beautiful baby boy who will be turning 2 in a couple months

jennabellaxoxo

the hard part for me is my husband NEEDS to eat and eat and eat! So do my kids..they are all rails, and all extremelty active (all boys)...I dont buy reduced fat or caloie things b/c they need every calorie they can get..I add butter, I add crean, I add bread. I just dont eat what they eat. It stinks most of the time but they dont get I cant eat like them. i am so used to it by now its fine but every once in a while I have to sneak a bite!

Cindy311

It sucks when you are trying to change your lifestyle and no one else around you does. This is a part of life and it will never be fair and that is why I use this to my advantage. Look at what those people eat and then look at where it has gotten them then look at your plate and see where it's taking you. Anyway, just give him some time he may join up with you...mine did a couple of years into my weight loss and now he's lost almost 70 lbs.