Getting Rid of the "Fat-girl" mentality

jw17695

Oh man. I am SO there!! I just found this site today: www.mybodygallery.com. You can input your height, weight, size, shape and it gives you random images of women your size. I must admit, I was shocked. The girls my size are HOT! I had to look FORTY lbs heavier than I am to find girls who looked like how I think I look.

Checking it out now.

AshinAms

Still not figured it out (70 lb later) and get quite embarrassed by male attention etc as I can't see what they see.

cherbapp

Oh man. I am SO there!! I just found this site today: www.mybodygallery.com. You can input your height, weight, size, shape and it gives you random images of women your size. I must admit, I was shocked. The girls my size are HOT! I had to look FORTY lbs heavier than I am to find girls who looked like how I think I look.

This is amazing....I often look at other overweight people and guess which ones I look like...when I put in my height and weight on there, I was like...*no way do I look like that!* ...so maybe my husband IS right when he tells me I look better than I think I do. (Don't tell him I admit he is right though....LOL)

Scarlett_S

I don't know how to get rid of it...I've got it too. Size 20 to a 10 and even an 8 in some things....I am 5'10 and skinny as I was in high school but I just see fat thighs and fat stomach, and still feel insecure about what I wear and being in front of people....

Maggieq87

I have always been WAY bigger than all my friends. Like at least 100 lbs heavier. Now, I am the same clothing size as my friends. and I still thin I'm bigger. It shocked me NYE when my girls and i all swapped outfits, lol. A man at the party PICKED ME UP and spun me around, I freaked out. You can't do that, I'm SO FAT! But he didn't know me when i was heavy and told me I was insane. I will always feel the same as my fat girl self, I'm afraid...

moodyfeesh14

what have you been doing to lose so much weight? It gives me hope to see you having lost so much weight and knowing that my goal is not impossible

Jill_newimprovedversion

I am SO glad you brought this up....
It really does bring to light just how *MENTAL* this has become though......and that's an even bigger battle than the pounds- in my opinion.....I've reached my goal weight, and am in maintenance now- and the mental part STILL hasn't been transformed....

You know, I think a lot of women harbor not-so-secret resentment of "thin girls". What happens, then, when you become thin? Your brain doesn't magically change. It takes time to change your self-perception, and focusing on your HEALTH and your other great qualities that have nothing to do with the number on the tag of your jeans really does have a lot of value.

But if you need to see it for yourself, have you taken before-and-after photos? Especially next to someone or something whose size hasn't changed? That's a good visual knock upside the head.

WOW- I so appreciate your input- THIS was a *REVELATION* to me! and I gotta admit, now that I've hit maintenance and I'm experiencing this lack of satisfaction....THIS explains to me WHY now....

BuceesNana

I know the feeling. I know that I am wearing much smaller clothes, but I just don't see myself as a thinner person, at least I didn't until this weekend. I saw my shadow. Yup...that crazy little thing that follows you everywhere. I actually had to do a double take. I was amazed at the difference. So, if you see me out on the street, looking down, I'm not sad, not depressed, I'm checking myself out in my shadow. It is a nitfy reminder of what I have accomplished right there with me all the time.

cryspetstalerson

I agree so much. A few months ago I had lost 15 pounds. I have put it back on since then, but the only thing that had me believing I lost weight, was my husband telling me how good I looked, and a phone call from my mom telling me that my father saw the pics I had posted and could tell I lost weight. My father is one who never comments on that stuff.

andforpoise

what have you been doing to lose so much weight? It gives me hope to see you having lost so much weight and knowing that my goal is not impossible

You're right! No matter what you're goal is, it isn't impossible! I honestly didn't think I was going to go anywhere when I joined this site...but I just kept at it... my biggest tips are portion control and amping the activity levels! Running, as much as I hated it, has become part of my life and is one of the greatest ways to lose weight That's all I've been doing!

AND WOW! Thank you ALL for responding! I wish I could quote every awesome piece of advice you've all offered up, but I can't! I will keep re-reading it too! And I am glad that it is here for others to read too! Thank you all SOOO MUCH!