Never thought i would be saying this...

Heidiwarwick

I have lost all the pounds I Breaded to through MFP. And a few more besides. At 5'0" I started out at 8 stone 6/7 and set my goal at 7.5 stone. When I got there I carried on, intentionally, to 7 stone. Then it carried on as I unintentionally wasn't eating quite enough to maintain. On top of this, my husband, we have been together for 20 years, has ended our relationship a week ago. We are still in the house together with our 2 teenagers and my appetite has disappeared. I am now 6 stone 6/7 and underweight and no longer feel any need to get up, exercise, eat, laugh.

Lozze

I think you need to go to your doctor. It sounds like you are (understandably) suffering from depression. I'm so, so sorry about your marriage. Go to your doctor and tell them what you've just posted.

*hugs*

slayerdan

I was close to 400 lbs when I divorced. I didnt eat for 8 days straight except for a few liquids....this was not a conscious decision, it just happened. It is part of the transition phase and shock, and actually helps you move forward. Depression, sadness from a split is NORMAL. It is the same as the stages of grief--a relationship has ended, thus dying. Do not go to a counselor right away unless you just have withdrawn from everything. Rule of thumg is that if after 6-10 weeks you arent getting back to your own self, then seek professional help. We always want someone else to guide us through our pain, when sometimes we need to navigate those waters ourselves.

And prior to anyone telling me that isnt good advice, I have been a mental health counselor since 1995 and have worked this with many, many patients. Of course everyone is different and that is not a hard and fast rule, but dismal times leads to stronger people. History and personal experience support this.

Have a good new year and I hope that you are able to get through this time of your life soundly.

D

annabellj

I am so sorry you are going thru this right now. prayers for you to be strong. try to eat something to take care of your body. definitely go to the dr as they have medication that can help. I know what you are going thru right now.

strawberry123187

I think you should find someone you trust or a professional to talk to about some of this. I went through the same thing when my first marrieage ended and was miserable, it if hadn't been for my mom being the voice of reason and experience I would've stayed shut in for far longer even though I was the one who left and new it wouldn't have been healthy to go back.

Finally22

I can promise you it does get easier and better and you will laugh again. Losing your desire to eat is certainly a normal stage in grief. Divorce is like a death. In my case I wanted to be divorced but I still felt as though it was the death of something. Maybe the death of my dreams... now after 2 years on my own - I am stronger and even better than before. I wish you luck and strengh to deal with all of this. Msg me if you need a friend to listen to you or hey even cry with you....

Heidiwarwick

Thanks for your understanding messages.
I have made an appointment to see my doctor tomorrow to discuss my situation.
Thanks again. X