My fiance likes fat women

jaygirl3

I met my fiance 5 years ago, when i was overweight. He didnt have any complaints, as he is sexually attracted to plus sized women, (size 14 AND ABOVE). however, the weight wasnt healthy for me, and i began to have prediabetes.

I started working on my weight and i am currently a small US size 10 (roughly). He has been very supportive of the weight loss, but i notice a drastic decline in our sex life (i see him 5 times a week but we have sex once in two months). I am a bit worried, i feel sad on one hand that i am depriving him of what he had ....................and at the same time, happy that i am healthier. He has been supportive, giving me tips, or waking me up to workout and not complaining all through. but i am also worried what happens after the wedding. I might start getting frustrated with the lack of sex.

anyone went through something like this? wither as the person who lost weight or person whose spouse lost weight?

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

First of all congratulations on your weight loss success. To answer your concern, the best thing to do is to ask him openly about this & how it affect you. And another thing, while sex is one aspect of any love relationship but it shouldn't be the center of anything. If your fiance truly loves you, he will always be there for you no matter your size & most of all he should be more concerned on your health than just sex. I know several men who do like curvy women but if they truly love their women, they will stick with them no matter what happens.

Luandanielle1979

I think if he loves you and desrves you he should be proud of you becoming more healthy and bettering yourself.
I would seriously have words with him and ask him outright if he prefered you bigger. If the answer is yes I would get rid. How dare he treat you differnently for becoming someone you want to be.
There are a million guys out there who would salute your progress and find you ooodles more sexy. There is nothing wrong with your guy liking cuddly chicks my man loves big butts and boobies. He also loves that I have lost weight and have for confidence.

You have it out with him honey and fight your corner.

Be proud of yourself and well done on your amazing progress xxx

hbiffle

I went through something similar. I also dated a guy that liked plus size women, when we met I was around a size 10 but while we were dating I gained weight and became a size 14-16 which he loved. He actually made the comment to me that he would love it if I gained even more weight (and then I found some extremely large women (300+ lbs) in porno videos that he had downloaded) I however felt awful and started to watch what I ate and started to workout and loose weight and it caused some strain in our relationship. I didn't want to be with someone that didn't fully love me for who I was (no matter what size I was) but instead wanted a larger version of myself. Needless to say we are not together and that was not the only reason, but it definitely contributed. I wanted praise and excitement for me becoming healthier but unfortunately I did not get that from him. Luckily a few months later I met the man that is now my husband who is extremely supportive of everything I do.

Best of luck to you! And congrats on your loss so far!!! I know how excited I was when I finally got into a size 10!!! Keep up the good work!!

FionaNiConnor

Yikes! That's hard to deal with. I'm looking at a similar issue, myself.

The guy I'm (newly) dating likes bigger girls. I'm a size 16/18, and New Guy keeps telling me "you're beautiful the way you are!"

My response? "Thank you, babe, but I'm not doing this for you."

Thankfully, New Guy is an athlete and he totally supports my weight loss goals, plus he's been giving me tips to help me out. Good luck with your guy... maybe you could buy one of those fat suits like they have in movies? (Okay, probably one made in poor taste, but that was a joke.)