whats the first thing you did after your divorce???

denisegolden

i am just at the beginning! but i am a plan maker, and am taking ideas...lol...friday my papers will be drawn and ready for the serving. soon to be ex should be served monday morning...he swore i would never have the guts to do this, and even though it took a very long time...i am doing it...so give me your thoughts...how did you celebrate yours?

skatermom503

I am so proud of you, Denise. This takes so much courage and strength. I hope you are doing well. Mine was so long ago and my kids were little so don't remember doing anything but moving to another house since he moved right behind the one I was in. I hope the boys are doing well. And know you are a strong woman and don't deserve all the crap you had to take. It is not a failure, it is a new beginning for all of you. You should be excited about what your future holds. But be careful. Monday the hubby is going to be pissed. Watch your back, girl!

Daysednconfused

i am just at the beginning! but i am a plan maker, and am taking ideas...lol...friday my papers will be drawn and ready for the serving. soon to be ex should be served monday morning...he swore i would never have the guts to do this, and even though it took a very long time...i am doing it...so give me your thoughts...how did you celebrate yours?

Just do whatever it is that makes you happy! Send him a condolence card maybe?? Just kidding! Grab a friend and a couple of beers, a dinner, a movie, etc. Good luck to you on your new journey as a single woman! :drinker:

jamk1446

My ex dragged out our divorce over 2 years, hopefully you get closure long before then!

I celebrated at a 4 star restaurant for lunch right after I left the courthouse.

AshDHart

Mine was over 18 years ago but I danced through Civic Plaza (located next to the court house) with my papers in hand!

Now I'm happily married.

1234terri

This may surprise, but my ex and I were so young and didn't have kids, houses, etc., and didn't hate each other. We went for a wonderful, expensive lunch at a waterfront restaurant in Ft Lauderdale and had fresh strawberry daiquiris as I recall....like 28 years ago...

-Terri O

sinistertitan

Go get laid!!!

galvodka

We signed our papers in September and I'm expecting divorce to be final any day now! I can't wait! I'm totally going to treat myself with night out having nice dinner/drinks!

rmwinters

Ummmmm, yeah.

StrengthIsBeautiful

I can't remember. But I think that in itself is a very good thing!

kk0223

Well, the day I was told it was final. I cried. lol Then, celebrated by going out with friends and dancing! I then decided to start dieting to lose weight and become happy again with myself! It's only been a little over 5 months since it was final and I'm doing fine!

It sucks. I still hurt sometimes but apparently it's what was meant to be! Good luck with your journey and live it up!

_Timmeh_

Went out with a friend of mine, we got tattoos, went out for grub and got drunk. His wife came to pick us up from a bookstore we had wandered into.... :drinker:

kanonxbou47

Never gotten divorced, but if I did I'd get laiiiiiiiid to celebrate.

DakotaKeogh

I didn't celebrate. I mourned for a decade. And I grew to be morbidly obese. Just move on. Don't take yourself into the abyss.

Becca_007

...how did you celebrate yours?

:huh: celebrate??? what exactly is there to celebrate with a broken relationship. The day papers were exchanged was not a day I thought of as one to celebrate.

guess we're all different that way......:ohwell:

Ummmmm, yeah.

I didn't celebrate. I mourned for a decade. And I grew to be morbidly obese. Just move on. Don't take yourself into the abyss.

sixxbaby

My ex and I had dinner with our kids, it was VERY bittersweet, we still love each other, but circumstances just didn't let it happen. But soon after I went to a High School Reunion and had sex with a high school crush.

sadiecara

I didnt celebrate the day my divorce came through, I was just really sad it hadnt worked out. But I got a tattoo to remind me what is important in my life, and then I started living life properly... For me.. I have been single for 5+ years and have had loads of amazing experiences that I wouldnt have had if married. Make a bucket list of all the things you would love to do, and work your way through it x

hermione_ar

It was a relief for me that it was over. My ex was abusive and very controlling, down to my hair and clothes etc. He hated blonde hair and short hair - mine was down to my hips because that's how he liked it. So I went to the hairdresser, and went blond and cut half it off! Felt great.

samantha1953

...how did you celebrate yours?

:huh: celebrate??? what exactly is there to celebrate with a broken relationship. The day papers were exchanged was not a day I thought of as one to celebrate.

guess we're all different that way......:ohwell:

Ummmmm, yeah.

I didn't celebrate. I mourned for a decade. And I grew to be morbidly obese. Just move on. Don't take yourself into the abyss.

It's different for everyone. When first separated I cried a lot. I had a 2 year old and never wanted him to have a broken home. I went to technical school, got a good job and 18 months later when the divorce was final I went drinking and dancing with friends. One of my girlfriends' divorce was final the same day. We partied together and are still good friends. I'm married now to my REAL husband and life is good. Make a life, don't settle for anything less than you deserve. You deserve love and happiness!

sidhe31

I didn't really celebrate the day my papers came through. I spent much of the day laughing at the absurdity of the situation and then proceeded to spend the next 3 days taking care of what fed my soul (not just my body). 3 days of riding my bike in a new place, hanging out with a good friend who wanted to just share thoughts and company. It was one of the best ways possible to mark the end of a period of my life that came close to destroying me, by fuelling the rebirth of myself.

Puffins1958

Even though I initiated my divorce, it still HURT...that all he cared about was how much money I made. I'm glad that I don't have to settle anymore. Everyone deserves to be happy. I don't remember exactly, probably went to work....like any other day, lol

denisegolden

it is definately going to be a day for me to celebrate...he has been ugly and abusive to me for many of these 19 years and i was told daily that i would and could not make it without him...and you know what? i am making it, so i will celebrate, thank you!!!

suepeta

had a great party, and bought a new bedroom suite

supertracylynn

Bump.

karmaticgeek

I celebrated, because after years of abuse, I bloody well deserved it. I went out with my new friends (I didn't have any when I was him) and got stupidly drunk the day the divorce was final. Ironically, it was finalised just days within what would've been our fifth anniversary. I remember laughing hysterically over that but the rest is a bit of a blur. For some reason.

Whatever you decide to do, enjoy it. You deserve no less.

manjingirl

I went straight back to university and finished my degree (and more). Ex had said I wasn't allowed to study (amongst other things). Basically just turned around my life and I haven't looked back. Happily remarried to the best guy (24 years).

bakebunny

Cried because he didn't care enough. Then pulled myself up by the bootstraps and went on with the life I was trying to re-build for myself and my autistic sons.

april_beth

i think i went on a sex binge with my friend kevin...i remember however that i was constantly nervous cause that's how my ex made me feel; nervous about doing anything ever...and it took me a bit to get over that and realize that i was, in fact, a big girl finally out from a controlling thumb...

iishnova

My ex dragged out our divorce over 2 years, hopefully you get closure long before then!

I celebrated at a 4 star restaurant for lunch right after I left the courthouse.

I'm at 2.5 years right now -.- I don't know how I'll celebrate yet as there have been many plans over the past two years. I guess it depends where I am. If I'm still in Japan I will celebrate by treating myself to a trip. Skiing if it's soon, Tokyo if it's later. If I'm back in the states you will be able to hear me and my friends singing with joy from the east coast to the west coast!

TheRoadDog

Well, let's see.

After Divorce Number 1, I moved out of the beautiful 4 Bdrm, 3 bath home we had just purchased and moved into a $250 per month furnished dive. Gave up home, trike, car and my dog, Remo. Proceeeded to incur debt, do drugs, drink too much and party hard.

After Divorce Number 2, proceeded to continue to party, *kitten* around and drink too much, at first. Lost car only this time. Started to get it together a little. Opened a TKD school. Faked being a good guy for a couple years, but I was still out of control.

After Divorce Number 3, got my act together. Lost Condo, Vacation Home, Motorcycle and Car. Got a Temp Job that progressed to a permanent job. Finally got my *kitten* together.

Married number 4. Never looked back. Been together 22 years. Coming up on 20th anniversary. Home almost paid for. 3 Cars. Motorcycle. Good Job. Great Wife. 3 great daughters.

Everything that happened before 1987 is just an funny story now.

LuciaLongIsland

I went to bars, I was in my 30's then and did a lot of dancing. Nice, classy places, not dives. I had so much fun.