Too thin???

roguex_1979

Wasn't sure where to put this post, so correct me if I'm wrong...

...and may even follow up with a picture later, but I was shown a picture of me when I was weighing 135lbs and I was instantly told by people who have only known me while I've been very heavy that I look too thin and sick.

Ok, in the picture, I don't look very happy because of my horrible marriage at the time, but to be told that at the upper part of my healthy BMI I looked too thin and sick...what am I supposed to do now when I am trying to get back to that? I was also told by my doctor that 140 would be fine for me (in the lower part of overweight BMI for my height)...surely she's not supposed to be telling me to be in the overweight category??

I am 5ft 2inches, but I wouldn't consider myself to be small boned...probably average.

Anyone help?

SwtKittN

I don't have advice, but I did want to tell you that I love your display picture hehe

helloburger

Im 5"1 and i'm aiming for 112lbs/105lbs... but I cant really comment without seeing what the picture is

iceqieen

check with your doctor why he says 140. also see if he has comments on the big/avg/small bonesize.

and listen to your body rather than the scale.

julieinomaha

I am 5'4" and am at 132 to 134 (fluctuating with the holidays!) with medium bone structure. I started at 145 lbs with a target weight of 128 lbs however I have more muscle now than when I weighed less at earlier points in my life and now I think that where I am at is going to be fine. I think you need to set a target, go down the journey and see how you feel and look as you go and reset your target goal as you recalibrate. Don't get fixated on a number without factoring in how you feel. I had gotten fixated on the number and have waken up to the fact that really isn't what is important and you have to let it go if when you get closer it doesn't make sense.

Good Luck!

xraychick77

i am 5'2" and i currently weigh 127-128 lbs. I consider myself thin, but not sickly looking. Of course i have worked very hard to put on some muscle mass. I got down to 118-117 before I 'bulked', i gained 10 lbs..hopefully a lot of that muscle over the past 6 months. I still fit into my new 118 lbs skinny jeans, and really dont feel or look like i've gained 10 lbs...besides my biceps and calves looking bigger, back more defined and i can actually feel quad muscles. hehe

I dont go on BMI, it should be considered obsolete and useless. Body fat percentage is better to go on. Ultimately its about being healthy and fit. Not about the numbers on a scale.

ps..as an xray tech i can tell you, there is no such thing as big boned or smalled boned.

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

Only two things, either they're just not accustomed to see you at the healthy weight or it could be out of jealousy which is why they're saying those things to you but listen to your body. I'm 1.57m (I think its equal to 5'2") and medium framed. Currently I weigh 54kgs or about 119 lbs. (sorry I'm using metric units so not that familiar with your unit of measurements there) but I don't think I look sickly although those people who are accustomed to seeing me overweight do say those things to me. And those who say those things to me are overweight themselves.

roguex_1979

I've just uploaded the picture to my profile. Red top. Tell me if I look ill!

MrsSpinks

You definitely do not look too thin! Quite simply, you look slim and healthy!! I have seen too thin, and that ain't it!

helloburger

you look completely fine! Not too thin at all!

I agree with the other poster, I reckon people dont feel accustomed to seeing you weigh less

TwinMumCork

You look very well there its just hard for the people who see you now to not see you as too thin in the old photo.

I agree with the previous poster who said its all about body fat %.

eeebee

Do you feel healthy/are you excercising/eating healthily and are you happy with what you see in the mirror? This is what is important.

You look great - not too thin and certainly not overwight, judging by your photo.

aaleigha1

that photo doesnt look too thin to me
I think you look lovely

HonkyTonks

Wasn't sure where to put this post, so correct me if I'm wrong...

...and may even follow up with a picture later, but I was shown a picture of me when I was weighing 135lbs and I was instantly told by people who have only known me while I've been very heavy that I look too thin and sick.

Ok, in the picture, I don't look very happy because of my horrible marriage at the time, but to be told that at the upper part of my healthy BMI I looked too thin and sick...what am I supposed to do now when I am trying to get back to that? I was also told by my doctor that 140 would be fine for me (in the lower part of overweight BMI for my height)...surely she's not supposed to be telling me to be in the overweight category??

I am 5ft 2inches, but I wouldn't consider myself to be small boned...probably average.

Anyone help?

Some people just say weird stuff when it comes to weight, no idea why... You look good in that pic, and if you feel happy with that weight go for it!

beckyinma

I think you look really nice in that picture.

ItsMeRebekah

you look fine and healthy in that pic! 130 is normal for 5'2.. just do whatever makes you happy while trying to be healthy!

Juliebean_1027

Wasn't sure where to put this post, so correct me if I'm wrong...

...and may even follow up with a picture later, but I was shown a picture of me when I was weighing 135lbs and I was instantly told by people who have only known me while I've been very heavy that I look too thin and sick.

Ok, in the picture, I don't look very happy because of my horrible marriage at the time, but to be told that at the upper part of my healthy BMI I looked too thin and sick...what am I supposed to do now when I am trying to get back to that? I was also told by my doctor that 140 would be fine for me (in the lower part of overweight BMI for my height)...surely she's not supposed to be telling me to be in the overweight category??

I am 5ft 2inches, but I wouldn't consider myself to be small boned...probably average.

Anyone help?

I have the opposite problem of you, but I just wanted to share a 'doctor's aren't always right' moment. When I was in high school I weighed 170 (I'm 5'11) and I went to the doctor for my sports physical. She told me she'd like to see me lost anywhere between 40-60 pounds. I know what I would look like if I weighed 110 pounds at 5'11 and it's strikingly similar to a crack addict. Point being, do what you feel comfortable with. Try not to focus so much on what other people are telling you, but lose until YOU are comfortable and happy with the way that you look and feel. Try not to focus so much on the number, but more of the feelings associated with your new weight loss.

rml_16

This is SO COMMON.

I was 110-120 my entire life. There was about a two-year period where I gained a lot of weight (166 and size 12 at my highest). I lost down to 132. My mother, who was not concerned about my weight when I was 110, started accusing me of being anorexic at 132 (I'm 5'3").

A friend of mine started running last year. She wasn't deliberately trying to lose weight, but she lost 40 pounds. She's at the high end of her healthy BMI and looks great. She would be fine staying where she is, but I can also tell she'd look fine if she lost a few more pounds (if she wants to). People have started telling her she's too skinny and needs to stop. But she looks great!

I think a lot of people don't really know anymore what a healthy weight looks like. And those who are used to seeing you at a certain size need time to adjust to the new you. Once you've been thinner for a while, people will get used to it and stop making those comments.

You need to do what makes YOU happy.

savannahgur

You look great..

rml_16

OK, looked at the photo. You do not look sickly or too thin in it. You look fantastic!

MrsSWW

You don't look too thin at all, in fact I think you look fab - well toned, good posture. I do think that when people are used to seeing you a larger size that it can be a bit of a shock when they see you slim - when I told my best friend last weekend that I intend to lost about another 35lbs she was horrified and said there'd be nothing of me. I'd weigh maybe a couple of pounds less than she does and we are the same height.

People's perceptions of you can be quite different, so I'd say be happy with yourself and (to a point) ignore what anyone else thinks x

Hungry_Tuna

I know what you mean, honestly I think it's probably shocking or unusual for them to see you now. Sometimes, things are said out of jealousy.

I bet you look beautiful, that's a healthy weight for someone your height and you should feel proud of yourself for getting there!

MaximalLife

Wasn't sure where to put this post, so correct me if I'm wrong...

...and may even follow up with a picture later, but I was shown a picture of me when I was weighing 135lbs and I was instantly told by people who have only known me while I've been very heavy that I look too thin and sick.

Ok, in the picture, I don't look very happy because of my horrible marriage at the time, but to be told that at the upper part of my healthy BMI I looked too thin and sick...what am I supposed to do now when I am trying to get back to that? I was also told by my doctor that 140 would be fine for me (in the lower part of overweight BMI for my height)...surely she's not supposed to be telling me to be in the overweight category??

I am 5ft 2inches, but I wouldn't consider myself to be small boned...probably average.

Anyone help?

Forget what people say and get in the healthy range.
Also, correlate weight with body fat which can be checked here for free.
Body Fat
http://www.scientificpsychic.com/fitness/diet.html

Again, go with what's definitive - not what people say. Sometimes friends prefer us fat.
Our progress reminds them of how little self-empowerment they all have.

That's why I let go of my drinking and eating friends.

Hungry_Tuna

Just saw your pic, you look fantastic!! I say ignore the naysayers!! Way to go!

driaxx

I don't think you look sickly or 'too thin', you look fine! I'm 5"2 and weigh 92.5 pounds and people still tell me I look like I have curves and a fair bit of meat on me. So I guess it depends on your bone structure and how/where you wear your weight. Unlike me, you actually have boobs which means you can probably get away with being heavier and being better proportioned X).

I'd be happy with your body! Be at the weight which you feel comfortable more than anything else.

Katie5961

I think you look perfectly healthy in that picture! I'm also 5'2" and about 130. But 130 for me on the way up to 165 and coming back down from is immeasureable! I'm so much more fit because of how much muscle I've built up. Now if I went to 115 I WOULD look sickly. I'm near the upper range of what's a healthy weight for me but my body fat percentage is into the athletic category.

When figuring your goal weight you also should factor in muscle, which BMI fails (miserably!) to account for. The important thing is how YOU feel. Just remember to consider body fat percentage and inches rather than weight. Pounds are deceiving!

auticus

Being obsessed with the numbers is one thing that kills us. Being thin often times is not healthy, though we are told if we are not thin then we must be akin to slovenly beasts who aren't really human. Granted being fat is not healthy either, but a few lbs over your "ideal weight" number isn't a horrible thing.

The upper level of my ideal weight is 195 lbs. At 195 lbs you can see my ribs and my pelvis protrudes. To me that is too thin, so I shoot for 205 lbs. At 205 lbs I look normal (to myself) and have about 20% body fat or so, which to me is perfectly fine.

unrulygurl

You look fantastic! The others are right, find a place where YOU are comfortable. BMI is a guideline, before that Doctors used height & weight graphs. For diets we were told to eat from the 4 food groups, then it went to the pyramid, and now we have some weird plate graphic. It's no wonder why we are all screwed up.

Nanadena

I think you look very cute! Great picture. Listen to you heart. I am 5' 8" and weigh 119. I am told how good I look, except by people with weight problems:indifferent:

brendacella

What about setting a size goal vs a weight goal? Depending if you are wt. lifting and building more muscle - a person can weigh more but actually be small in size and that is because the body is toned. Just an idea. Good Luck

Turtle1104

at my lowest weight, i've gained some back, i was told by my family that i was too thin. i was 5'4" at around 135. i've seen pictures of me now vs. then and i can see that i was definitely thinner but i wasn't sickly lookly in my opinion. i agree with someone else that posted about how your family is used to seeing you a little plumper so it's a change for them that will take a little getting used to. also, i've been told by my dietician that our body has sort of an lower equilibrium weight that it is comfortable at and unless you push your diet one way or the other, good or bad, that is likely where your body will settle out. not sure if this is true.