Why does my boyfriend make me so mad?

TheRoadDog

No guy with an ounce of instinct for self-preservation is going to say "Honey, looks like you're putting on a little weight. Why don't we get into some kind of weight loss program?"

We're not stupid.

Just because we give you a dumb look when you ask, "Does this make me look fat?" doesn't mean we didn't understand the question.

rml_16

I don't see anything wrong with what he said. *shrug*

TimWilkinson101

Oh and while I remember, I was engaged to a woman who was happy with how I was (hence being engaged) and then got the gym bug in a serious way (5 times a week). She wanted me to go with her so we could "share that time". I didn't want to go to the gym 5 times a week to be honest.

I used to go once upon a time quite a lot, but that person wasn't me then. I was happy to go now and then when I wanted to, but she was insistent that I went everytime she did. It got a bit much when I was coming home from a busy day wiped out and she'd be telling me to hurry up and get changed as "we" were late for circuits. I also got a bit fed up that after I got their (under protest) she'd then criticise me and the way I was doing the exercises in front of people. I spent 16 years in the RAF and still she thought I was doing pressups wrong!

So bear that in mind. The guy might not want to go to the gym.. or not as much as you'd like.

Roni_M

I love men...they are such simple creatures (and I honestly do not mean that in a bad or derogatory way). They just don't feel the need to over analyze every thing we say (where we tend to try to find the underlying meaning in everything they say). Give them a problem that we need solved and they are all over it. Just straight up tell him your want to workout x times a week at the gym and need him to do it with you to keep you on track. Worked when i asked my hubby to walk with me...but be ready for it! For most if they are fixing something they go at it 150%. My walks were hard, fast and an hour is better than a half hour in his mind! He then geared me up with an HRM, ankle weights, walking shoes, etc. I love him to death for his problem solving skills!!

Chairless

I love men...they are such simple creatures (and I honestly do not mean that in a bad or derogatory way). They just don't feel the need to over analyze every thing we say (where we tend to try to find the underlying meaning in everything they say). Give them a problem that we need solved and they are all over it. Just straight up tell him your want to workout x times a week at the gym and need him to do it with you to keep you on track. Worked when i asked my hubby to walk with me...but be ready for it! For most if they are fixing something they go at it 150%. My walks were hard, fast and an hour is better than a half hour in his mind! He then geared me up with an HRM, ankle weights, walking shoes, etc. I love him to death for his problem solving skills!!

Can it be true? someone who understands us.

Roni_M

I love men...they are such simple creatures (and I honestly do not mean that in a bad or derogatory way). They just don't feel the need to over analyze every thing we say (where we tend to try to find the underlying meaning in everything they say). Give them a problem that we need solved and they are all over it. Just straight up tell him your want to workout x times a week at the gym and need him to do it with you to keep you on track. Worked when i asked my hubby to walk with me...but be ready for it! For most if they are fixing something they go at it 150%. My walks were hard, fast and an hour is better than a half hour in his mind! He then geared me up with an HRM, ankle weights, walking shoes, etc. I love him to death for his problem solving skills!!

Can it be true? someone who understands us.

Yes, but it took me many years to figure it out. I also learned that the cranky mutterings at the end of a long work day have absolutely nothing to do with me and asking what's wrong is just like poking an angry bear and generally fixed by a steak dinner! LOL