Baby Fever!

WalkingGirl1985

I'm 26, and have been feeling this for a few years now. Right now, I feel im at my peak. I'm doing my GED right now, and almost done..not sure if i should attempt college, mariaage and family all in one..heard others can do it, I feel I can too. Anyone else going through this? How old were you when you felt the desire? How did you go about things?

mistresseeyore

I have baby fever right now. I only have a few more semi healthy baby breeding years ahead of me. I turn 40 in 4 years. I do know that once we have our second, I'm going to be working on getting back in college. That way I don't have the hormones kicking me during pregnancy while I'm trying to learn. You can do it, if you really want to, but I would at least wait until you finish your GED first. You don't want to get side tracked. I didn't have baby fever when I was your age, because I was told I was infertile and didn't want to try fertility treatments. Now that I have Alex, I want him to have a baby brother or sister. I just feel he is so lonely being an only child.

runnercheryl

I'm 26, and have been feeling this for a few years now. Right now, I feel im at my peak. I'm doing my GED right now, and almost done..not sure if i should attempt college, mariaage and family all in one..heard others can do it, I feel I can too. Anyone else going through this? How old were you when you felt the desire? How did you go about things?

I have a very strong maternal instinct. For a number of years I've dealt with this by working for children's charities. I genuinely believe my one true 'calling' in life is to help children in any way I can. That's the one thing that makes my life truly purposeful. Many things make me extremely happy, my fiance for instance, but I do feel unfulfilled if I'm not somehow working to make the lives of children better. For me, my charity work is a big distraction for now. I'm 24, and I'm aiming to have a child when I'm 27 or 28, probably more like 28.

It's very important to me to have plenty of money set aside, and to be a healthy weight before I get pregnant. That's what triggered me to change my lifestyle - I can be as unhealthy as I like if I'm only living for me, but no way am I deliberately going to get pregnant and have another innocent person I love so much use my unhealthy body. I went to university, found the man I loved and we're due to get married next year. Then, we have a couple more years to live just for us, setting aside money and building a future at the same time as having a little frivolous fun with holidays, days out and lazy days in, then I can start a family knowing I've made the best of it. I know my instinct is strong, but I also know my life (and my fiance's) will change completely when I become pregnant. I might desperately want to be a mum, but I'm not going to throw away these years either.

Nos150

my father in law gave me some great advice:

Never wait until you can afford children because you will never be able to.
Never wait until you feel that you have time for children because there is never going to be a perfect moment.
it doesn't matter when or how. you are not going to love them any different.

sistergoddess

my father in law gave me some great advice:

Never wait until you can afford children because you will never be able to.
Never wait until you feel that you have time for children because there is never going to be a perfect moment.
it doesn't matter when or how. you are not going to love them any different.

SO TRUE!!

CLotfy

I'm 26 years old and a mom to 19 month old boy/girl twins....and I'm EXHAUSTED! You can have my kids!

Jillabella180

I turned 40 in 2011. I've wanted children for about 20 years. One of the reasons I'm working on getting healthy is so that I can (God willing) become a mother.

Clarecbear82

I have three kids and after the day they've given me today all I can say is "DON'T DO IT!!!"

Only joking like a pp said if you wait till everything is perfect you will never have any

_snw_

i waited until i was 32 to have my first. I have 3 kids now 3, 6 & 7.

I am so glad i waited until i had an established career and that i spent time being utterly selfish.

Qarol

babies do make me feel ill...I never knew it was called baby fever, though

austepants

my father in law gave me some great advice:

Never wait until you can afford children because you will never be able to.
Never wait until you feel that you have time for children because there is never going to be a perfect moment.
it doesn't matter when or how. you are not going to love them any different.

I agree 100%!!!

Hsanders3961

BABY FEVER HERE! I'm 23, my husband is 26 and it seems all our friends are popping out babies left and right. We have been ready for about a year, but were waiting to finish off our degrees. I'll be done with my Bachelors in December, so we decided to go ahead and start trying. I would only have a few months left of school (if I got pregnant NOW), so I could handle that. I do go to school full time and work full time, and I dont think I could have done it all with a baby in the mix, but I do know people who do! Anything is possible if you want it bad enough!

AmberMagdalena

I get like that sometimes at 25...I want just one baby! But I'd like to spend just a couple more years being selfish (maybe 3 or 4)....

_SusieQ_

I felt something like the desire for kids somewhere between the ages of 18-20, luckily it passed and I got over it.

La_Amazona

In my 20's all I could think about was babies! (I was married)... It probably hit shortly after I got married at 22. My ex and I were unable to have kids (blessing in disguise!!!!) together.

I'm 32 now and getting divorced. Now all I can think about is mini skirts, heels, friends, etc. I'm going backwards!

I'm about to go selfish- BIG TIME. If kids are in my future then they are, if they're not then so be it.

california_peach

I'm 26, and have been feeling this for a few years now. Right now, I feel im at my peak. I'm doing my GED right now, and almost done..not sure if i should attempt college, mariaage and family all in one..heard others can do it, I feel I can too. Anyone else going through this? How old were you when you felt the desire? How did you go about things?

I always wanted kids, but never felt feverish about it until I had them. It's probably all the germs they bring home from school.

Kenzietea2

my father in law gave me some great advice:

Never wait until you can afford children because you will never be able to.
Never wait until you feel that you have time for children because there is never going to be a perfect moment.
it doesn't matter when or how. you are not going to love them any different.

Thank you for posting this. I don't think you know what this did for me :flowerforyou:

learningtolove

I have baby fever right now. I am only 19 ,though so I am trying to hold off till I get a bit more travelling done. Once I get Europe and Africa out of the way I will probably go ahead since Im done college and make good money.

ilookthetype

An evening babysitting has always managed to kill my "baby fever"

Oh and waitressing, waitressing really did a number on my maternal instinct.

bikermike5094

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Nbean24

I agree that there is no "right time", but I think you can plan for the best time possible. I'm going to be 29 next month and I really just got baby crazy within the last year. For me personally, I'm waiting until I'm just about finished grad school before we start actively trying for a baby. I know how I am when I get consumed with school work and I don't think I could handle a baby on top of that. But everyone is different!

Right now I am planning a wedding (3 months away eek!), going through a major kitchen/bathroom renovation, trying to get promoted at work, and I started grad school in the Fall of 2011. Oh yea, and I have a fiance who wants to spend time with me. Most people think I'm nuts, but I actually function better when my life is busy! My point is...do what feels right for you. No one else can tell you what you can and cannot handle .

Pocket_Pixi

babies do make me feel ill...I never knew it was called baby fever, though

Hahah well now we know.. Best birth control ever? Living with someone who has kids... seriously.

MGleason2010

I am almost 26 and have had really bad baby fever since I got married at 24 UNTIL my nephew came and I babysat him several times and for 12 hours and tried taking him grocery shopping or clothing shopping with me or just out anywhere ahhhhh. Now i'm content to enjoy my nephew and "see what happens" between me and my husband. it's A LOT of work and i've decided to enjoy things the way they are for now.

I know that sounds like we are trying and I guess i'm some technical way we are, but i'm no longer bummed each month that i'm not pregnant and i'm not worried if I don't get pregnant soon. I will say though that both my husband and I have established carreers, finished our degrees, and own our home. While I agree that you are never ready for children financially, I personally had/have financial and personal goals in mind before we started to "see what happens"

cocolo89

I am having it too!! All my friends are pregnant or just had their 2nd baby (their first was born around the same time as my daughter) I am really starting to want another baby. My daughter is 19months now and I think she will be an AWESOME big sister... keeping my fingers crossed for another girl!! )) I think I will end up with a Christmas baby, I just want another one sooo bad! LOL

La_Amazona

An evening babysitting has always managed to kill my "baby fever"

Funny in my 20's I'd keep my baby goddaughter for a weekend and I LOVED it. I'd cherish it and play mommy. It'd make my ovaries quiver even more.
Last year I babysat my 10 month old nephew while my sis and her hub went away for about 5 days. :noway: He's a good baby too. I was tired, grouchy, couldn't do my nails, couldn't work out w/o stopping, etc etc. It dramatically made me re-think kiddos.

pupcamper

Ofcourse you CAN do it all at once but the questions is do you want to! Do you want to add extra pressure on yourself when you are finishing your GED, do you want to rush the honeymoon period of your marriage and have the added relationship pressure a newborn will bring, once you have done everything you want where do you go from there? Where is the fire - slowing down to enjoy life has it's rewards too!!

FYI - There is no right and wrong time to have a baby, you are never truly prepared for the changes having a baby will bring!

CakeFit21

I have never had baby fever.

Qarol

An evening babysitting has always managed to kill my "baby fever"

Oh and waitressing, waitressing really did a number on my maternal instinct.

Supernanny works well, too....

Although, for those of us who don't actually want kids, it gives us nightmares, instead.

Jennyismyname

I am 27, I will be 28 in June. I have had this "Baby Fever" for 3 years or so. My fiance and I bought a house last April, we are getting our bills paid off. on the other hand, 3 years ago I was bar tending and I had a crappy night with perverted men all over the place and I hated it... I put my 2 weeks in and I told my fiance that I really wanted to quit work and go to school. He told me to quit my job (though I already had done so) and go to school so that I can provide a good life for a little one. I am going into my third year of college, in 2 or 3 years I will have my bachelors in Radiological Science and then I will have a baby.. My advice to you is get the things you want in life done, as in a college degree, before you have a child. Believe me, it will make life so much easier. I couldn't imagine having a little one right now AND go to school. I didn't want to regret not going to school, though my wants for a little one are so strong. Good luck to whatever you do, and if you want to chit chat with someone who is going through what you are, feel free to add me as a friend. I will do what I can to help you through it.

TDGee

An evening babysitting has always managed to kill my "baby fever"

Oh and waitressing, waitressing really did a number on my maternal instinct.

I have found that the best birth control for teenagers is having a little brother or sister at home. All you have to do is remind them that "This can all be yours..." I have four kids, 25, 21, 12, & 8. I have no grandchildren and there are no plans for them on the horizon.
Kids cannot be prepared for, you can only hope to contain them. And that is only temporary.

SinIsIn

I never had "baby fever", I just sort of got pregnant at 18! hahahhahaha...
I did want a kid before I got old so I got pregnant again at 26, he was not a suprise.