I need advice

Jessicaruby

ok without going into details i need some advice. I have a very very very tough decision to make. this decision will alter my life in many ways and i am scared to decide. how do you know what to do and what is the right choice?

kacarter1017

I was given this advice when I also had a tough decision to make. "Be still, be honest, be real." Didn't like that very much because I like to be on the move, on the go; I don't like to be honest with myself (I'm very honest with others, but not me); and "be real??" what does that mean?

Well, the be still means to take the time to think through all parts of your decision. Sometimes making a "pro and con" list can help. This may take several "be still" moments to get through the whole process. Take your time- make sure you are thorough. Being honest with myself was really hard. I'm great at making it all good for everyone else, but not thinking about myself. Be honest about why you are considering a change, what's in it for you, what's the downside for you. Being real means to realizing that this change will have negative effects, you may second guess yourself, you are ready and willing to move forward.

Once you've looked at all 3 of these areas, the decision should be easier to make.

futuresize8

I usually make a list of pros and cons.

Then I also factor in who will be impacted by my decision - mostly me? Others? What will the ramifications be if I do or don't choose this or that option?

And then I go about it logically, in a very utilitarian manner: which choice generates the greater good?

I hope this helps, and I wish you luck with your decision...

Jessicaruby

thank you both for the good advice. i am just so confused and i do not know what to do and i do not want to hurt anyone or make the wrong decision and realize down the road i should have done something else.

ninerbuff

ok without going into details i need some advice. I have a very very very tough decision to make. this decision will alter my life in many ways and i am scared to decide. how do you know what to do and what is the right choice?

There are no guarantees in life, so if the risk is less than the reward, then you should go for it.


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