Am I the only one who feels the "let's rate eachother" compl

Leesseebee

I am sure I will get some "oh, you're insecure" and "oh, you don't have to read the thread if you don't want to" and "oh, you can't speel" comments, which is why I am going to post and abandon...but here goes:
I joined this site because I wanted to access the support of some good friends and share my struggle. I acknowledge that everyone has different struggles and can and should make use of this site as they see fit, but here's the thing:
Whether fat or thin; sculpting or losing or whatever you are here to try and accomplish, I believe we all suffer from some insecurities. I am sure many of us have felt or have been told that we simply are not good enough, not worthy enough, because of the way we look. I know I struggle with this all the time.
Recently I have started to see these "rate the person above you" or "I think all women should look like this" posts and they make me sad. They make me sad that insecure people are looking for validation from other insecure people. Sure, you can say I am insecure (I did not participate, and yes. I m insecure, but that is far from the point), but why the hell would you even post this? What are you trying to prove? That your worth is only determined on the basis of a number (your weight or what other people say about you)? Are you more or less worthy because someone you don't know says you are a specific number? Or do you suck because you don't look like what some stranger told you you should?!
Don't you think it's time to work on determining your own worth internally before you even dare to perpetuate this obsession with a super subjective physical perception of beauty? God, I do.
For what it's worth, I rate you all tens, even the jerks who are going to tell me how stupid my post is.
I wish you good health and the satisfaction of feeling right inside as well as out and telling those who wish to categorize you to totally eff off

Leesseebee

The title was supposed to read ...completely misses the point?!

koosdel

I give you a 10!

infamousmk

I've been waiting for someone to rate me a 10!!!

UponThisRock

nice shirt

CaptainGordo

Nice tie, man.

_SusieQ_

I've been waiting for someone to rate me a 10!!!

So, how YOU doin'??..... *wink wink*

KBGirts

I don't think I've ever seen this...

But I wouldn't participate. It sounds dumb!

Thomasm198

I've been waiting for someone to rate me a 10!!!

I rate you as an 11.

secrets_out

Im guilty of being in that thread ALOT but I need some one to tell me I'm pretty! Even if its a lie...its the only one I get and it pushes me...being told your a n 8and or 9 by someone who doesnt have to say that pushes me to be a 10.... wrong maybe...but if it pushes me then I'll take ot ... you are a 10smokin darlin!

sunkisses

9

SassyCalyGirl

I don't think I've ever seen this...

But I wouldn't participate. It sounds dumb!

you just did! :laugh:

grapenutSF

I'm a touch baffled by the extreme popularity of those threads, too, but not for those reasons. Everyone seems to get between 8.5 & 10. What fun/information/validation/security/insecurity does that provide?

I'm not offended by it, I'm more curious.

Scott613

You get a 10 great smile even though your face isn't in the picture, I know youre smile and beauty is a 10!!!

rocketpants

9

sunkisses
10.135

ETA The direction this thread took pleases me greatly

secrets_out

10

SARRY562

it really matter about how you feel about your self someone one can rate me a 8 and ill still be like **** i am a 10. lol but hey thats me i dont think you should really take it to the heart you know as long as you are happy with your self thats all that matters.

SergeantSunshine_reused

The rate one seems pretty pointless to me since most people aren't honest IMO

But I do love the ones that say: "compliment the person above you" Since those are very positive

fatboypup

i wanna wrestle you

ishallnotwant

I just don't post on those threads. I'm too scared. :laugh:

shasha_84

I give you a 10!

Well said

the_incredible_shrulk

Im guilty of being in that thread ALOT but I need some one to tell me I'm pretty! Even if its a lie...its the only one I get and it pushes me...being told your a n 8and or 9 by someone who doesnt have to say that pushes me to be a 10.... wrong maybe...but if it pushes me then I'll take ot ... you are a 10smokin darlin!

your actually really pretty but I totally get that, it reminds me of when Im running, If im running hard its nice to be noticed by people and it drives you to run faster, its a simular type of responce to the people who did the rating, in my strange opinion anyhow lol

CaWaterBug8

Can my snufflin' get me an extra point?

IamRoJ

I've been waiting for someone to rate me a 10!!!

You were totally a 10...then you accepted an FR from that RoJ chick and she ugged up your whole page. Hopefully you'll get some new friends on there and knock her back to page 2. :laugh:

infamousmk

I've been waiting for someone to rate me a 10!!!

You were totally a 10...then you accepted an FR from that RoJ chick and she ugged up your whole page. Hopefully you'll get some new friends on there and knock her back to page 2. :laugh:

That RoJ chick has done nothing but bring excellence to my page!

ladyraven68

I am sure I will get some "oh, you're insecure" and "oh, you don't have to read the thread if you don't want to" and "oh, you can't speel" comments, which is why I am going to post and abandon...but here goes:
I joined this site because I wanted to access the support of some good friends and share my struggle. I acknowledge that everyone has different struggles and can and should make use of this site as they see fit, but here's the thing:
Whether fat or thin; sculpting or losing or whatever you are here to try and accomplish, I believe we all suffer from some insecurities. I am sure many of us have felt or have been told that we simply are not good enough, not worthy enough, because of the way we look. I know I struggle with this all the time.
Recently I have started to see these "rate the person above you" or "I think all women should look like this" posts and they make me sad. They make me sad that insecure people are looking for validation from other insecure people. Sure, you can say I am insecure (I did not participate, and yes. I m insecure, but that is far from the point), but why the hell would you even post this? What are you trying to prove? That your worth is only determined on the basis of a number (your weight or what other people say about you)? Are you more or less worthy because someone you don't know says you are a specific number? Or do you suck because you don't look like what some stranger told you you should?!
Don't you think it's time to work on determining your own worth internally before you even dare to perpetuate this obsession with a super subjective physical perception of beauty? God, I do.
For what it's worth, I rate you all tens, even the jerks who are going to tell me how stupid my post is.
I wish you good health and the satisfaction of feeling right inside as well as out and telling those who wish to categorize you to totally eff off

There's a reason it's in the CHIT CHAT and FUN section - it's not meant to be taken seriously, just a bit of fun to lighten people's day.

I've never been in there as I'm here for weight loss support, but most forums have an Off-topic section, it's just meant to be harmless fun.

AnarchoGen

it really matter about how you feel about your self someone one can rate me a 8 and ill still be like **** i am a 10. lol but hey thats me i dont think you should really take it to the heart you know as long as you are happy with your self thats all that matters.

^THIS

hope516

I'd like a 10 please...because I am very insecure and I only want it from someone as insecure as me please

UponThisRock

I'd like a 10 please...because I am very insecure and I only want it from someone as insecure as me please

10

Feel better?

thatsnumberwang

Your post is stupid.


Just kidding, good points. I haven't ventured into that thread, mostly because I know what I look like. (I'm pretty, in case anyone was wondering. :smokin: ) It definitely has the potential to be insecurity fodder (and/or a temporary insecurity band-aid). I hope anyone vulnerable to those insecurities stays away.

faithisfabulous

I played the "rate" game and it was pretty fun. I think it was exactly what it was, just a game. I can understand how it could be upsetting but anything that keeps me from thinking about food is a winner. And yes, even your post is a winner because at first I wanted to eat yogurt, lol. I think every post is not for everybody. I loved the game.