Guys....I never get hit on

latinqueencee

NEVER. EVER. I've been told that I am intimidating. WTF? See, here's the thing. I am 42, I have a good career and I dont particularly like feeling like all you want is a piece of a**. Nowadays, guys are basically looking for a hit it then quit it type of thing, a stick and move if you will. I am not looking for that. So I guess on the rare occasions that I do go out, my guard is up, I'll admit it.
Guys, if you can give me some advice on how to loosen up a bit, maybe help me make myself appear receptive without acting like a *kitten*, I'd appreciate it. It's not like I dont try, a few months back on a flight to Orlando I was sitting next to a handsome gentleman and we talked the whole flight then he starts showing me pics of his trip to Italy.....with his wife and kids!!! lol total waste of my time, but at least I had a funny story to share with my girlfriends when we met up at the airport.
The last relationship I was in, if you can call it that, since obviously I was the only one with feelings and he left me for another, was in 2009!! I was almost 40 pounds heavier then.That breakup destroyed my self esteem but now I'm over it and want to enjoy what's left of my"youth" only that I dont know how to not be "intimidating".....Help me

Carl01

Even if for good reasons your first paragraph shows right from the start you are on the defensive and are assuming the worst.
I sense you are walking into a meeting with a guy with almost an adversarial mentality.
Other then the last relationship that went sour have you had guys come on to you for the sole purpose of a booty call or is it what you are suspecting or been told is all they want?

I have no idea which one of the ladies in your av is you,did not look at your profile to see but no matter,both are lovely and are happily having a good time,you can do the same with a guy and have your boundaries


Know what you want,have confidence in yourself that you can find it and if a guy doesn`t measure up move on with a smile on your face as you respected yourself and took a chance.
You can protect your feelings yet also be willing to open yourself up to possibilities.

Maybe not a good answer or what you wanted but you asked and my opinion such as it is. :flowerforyou:

latinqueencee

I appreciate your response!! yay, someone responded. Lol. In my av, it's my sis and I, I'm the one with the longer, lighter hair. I am going to try not to walk in with my defenses up and not believe that all men only want *kitten* and no commitment. New year, new "tude, right?