Are unhealthy food diaries open to criticism?

andrejjorje

I'm on 1000 cals for the last 2.5 months and I feel great. My diary is open. Please criticize me. Crush me.:laugh:
I accept anything but bro-science. Convince me that I'm doing it wrong and I swear I'll change it.
Up to date stats:
44 y
Almost 6 ft
214 lbs
light active with 2-3 workouts/week with carbs before and meal after
Goal: 172 lbs mid-end of Apr 2012
P.S. Ohh and my diary is not unhealthy. Far far from it.I don't mean to high jack.

ajbeans

If someone is on my friend list, I say something. If it's something they're doing regularly and I can't support it, I defriend them, because I'm not the kind of friend they're looking for. I want people to fuel their bodies, and I would rather see someone going a bit over their calorie goal than going too far under it every day.

umachanxo

If I logged 500 calories I would hope someone would be like, "Hey! Bad day?" or something. Don't make it sound negative, but rather like "Oh did you forget to log?" Or "Everything all right?"

Usually I just forget / don't log stuff xD

SUPERhecticMOM

I leave my diary open to hold myself accountable lol.
This being my first week I am just being absolutely honest with everything I put in my mouth and eat just as I normally would (well I did for the first couple of days). I wanted an honest & true starting point. I needed to see just how "bad" my habits were for me before I could begin changing my lifestyle. And let's just say the first couple of days OPENED my eyes. I have been incredibly conscience of what I eat lately. I still eat crap food but I get my taste of it and put it away instead of mindlessly stuffing my face until there's none left.
Constructive advice and pointers are more than welcome! But I'm not on here to diet. So no snappy judgements please

Bermudabarbie

This is going to vary from person to person. Some people are open to it and some are not.

Agree with Miss Fit. If someone has a huge amount to lose and is under in her/his calorie intake, that should be just fine. But if they think they are eating "healthy" and they eat all junk or are consistently under, I would just ignore any commenting.

clarkeje1

my diary is open because I want suggestions. I would think other people would feel the same way

HonkyTonks

I have said stuff when a person is under 1200 consistently before... eg... those are great food choices, but you should probably try and eat at least 1200, you don't want to mess with your metabolism

andrejjorje

Clever!!!:flowerforyou:

This is going to vary from person to person. Some people are open to it and some are not.

Agree with Miss Fit. If someone has a huge amount to lose and is under in her/his calorie intake, that should be just fine. But if they think they are eating "healthy" and they eat all junk or are consistently under, I would just ignore any commenting.

meerkat70

I don't think criticism is helpful. Sensitive comments about undereating, possibly. And if they're not taken on board, I'd delete the friend. I'm not here to judge other people. But I'm also not going to support significant eating disorders.

abbigail_r

If they opened it (which you have to do yourself) I say yes. I am not real life friends with any of these people on here. I come here for motivation and support. I opened mine because I wanted suggestion. If I dont like them I can delete them. I do comment once in a while on peoples but I send a private message as not to embarrass them . I think if youre polite it shouldnt hurt.

SusanneWhittington

I am on MFP for help, without good critics on my diary I wouldn't be as good with it as I am now. I try to do the same favor to others, some don't appreciate it and are happier with bad choices, but most are as thankful as I am for someone who really cares.

Gemini_1980

I like open diaries to get food ideas and personally if the diary is closed then I wonder why have friends on here if you are living a "private diary life" but that's just my thoughts. I feel that you are generally concerned about someone going under their caloric intake then it is all in how you present the concern. I would send them a private message and inquire about it. They may not know about being under caloric intake etc. so you may be helping them in the long run.

MaryDreamer

I say something. Some people don't know you have to eat more if you exercise etc. Some think eating less and exercising more is healthy when it's not. It will only get you so far, then dead end plateau. So yes I say something to try to help. If my advice isn't wanted and that person doesn't want to take care of themself I won't sit back and watch anymore...

MaryDreamer

LOL obviously we do need to eat less and exercise more to lose weight. I meant eating too little while exercising too much at the same time.

Natihilator

I'm on 1000 cals for the last 2.5 months and I feel great. My diary is open. Please criticize me. Crush me.:laugh:
I accept anything but bro-science. Convince me that I'm doing it wrong and I swear I'll change it.
Up to date stats:
44 y
Almost 6 ft
214 lbs
light active with 2-3 workouts/week with carbs before and meal after
Goal: 172 lbs mid-end of Apr 2012
P.S. Ohh and my diary is not unhealthy. Far far from it.I don't mean to high jack.

Haha, if you're asking for it :laugh:

Well before and criticism, I guess I would ask why you are on such a low calorie diet, and is it medically supervised? Have you plateaued yet? I'm definitely no doctor but for someone of your age, height, weight and activity level, 1000 calorie diet is not enough, and not sustainable. What will your diet look like once you reach your goal? If you feel great, that's great, but in my eyes you'll see that weight again in the long run if you keep at i, to be completely honest.

andrejjorje

No plateau.
No doctor.
To be ready for the spring-summer collection.
Once reached the goal increase slowly to maintenance.
Am I aware of the risks? - YES

mrschappet

I think if you have added someone to you friends list on this site you are now a support system for that person. With that said this means if you see that they are hurting themselves you should let them know about your concerns.. you don't have to do this publicly you can send them a personal message and if they choose to defriend you then it is what it is.. but wouldn't you rather know that you did what you could to help someone rather than say nothing and have something devastating happen and know you said nothing????

Natihilator

andrejjorje Hmm, not sure if I can "convince" you but if you are unconcerned about long-term weight loss, I guess it is feasible. But really, I don't understand why you would put yourself at risk for doing permanent damage and stress to your body. To me, your diet and reasoning seem distorted but I'll just leave it at that.

Captain_Tightpants

Can't speak for others, but my open diary means I specifically want others to see what I'm eating and hopefully comment on it and give me tips for better substitutes.

Elzecat

All these Namby Pamby answers! Why do people feel the need to creep around on here. I want to be told how it is and I expect to be able to do the same to my MFP friends, it's that kind of sentimental attitude from others that let people think it's ok to get overweight, underweight etc in the first place, maybe if people faced the cold hard truth they wouldn't need closed diaries or people telling them it's ok to eat half a cow as long as they start again tomorrow. Rant over, welcome to MFP :happy:

I respectfully disagree--I don't think expecting constructive criticism and mutual respect is being "namby pamby" or "sentimental." You may benefit from being "told how it is" or tough love or whatever it sounds like you prefer, but not everyone responds well to that.

dakitten2

I EXPECT my friends to call me out when I'm sliding or messing up and I do likewise. Of course we do it in a courteous helpful way. I told my friends in a blog what I expect from that and what they will receive from me in return. I offer suggestions, ask why maybe their calories were so low today, etc. But we all talk throughout the day and let each other know if we are sick and not getting our food in or our water. We know when someone is going thru a difficult time and help support them thru times of illness, grief, the blues, or whatever is going on. I'll be honest, I have a very wonderful group of friends and look forward to "talking" to them everyday. For the biggest part we all know how this works and we are the first to step and say, I blew it today....I went out to eat and lost control or whatever the reason. Without my friends that ticker below my message would be in the negative and actually I would have quit a long time ago. So if any of my friends are reading this.....I love you guys and y'all are simply the best!

swimmchick87

I keep my diary closed as a polite way to say 'I'M NOT OPEN TO CRITICISM' so, I would say someone who has their diary open has it open for a reason and is looking for suggestions/comments.

Ditto. I keep mine closed because I don't want people commenting on specific foods I eat. I certainly don't have a problem with not eating enough calories, lol.

andrejjorje

andrejjorje Hmm, not sure if I can "convince" you but if you are unconcerned about long-term weight loss, I guess it is feasible. But really, I don't understand why you would put yourself at risk for doing permanent damage and stress to your body. To me, your diet and reasoning seem distorted but I'll just leave it at that.

mammafrog

I leave mine open and I WANT encouragement on my bad days and good words on my good days. If I was badly undereating or eating bad for a few days I want someone to say "HEY your not gonna loose weight eating like that." AND I like it on my wall because it motivates me more