Friends not on MFP

harley_rose

My girlfriend and I started in August to lose weight, we started at the gym together at the same time. Well after a month of waiting in line I decided to work out at home with free weights and my treadmill. She keep going to the gym only using the treadmill, then ended up purchasing one for her home. In September I started to real watch my calories with the help of MFP and track my exercise minutes and calories burn. I was always way under for the net. Thanks to MFP I really started to losing the weight due to the tracking we have on here. I told my friend of this site in September as well so she said she would down load it on her phone. Whether she did or not I am not sure. At Christmas time I had lost half of my weight I need to lose, I was telling her how awesome I was feeling. Her reaction was I have been working out and eating less too but I am not losing the weight. I asked her again if she down loaded MFP she said she did but wasn't using it.. I said use it you will see a different. Well here it is a month later and I have last more weight and I wanted to share with her. She said why is it you are losing weight and I can't.. I asked her if she is tracking calories and her exercise to ensure she is properly fueling her body.. She said she knows what she is doing.. She is upset with me because I asked basic questions about her food intake and workout.. I guess you can't help someone that doesn't want it..

This upsets me because I am proud of myself of losing the weight the proper way and I want to be able to share with friends, I don't know how to approach her when others around us are telling me how great I am looking. We have a gather this weekend and I know the subject will come up.. HELP

jmruef

You can definitely be gracious about it - when people compliment you, smile and say "Thanks." If they ask how you're doing it, mention what you're doing - but keep it brief and then move on. Maybe redirect the conversation to include your girlfriend on a topic that doesn't include weightloss/fitness.

If your friend continues to struggle and MENTION to you that she's having a hard time, ask her if she wants help. If she says no - let it go.

Auspiciousgirl

You SHOULD be proud of yourself!!!!! Your friend complains about not losing the weight, but claims she knows what she's doing... I'm sorry to say, but it doesn't sound like she's ready to commit to a healthier lifestyle like you are. You can't push her, although I understand that you want to help, especially since she's been asking you. It has to be something that she does in her own time when she's ready. If it comes up when you are together, it's great to talk about the progress that you've made and the good habits that you've learned, but just be sensative to the fact that she's not in the same place that you are. It can be a touchy subject with friends, but keep doing this for yourself and try not to let others get you down

harley_rose

Good points, I can only offer to help her if she ask.. And I will try not mention to her how I have been doing with my weight loss, I will just take the compliments with a polite "Thank You" if people ask how I am I doing it I will just say eating right and moving more..