Is it better to arrive late, early, or on time?

kaleas

So I've been out of the uh, dating scene for awhile. I met this guy. He just came back from tour and asked if I'd like to get a drink sometime. I agreed, we picked today, in about...an hour. We don't have each others numbers, so that way we'd be assuming neither was going to flake.

Some friends suggested its better for the girl to show up 10 minutes late. I've always been one to be early. I also always assume most guys will be 5 to 10 minutes late to everything.

I don't know where this is going. it's not a date. Just a chance to drink, chill, and get to know each other. So i'd rather not play any games. With that being said. Should I arrive a few minutes early to "secure us a table", arrive just on time, or fashionably late?

shvits

don't play games. Arrive when you agreed.

AggieCass09

don't play games. Arrive when you agreed.

this.

shovav91

Personally I'm always early. Being late with in excuse is acceptable under some circumstances, but doing it on purpose is rude and tacky.

deeharley

A polite person would be on time. Or a few minutes early.

ymhand

No matter what I am doing and no matter how long I try to take my time I always, always show up early.

_binary_jester_

Dear god it has come to this?

gingerb85

don't play games. Arrive when you agreed.

I agree with this^^^

Allyson1985

don't play games. Arrive when you agreed.

Amen.

aeboone24

being a military spouse (and brat) this is something we have always been brought up on. Early is on time, on time is late and late is forgotten. So if he is military he will most likely be early. so if you are on time, then you are fashionably late

AllanMisner

Dates - Arrive on time
Job Interviews - Arrive early
Your own funeral - Arrive late

onefitdiva

don't play games. Arrive when you agreed.

^^^^ To the point and on target.

rachcamp88

Always arrive a few minutes early for everything in life! I believe being late shows complete disrespect for the person you are meeting and implies that your time is more important then theirs!

Carl01

As a guy if the lady showed up 10 minutes late without reason I would assume she isn`t all that into the get together.

Jen2Bfit

I would think it best just to be on time, although I have always had a tendency to be early everywhere.

dez_yaoichan

and the ones telling you to be late.... are they still single? if this this isnt a date yet, if you show up late, you can pretty much bet that you wont get that real date. showing up late says (to me) that you are "high-maintenance" and that may not be the best thing to show on your frist "non-date". showing up on time shows you are interested.

kaleas

Haha, thanks everyone. I always arrive early, and my biggest pet peeve in life is people who are not on time to things they agreed to. So I suppose why change who I am now.

madamepsychosis

Why would you play silly dating games? Is this like those people who wait three hours to text back, that kind of thing. Arrive on time, or better, a few minutes early (particularly useful if you don't know the area too well). Think of if this wasn't a date - would you deliberately show up late to meet a friend or relative? No? Then don't show up late to meet a date deliberately. It's plain rude if anything.

Scott613

So I've been out of the uh, dating scene for awhile. I met this guy. He just came back from tour and asked if I'd like to get a drink sometime. I agreed, we picked today, in about...an hour. We don't have each others numbers, so that way we'd be assuming neither was going to flake.

Some friends suggested its better for the girl to show up 10 minutes late. I've always been one to be early. I also always assume most guys will be 5 to 10 minutes late to everything.

I don't know where this is going. it's not a date. Just a chance to drink, chill, and get to know each other. So i'd rather not play any games. With that being said. Should I arrive a few minutes early to "secure us a table", arrive just on time, or fashionably late?

He came back from tour??? With a band or the military? If it was military he'll be there early so don't be late.

kaleas

A band, haha. Thus if he's like most 24 year old touring band types, he'll be late. But I'll give him the benefit of the doubt here.

madamepsychosis

Ooh, musicians! Sexy! Enjoy your date

kimoRUN

Should always arrive late to a natural disaster..... early to the movies..... and on time with your period!

TheRoadDog

I am always early for any kind of appointment. I don't appreciate when people are late. Sends the message that your time is more valuable than the person waiting. Rude.

Be on time. always.

rileamoyer

don't play games. Arrive when you agreed.

^^^^ To the point and on target.

Absolutely

terri_mom

Less than 10 minutes early is late. Secure the table (or spot at the bar). Non-dates is no different from a date, job interview, etc. Be the first to show proper respect, and expect respect back. You are smart; like you said earlier, don't change who you are.

myofibril

Arrive 45 minutes late and if he's still not there then he's a quitter and doesn't deserve you girl!!!! You go!

No, not really. Arrive on time or a little early. I know I would appreciate that if I was meeting someone.

Common courtesy applies to dating as well.

AllanMisner

So ladies, if a man arrives at your home 10 minutes early for a date, that's cool? Every time I've done this, the girl was losing her mind because she hadn't expected me and wasn't ready herself. I may arrive to the area early, but I'm knocking/walking into the cafe on the dot.

All this "on time is late" is bull.

sylvuz323

Dates - Arrive on time
Job Interviews - Arrive early
Your own funeral - Arrive late

I agree

sylvuz323

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proscrastinator, I'm fashionably late (10 minutes) everywhere I go but I'm working on it.

foremant86

*palm over face*

why would a question like this even be asked??? good god...

christine24t

On time!