The Diet Sabotagers (A Rant)

Tenoreo90

I'm sorry if this isn't in the best place, but I need to vent.

Before I begin, I'd like to clarify that I 100% hold myself accountable for my binge. No one is force feeding me. I'm mostly mad at myself, but this girl makes me quite angry a lot of the time.

This co-worker, whom we'll call Sue, is what I call a diet sabotager. Without fail, anytime anyone in our unit begins noticably eating healthier, losing weight, etc, Sue decides it's the perfect time to bake treats. IN the breakroom in the toaster oven and microwave. Resisting sweets, difficulty: 6. Resisting baked goods after smelling them for nearly an hour in baking process: 10. She 'jokingly' stated tonight "I'm just doing this so all you girls get fatter and I can look better!" I did not find this funny. This girl is very overweight, complains about it constantly, but still chugs down sodas and fast food nonstop. Last year, another co-worker and I lost a bit of weight together (I, 15 lbs, her a bit more) while everyone congratulated us, Sue just sulked. I don't understand this attitude of almost hating people bettering themselves...


Sorry, just had to get it out. ><

missikay1970

sounds like sue needs an intervention. she is probably envious of all the other girls trying to lose weight and perhaps she has tried and failed (without anyone knowing) and feels embarrassed. next time you are on a "health kick" with some office coworkers, invite sue to join. tell her that her assignment is to bake a HEALTHY treat that the whole office can enjoy, and challenge her to create a recipe that isn't brownies, cake or pie. she might be waiting for someone to kick her into gear. however, if she resists and continues to bake the brownies, just take whatever she made from the breakroom, put it into the refrigerator, and replace her plate with a huge basket of fruit, nuts, berries & veggies like carrot sticks, etc. if she asks, tell her you can't resist her good baking technique, and decided you should replace her fattening foods with something you can eat without guilt. sorry she is making it hard on your. remember: when someone tests you, it's all about you, not them. you will keep getting tested until you pass!

keep up your hard work and dedication!!! you can resist!!!

FORIANN

Next time she pulls something out of the oven just say,"No thanks. I try to take better care of myself than that....(and then in a patronizing voice say)...but you go ahead and do whatever makes you happy".

You live with your choices. One thing I can assure you of is that each time you resist a temptation like that your confidence will grow and you'll be better able to make those choices next time. I have cheat meals occasionally, but for the most part I could walk through a krispy creme doughnut factory and not eat anything because I know that I am in control of my impulses and urges.

Whatever is going on in this ladies head shouldn't concern you. Keep your eye on the ball and focused on the progress you're making.

londoneye

Next time she pulls something out of the oven just say,"No thanks. I try to take better care of myself than that....(and then in a patronizing voice say)...but you go ahead and do whatever makes you happy".

Ummm... then who will look small and mean?

londoneye

Next time she pulls something out of the oven just say,"No thanks. I try to take better care of myself than that....(and then in a patronizing voice say)...but you go ahead and do whatever makes you happy".

Ummm... then who will look small and mean?

Small morally, not physically, I mean!

Tenoreo90

sounds like sue needs an intervention. she is probably envious of all the other girls trying to lose weight and perhaps she has tried and failed (without anyone knowing) and feels embarrassed. next time you are on a "health kick" with some office coworkers, invite sue to join. tell her that her assignment is to bake a HEALTHY treat that the whole office can enjoy, and challenge her to create a recipe that isn't brownies, cake or pie. she might be waiting for someone to kick her into gear. however, if she resists and continues to bake the brownies, just take whatever she made from the breakroom, put it into the refrigerator, and replace her plate with a huge basket of fruit, nuts, berries & veggies like carrot sticks, etc. if she asks, tell her you can't resist her good baking technique, and decided you should replace her fattening foods with something you can eat without guilt. sorry she is making it hard on your. remember: when someone tests you, it's all about you, not them. you will keep getting tested until you pass!

keep up your hard work and dedication!!! you can resist!!!

There were a couple times she tried to lose weight, but she never wants to do it the healthy way. I even suggested MFP to her, she always wanted to do juice feasting or super low-carb, etc. Those are SO hard to stick to, especially for someone that's been eating unhealthily her whole life. I know it's a self-esteem issue for her, so I keep my mouth shut. But I think I'll take your advice about "can't resist her good baking technique". :] She's a sucker for compliments, and I personally like to keep peace in the workplace. Thanks!!

missikay1970

sounds like sue needs an intervention. she is probably envious of all the other girls trying to lose weight and perhaps she has tried and failed (without anyone knowing) and feels embarrassed. next time you are on a "health kick" with some office coworkers, invite sue to join. tell her that her assignment is to bake a HEALTHY treat that the whole office can enjoy, and challenge her to create a recipe that isn't brownies, cake or pie. she might be waiting for someone to kick her into gear. however, if she resists and continues to bake the brownies, just take whatever she made from the breakroom, put it into the refrigerator, and replace her plate with a huge basket of fruit, nuts, berries & veggies like carrot sticks, etc. if she asks, tell her you can't resist her good baking technique, and decided you should replace her fattening foods with something you can eat without guilt. sorry she is making it hard on your. remember: when someone tests you, it's all about you, not them. you will keep getting tested until you pass!

keep up your hard work and dedication!!! you can resist!!!

There were a couple times she tried to lose weight, but she never wants to do it the healthy way. I even suggested MFP to her, she always wanted to do juice feasting or super low-carb, etc. Those are SO hard to stick to, especially for someone that's been eating unhealthily her whole life. I know it's a self-esteem issue for her, so I keep my mouth shut. But I think I'll take your advice about "can't resist her good baking technique". :] She's a sucker for compliments, and I personally like to keep peace in the workplace. Thanks!!

a working environment is alot like a family - dont' really want to rock the boat since you have to deal with her every.single.day! plus i'm sure you genuinely care about her, and wish that she would do something positive toward her health. some people want a quick fix (i know someone like that, too) and it just takes a while for it to "click" with them that those fast-diets don't work and aren't long lasting. i totally understand your rant, that's why we're here!

FORIANN

It's about balancing compassion and strength....some people will walk all over you if you let them. When people are nice to you...be nice to them. When they're not, smile politely and let them know there are boundaries.

maddymama

So... can you simply pull her aside one day and have a chat with her? Nicely say that you love the way she bakes, but you won't eat it so don't offer it to you..... that you are trying to be healthy.
The next time she bakes, light a candle that clashes with the smell so you aren't tempted to eat it/ or put on some perfume, or something to not smell it so much.
Or pull out a larabar or someother healthy yummy treat at your desk and savor it. With a nice hot cup of herbal tea.
All you can do is to control yourself, you can't control her, but ask her to not be offended when you don't eat what she bakes.

missikay1970

So... can you simply pull her aside one day and have a chat with her? Nicely say that you love the way she bakes, but you won't eat it so don't offer it to you..... that you are trying to be healthy.
The next time she bakes, light a candle that clashes with the smell so you aren't tempted to eat it/ or put on some perfume, or something to not smell it so much.
Or pull out a larabar or someother healthy yummy treat at your desk and savor it. With a nice hot cup of herbal tea.
All you can do is to control yourself, you can't control her, but ask her to not be offended when you don't eat what she bakes.

i love the idea of savoring a low-cal treat with tea at your desk. SUPER alternative to going into the breakroom to smell/see the treats! good one!