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Help please- any advice greatly appreciated!

strawberry25shortcake
strawberry25shortcake Posts: 183 Member
edited September 2024 in Food and Nutrition
OK,

Tonight we are going to my sister-in law's house for dinner around 7:30PM. First of all, I rarely eat that late, but she works till about 5PM and is not able to have us over sooner, which is perfectly fine. Second of all, every time we go there, she makes a big deal about my food consumption and proportion size. Making comments such..."you are working out, you can have another serving"..."what? are you on a diet or something?"..."You are so skinny...all skin and bones". It is SO frustrating to have to listen to this every single time. She is making eggplant parmesan and we are bringing bruschetta for an appetizer. I don't wanna overeat but I also don't wanna listen about how I eat! What is her problem??? It just sucks to be frustrated about it this early in the morning...my stomach already hurts. Thanks you guys for listening...:ohwell:

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  • strawberry25shortcake
    strawberry25shortcake Posts: 183 Member
    OK,

    Tonight we are going to my sister-in law's house for dinner around 7:30PM. First of all, I rarely eat that late, but she works till about 5PM and is not able to have us over sooner, which is perfectly fine. Second of all, every time we go there, she makes a big deal about my food consumption and proportion size. Making comments such..."you are working out, you can have another serving"..."what? are you on a diet or something?"..."You are so skinny...all skin and bones". It is SO frustrating to have to listen to this every single time. She is making eggplant parmesan and we are bringing bruschetta for an appetizer. I don't wanna overeat but I also don't wanna listen about how I eat! What is her problem??? It just sucks to be frustrated about it this early in the morning...my stomach already hurts. Thanks you guys for listening...:ohwell:
  • kerrilucko
    kerrilucko Posts: 3,852 Member
    healthy portioning is a part of life... if she's calling you on it in a negative way, SHE's the one that comes off looking foolish. Say something like "no, I'm not on a diet, but I am trying to maintain my weight, not pack on pounds." If it were me, and yes I have a rude side, I'd tell her where to shove her comments :laugh:
  • strawberry25shortcake
    strawberry25shortcake Posts: 183 Member
    healthy portioning is a part of life... if she's calling you on it in a negative way, SHE's the one that comes off looking foolish. Say something like "no, I'm not on a diet, but I am trying to maintain my weight, not pack on pounds." If it were me, and yes I have a rude side, I'd tell her where to shove her comments :laugh:

    Oh, you just made me lmao:laugh: Thank you so much! Oh, I feel better already. I have never before shared this with anyone. Thank you!
  • fullofjoy720
    fullofjoy720 Posts: 161
    Yea. Be the strong one and say something like "I feel great and I want to stay this way!"
    Dinner sounds yummy! Have fun!
  • codykitty
    codykitty Posts: 729
    tell her that her food isn't that good...lol
  • kerrilucko
    kerrilucko Posts: 3,852 Member
    tell her that her food isn't that good...lol


    :laugh: so funny!


    ps your cat looks like mine :bigsmile:
  • fnstqlty
    fnstqlty Posts: 11
    You are such a motivation!

    My biggest fear is that when I do reach my goal weight, I will start to let things slide.

    Eventually I will be right back where i started.

    It is great to see that you work so hard at maintaining your awesome figure!
  • MyaPapaya75
    MyaPapaya75 Posts: 3,143 Member
    OK,

    Tonight we are going to my sister-in law's house for dinner around 7:30PM. First of all, I rarely eat that late, but she works till about 5PM and is not able to have us over sooner, which is perfectly fine. Second of all, every time we go there, she makes a big deal about my food consumption and proportion size. Making comments such..."you are working out, you can have another serving"..."what? are you on a diet or something?"..."You are so skinny...all skin and bones". It is SO frustrating to have to listen to this every single time. She is making eggplant parmesan and we are bringing bruschetta for an appetizer. I don't wanna overeat but I also don't wanna listen about how I eat! What is her problem??? It just sucks to be frustrated about it this early in the morning...my stomach already hurts. Thanks you guys for listening...:ohwell:
    Tell her no your not on a diet your watching your intake so you dont have all the "good" things like heart disease, high cholesterol,water retention and so on. people tend to always think negative when the word diet is involved so combat it using all the things you dont want to get.
  • adopt4
    adopt4 Posts: 970 Member
    I would do one of two things... talk to her in private and ask her if she really does have concerns about you, maybe you ARE too skinny to be healthy, who knows? And let her know how those comments make you feel. Or in public, if she calls you out like that, simply say "Thanks for your concern, but I'm fine."
  • jennyeckel
    jennyeckel Posts: 209
    ohhhhhhhhhhhh don't you just hate the guilt trips! What is worse is that she probably is doing becasue she isn't comfortable with her body and food choices. By getting you to eat more it is like an ok for her to do it as well.

    BUT I think what fullofjoy said is great! Be upbeat and smile and say oh no thanks! :happy: :happy:

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  • Georg
    Georg Posts: 1,728 Member
    I agree. Just smile & say something about being happy with your choices, then change the subject.
    She's probably feeling insecure about her cooking or eating habits herself.
    Enjoy & don't let her rain on the party!
  • strawberry25shortcake
    strawberry25shortcake Posts: 183 Member
    You guys are THE BEST! Thanks so much for your thoughts and advices! I am so fortunate to have found this website:flowerforyou:
  • wilted6orchid
    wilted6orchid Posts: 423 Member
    tell her that her food isn't that good...lol
    I acutally think this is a good idea. I mean say it with a laugh, not meanly:flowerforyou: . Nothing is disarming like humor.
  • hmo4
    hmo4 Posts: 1,673 Member
    i say just be honest....:drinker: it's really not her business anyway.:bigsmile:
  • chellebelle315
    chellebelle315 Posts: 298
    healthy portioning is a part of life... if she's calling you on it in a negative way, SHE's the one that comes off looking foolish. Say something like "no, I'm not on a diet, but I am trying to maintain my weight, not pack on pounds." If it were me, and yes I have a rude side, I'd tell her where to shove her comments :laugh:

    lol I'm so with you on this one, but then, I think if someone is being a jerk, it is only a service to them to point it out. I'd probably say it teasingly, or sarcastically, but I'd definitely tell her that how much eggplant parm i eat is not even close to any of her business.
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