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LittleMissDoll

Today I made some tasty spinach eggs and spinach chips for breakfast/lunch, It is not bad, but my boyfriend is having an entire box of maccaroni with butter and milk. Its so much harder being healthy with that going on, he eats whatever he wants whenever he wants, It's a hard adjustment to not join him. Anyone else have this going on at home? If so how do you deal with it? Or does it get easier?

Nana_Booboo

Never get's easier.

vjrose

Yep, I am sure many MFP folks would tell the same tale. I often times make two dinners, one for them one for me, lol. Or I make them cook if it's something really tempting. I have kind of drug them a bit closer to my side but I still have to provide Pizza and other stuff of that type. Good thing I'm GF (gluten free) it does help avoid a lot of the pitfalls. Just hang in there and come to MFP when you need positive reinforcement to keep you going and don't worry about him.

mallory3411

This used to be me. My fiancee can almost eat whatever he wants. He did however learn as a child not to overeat, stop when you're full, etc so he's got some better habits than I do.

I am the one that makes all the meals in my house (a deal we made when we first moved in together - I cook, he cleans up after me when I make a mess in the kitchen ha ha) so I can better control what I eat. He always eats the same things I do just more of it. I also do the main part of groceries - he comes along and helps grab everything but I usually am the one to say what we need. He's very supportive of my weight loss goals so he doesn't bring home crap foods like he used to sometimes.

Who does the grocery shopping in your house? Can you just not have those things in the house? Ultimately though, you're going to be around temptation all your life so better to start getting used to handling it now lol.... You can eat what he eats when you want it. When my fiancee has things like mac and cheese, I'll have some too but I'll take a small coffee cup that holds like 3/4 a cup of things and put some in there and I'm good.

The more you resist the easier it can get ... IMO you shouldn't deny yourself anything, just eat small portions.

bringnsparkleback

I have the same problem. I can only say that once you get the momentum to get going you will do better. I was feeling sad about my six lb loss in the last month so I took my measurements. I have actually lost 7.5 inches in two weeks....so that puts me back in a better frame of mind. I'm getting ready to get on the treadmill for the day. My boyfriend wants to make teriyaki chicken for him and the kids tonight. I'm gonna have to think about how hard I worked on the treadmill to burn those exact calories that I would be reingesting. So yes, I sometimes do feel like I'm on my own...but that means you can claim later that " I lost x lbs by myself ".

iNkedFiTmama

Not only does my husband eat whatever he wants, he mindlessly goes on and on about how delicious it is "Mmmmmm this is SOOO good" .. or "I want to eat ______ soo bad, we should get it for dinner" and I have to remind him to STFU because I'm trying to be healthier lol. Its hard sometimes but I've kind of gotten used to it.

BrendaPetersen

Hey chick!

I go though it too at times with DH. BUT I usually cook healthy and he just eats it. If I make something bad and it isn't anything he would eat truthfully I pitch it since I'm not wasting my calories on yukkie stuff or even food people bring into the studio...snacks etc. I finally realized after I lost a little weight that he can do what he wants to do and I praise myself for being strong and just that much closer to my goals for the day and goal weight I think the entire key to a life change is to be strong. Don't know if this helps you any but it's what I do.

auticus

I live alone and have no outside interference from significant others. While this has many negative drawbacks, the positives are that I shop for myself and I do not have to worry about someone sabotaging my efforts.

Trechechus

All the time. It doesn't get any easier.

amandaew83

Sounds like my house! My husband eats whatever he wants...Plus my low fat treats!! Drives me nuts.....

hirensthenameliftinsthegame

just because your on a diet doesn't mean you can't enjoy your food, i mean i still have my cheesecake for breakfast on most days, its a combination of the good and the bad to make you psychologically more adherent to your diet. If your having trouble with adherence because your bf is eating in a certain pattern i think you should re-structure your diet program...just advice, sorry if it sounds mean its not intended to be.

jessashcher

yep, my husband doesn't watch what he eats at all, and he should as he is over weight also, but every time I see him eat, it really does make me kind of nauseous so it doesn't make me want to eat like he does. And I keep bragging to him all the time about my weight loss hoping he will join me soon.

amandavictoria80

I think it does get easier. Really, it's all about coming up with alternatives or foods that are healthy but you enjoy. If you don't like spinach, then don't eat it. Why do that to yourself?

I love pizza! Smelling it when the family would eat it drove me crazy! So I came up with a way I could eat pizza. I now make mine on a tortilla shell with healthy toppings. It delicious!!! And about 360 calories.
My man likes to snack on ice cream, chocolate bars, candy, etc. It's been hard to sit and watch that and not participate. Now I blend frozen fruit (my fav is blueberries) and a tiny bit of milk. I get what I call my creamy fruit ice cream. It takes me awhile to eat and is enjoyable and therefore his snacking doesn't bother me.

Some really awesome treats I eat are my alternatives to Cheesecake and a Ice Cream Sandwich. YUM!
For the cheesecake, use Low Fat Graham Crackers and Light Laughing Cow Cheese Wedges. Taste like cheesecake and is very low in calories, fat, etc.
For the ice cream sandwiches, use Fat Free Cool Whip and put it in between the Low Fat Graham Crackers and ten pop in freezer. This ones good!!

You also need to let yourself indulge once in awhile. Otherwise you will drive yourself crazy and end up binging anyways. And trust me, this never feels good!

Feel free to add me if you need any more friends. Take care!

cookieluvsya

They are all right.. It NEVER gets easier, he eats my food and his =(

spectralmoon

I had expected to go through this over the weekends when I stay at someone else's house, but I lucked out and they joined me on restocking the cupboards. Nevertheless, I prepared for it and made sure that I had enough healthy(er) snacks to keep my mind off the junk food that we used to share. I've actually come to prefer salami and provolone cheese on crackers over potato chips now because of it.

FinallyFindingLisa

I do the shopping so it's much easier around here, I don't buy it. Hubby is welcome to eat whatever he wants, but I won't enable it by buying it for him (he doesn't have the best eating habits either). Similar to when he was smoking, I won't stop him, but I won't help either. Same goes for the kids. We're making a lifestyle change so I try hard for things that taste good that everyone likes but are better for ALL of us. Often it's just a matter of me watching portions...

reneepugh

My husband is a high rise window cleaner and he basically rock climbs all day. So he eats whatever he wants. I make the meals in our house which he eats. But I have to ignore his fatty snacks and eat healthier ones because he needs all the calories and I don't. It is really hard and I struggle with it every day.

coreymusonda

Temptation always comes from somewhere, whether it's at home or elsewhere. I am trying hard not to do what my own mother did to me growing up. She always made herself a small portion of healthy food and complained the whole time about how we were all so lucky we could eat everything we wanted. As kids she taught my brother and I that we were lucky to over-endulge and eat very unhealthy foods, and he and I both struggle with our weight all the time now as adults.

So, yes it's hard to be on the lower calorie intake of life while losing weight, but I am trying really hard to provide food for my kids and husband that is both healthy and delicious, I just eat about the same portions as the kids while he gets regular adult portions.

But it really doesn't get easier!!! I still wish I could simply call up the pizza guy and stuff my face like we used to do 2-3 times a week before I started using MFP.

jmllmj

You just eat healthy and ignore everyone else. If he wants to eat like his stomach is a garbage dump then let him.

JamieDD

My husband eats what I put on the table...if he wants something different, he knows where the kitchen is.

Laner07

Yep, I am sure many MFP folks would tell the same tale. I often times make two dinners, one for them one for me, lol.

This happens to me all of the time. The only difference is I'm a vegetarian and my roomates will not eat veggies. At least by making seperate meals everyone is happy. As long as your food stays healthy and delicious it'll be easier to watch him eat.

amandavictoria80

My husband eats what I put on the table...if he wants something different, he knows where the kitchen is.

LOL Totally agree!

cherriewilliams

The past year I have had problems because I have had to move back in with my mother who is 5'4" and 360 lbs. Then I moved in with my ex inlaws all because I have had to have surgery and can't work and have kids. last year I was very active and lost 20 lbs but since living with these people and having knee surgery I gained it all back. I am starting over now because after having surgery on my knee I had to wear sweat pants and PJs for two months and when I healed up and tried to put on my jeans they didn't fit.

brandyosu

I make the meals, so my husband and kids eat what I do. I can understand your pain, though. It would be really, really hard sitting and watching them eat something completely different that i wanted, too.

Veganniee

Sounds like my house!

nahralynn

Ah .. i'm struggling with this too as well! My boyfriend is thin and can eat pretty much anything .. and he does. He will eat what I make of course, but there are times when he wants to go get jack in the box, or in-n-out (my 2 fave fast food) and it's so hard to say no to what used to be my favorite burgers! I've been able to say no to when he makes boxed mac & cheese and asks if I want some or 'want a taste' .. its hard but doable because it's not like he's holding me down and forcing me to eat it. It's my choice and I choose to eat better things now!

I'm also struggling with being active with him. We are obviously at different activity levels. So when we go for walks or bike rides i'm sure he's bored having to go slower because of me. However I don't like to exercise by myself (I don't have any friends around this area yet, and no money for a gym) so he's my partner in this. Or suppose to be my partner. We've spent the last 4 hours 'thinking' about what kind of activity we want to do today and he's still sitting on his butt watching tv. Now he's going to go watch football with some friends. I feel a little dropped and pushed aside (even though I was invited, but i'm not a football fan, and I eat when i'm bored).

azlady7

it sometimes has been difficult for me, but over the last two years i have learned how crappy i feel if i eat that kind of stuff. its equivalant to purposefully getting sick. i dont. but there are some temptations, i have 3 teens in my home sooooo yeah. i shop for all the foods in my home, and i do buy few and limited junk. For example, i only buy 2 boxes of mac and cheese for the month. make it last. so its better than it was. and it helps that my husband has been put under orders by the dr. to eat better. (he is skinny fat and its taken its toll) so now he is driving me nuts pointing out how much sodium or what not is in something I am eating. le sigh.

deepset

You're so not alone! I've been dealing with it for years. i do my best to eat as healthy as possible and living with my boyfriend who's basically the complete opposite it doesn't help. I've learned over years that I get sucked in usually late evenings, but lately I've been pretty strong.

Honestly its about just not giving in. He knows I'm always eating as best as I can so he's been doing the same, BUT he still eats whatever he wants. Which is fine. I do my best to keep fresh fruit, or portioned out fruits and veggies on hand so if I feel weak, I don't turn to what he's having instead get off my *kitten* and get the snacks that are better for you.

Just stay strong! It's ok to indulge, just keep your portions in check. Having a couple of chips or a piece of chocolate won't hurt. It will satisfy, just in reasonable portions.

Soozie1978

We all seem to have that problem. The one I feel sorry for is my 16 year old son. He eats healthy most of the time, but does love his burgers! He works out in sports 2-3 hours a day, sometimes staying to work on weights extra. He rarely drinks soda, and he is still somewhat overweight. The boy next door has never eaten fruit - refuses to try - eats red meat, chocolate milk, donuts, and cookies all day long. If he eats chicken, its fried. This boy is so thin his bones stick out. Just seems like life's not fair sometimes.

lamilli09

I understand! My roommates eat junk food like it's their job - take out, fried food, frozen food, lots of soda. It's hard to sit down to a plate of vegetables when they sit down to pizza and burgers. It's really hard. And sometimes I cave. But for me, I think about how much better my body will look after 6 months of vegetables compared to how it would look after 6 months of fried food.
It's not easy. Most of the time it's really hard. But the best of luck to you! I'm sure there are boatloads of people on MFP who understand! Just stay strong! You can do it!

2hungariangirls

My husband eats what I put on the table...if he wants something different, he knows where the kitchen is.

Absolutely! This is my house.