Do u notice obese ppl more now that youve lost weight?

ngory07

Ok I have to ask? If you were obese and are now at an average bmi do you notice obese people more often? I started my journey at 304. I was miserable. Now that I'm at a "normal" bmi I do notice obese ppl more often. Not in a judgemental way but in a sad I've been there and I wish I could help. I remember what its like to not feel comfotable. Always tugging on my clothes. Getting stares. I feel awful because when someone who is obese brings up weight and dieting they say I'm "thin" so I have no say and don't know what its like. But I do. I still feel huge sometimes. I feel their pain. I had a tool to help me (VSG) and I feel bad that its not available to everybody. I remember stuffing my face til almost puking and then crying and wishing I was dead. Being at a normal weight causes me to feel and be treated as an outsider by ppl I relate to much more than all of the thin women I know.

I will always be that insecure fat girl deep down. But she helps keep me grounded. I never want to be one of those former fat chicks that judges others and preaches. I am passionate about nutrition know and will speak up about what matters to me as far as the foods I eat but I never want to forget where I came from. I love food. I always will. I have a healthier relationship with it now but from birth I overate and was overweight. Losing lbs doesn't give me back those yrs I wasn't living my life because of the 100+ lbs I was carried. All the worrying about what others thought. All the missed opportunities b/c my fat and damaged thinking made me scared. The yrd spent gourging on food in secret and feeling ashamed of myself. This doesn't go away. It will stay with me forever like scars.

I guess I just had to get this off my chest. I don't want anyone to feel bad. Lately my obese friends have been crying to me and telling me I'm lucky and they want my help. I don't know how to though. I got 85% of my stomach removed so I couldn't overeat. And while I've learned and tried to practice clean healthy eating I don't have the tools to help others. I feel like a traitor for losing weight. Like losing weight said something bad about them which was not my intention.

sdecker26

Wow, it sounds like you have had quite the journey. I often wonder that myself. I am one of those people who is a chronic dieter and food obsessor. I've never been anything more than chubby so I can't relate to some of what you said but I certainly can relate to people saying that 'skinny' people don't get it. I do. As most people who try and stay healthy and you can attest to, it's not easy to lose weight or keep it off. It's hard work. It sounds like you have worked your tail off to get where you are and you should be so proud of your accomplishments but I bet it does just about make you spitting mad when someone says that you don't get it. Rock on, rockstar!:happy:

blonde20fan

Since I am trying hard to eat healthier and lose weight I do notice how people eat. Not so much if they are overweight. My mom will say things like "I have to lose weight and exercise" then I she eats 4 tacos at taco bell and a mexican pizza!?!? These are the things that bother me. I don't say anything to her or anyone else but I see the old habits that I had and I use it for motivation to keep with my plans.

sweet110

Its not so much that I notice obese people more, per se, but I *do* notice poor eating habits...or just plan old gluttony. When I go to work and see people eating cheesesteak sandwiches, fries, and a coke for lunch...every day...and I know they take blood pressure medication and are 80 pounds overweight, I feel bad. Because that's an addiction. I mean, anyone can eat a little too much. Or eat too much convenience foods. But when its your daily habit...when very little of the food they eat is actually nourishing in any way but the calories...or frankly, even that tasty...they can't feel good or even be enjoying themselves.

And I know this because it was me as well. Sure, there are things I now enjoy in moderation that I'd like to eat more often if it weren't bad for me. But when I use to eat whole pizzas? Or nasty pastries out of the CVS? And never exercised? That didn't feel good. Not at all. That wasn't hedonism...it was self-flagellation.

1Timothy4v8

it's like when you buy a white toyota then you notice all the white toyotas on the road