Really sorry.... and embarrassed!

alimarieban

I have been on MFP for awhile now but just recently started adding friends. Today I noticed that a lot of people mention that they will not accept a friendship request without a message to go along with it. I feel really awful, as I have sent a few requests without messages and certainly didn't mean to offend. I guess I didn't think about it being rude....Anyway- sorry to whomever I did that to!

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judy20in2011

No need to be sorry and embarrassed! It is what it is. And if they accepted you evidently it wasn't that big of deal to them either!

trhops

I never send a message either.

karenwill2

I never send a message or expect one. To each, their own.

melbaby925

It's not that big a deal - most of us want a message, so we can figure out how/why you want to friend us - was it something we said on a board? was it the profile? someone recommend that we be friends?

No worries and no need to apologize!

KYMUSE

I've only sent one request. It was today, and I didn't send a message. Oh well.

killagb

Well I never!

tinalatina

I actually put that in my header because every once in a while I get people with other"intensions" if you know what I mean? I had to make it clear that I only want friends who are here to get healthy together not "Hook-Up". Im happily married and dont need that kind of drama.....

So I think that is why people want to hear a msg before adding.

Hope that helps for next time....

Aloha ladies!

PinkEarthMama

I try to send a message but I've never recieved one with a friend request

taso42

I don't think anyone is offended. At worst they probably just think, "who is this person and why are they friend requesting me?".

tinalatina

I actually put that in my header because every once in a while I get people with other"intensions" if you know what I mean? I had to make it clear that I only want friends who are here to get healthy together not "Hook-Up". Im happily married and dont need that kind of drama.....

So I think that is why people want to hear a msg before adding.

Hope that helps for next time....

Aloha ladies!

P.S. I also dont write people msgs all the time so we are all at guilt sometimes...no worries

pelleld

No need to feel sorry or be embarrassed. You did nothing wrong. I do try to include a message so the person I'm requesting knows what about them or their profile made me want to be their friend. But it certainly isn't offensive if you didn't do so. I figure I'm just glad that I've got so many wonderful friends on here, and if someone else wants to add me then I'm happy to feel included

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tinalatina

I don't think anyone is offended. At worst they probably just think, "who is this person and why are they friend requesting me?".

thats true....

killagb

I don't think anyone is offended. At worst they probably just think, "who is this person and why are they friend requesting me?".

I assume they are jealous and want to sabotage me. It's quite logical, really.

_SusieQ_

And some of the people who put that in their profile may have their profile as private. Which means the public at large can't READ that they would like a message. Don't sweat it.

may18052007

I sometimes msg and sometimes don't, no need to worry. If you want to friend then you get to know them over time, don't you? :ohwell:

tinalatina

I don't think anyone is offended. At worst they probably just think, "who is this person and why are they friend requesting me?".

I assume they are jealous and want to sabotage me. It's quite logical, really.

haha

flabulous4

I'm just ANGRY that you didn't send me a friend request ;-) :explode:

Goldenwoof

I don't think it's rude at all to not include a message. I prefer them, though, because I like to know a little bit about people who wanna add me and why they wanna add me. But if there's no message, I don't get all honked off and think about what a mean, thoughtless, evil person the person is.

alimarieban

Thanks to all who posted helpful responses! I'm glad to hear it's not the big of a deal- just always been one of those people who don't like to do something that might be considered rude. :-)

yesthistime

I don't think anyone is offended. At worst they probably just think, "who is this person and why are they friend requesting me?".

Yes.

RUN2CJ

Friends - how many of us have them?!

Chill-Lax!!! No worries! Fiends are a pig-ture perfect way to keep you uplifted and motivated. This is a lifestyle change for some and a big step. Finding the "good" friends to surround you can be difficult. A message just allows you to see someone’s personality and intentions. If there is no message, it’s ok because that persons true colors will reveal themselves in due time. Request to be friends and send a message if you like… or not at all!

My motto is the more the merrier!!! But what do I know, I just started this site 10 days ago!!!

Michele7091

I always send a message just mainly because I know they're probably thinking "who the hell is this and why is she friending me". But the funny thing is...I have NEVER gotten a message with a friend request to me. And I never think "who the hell is this person and why are they friending me". Weird that the way I assume people will react is the exact opposite of how I do react.

daveelamp

No need to apologise, we have all done it. Its good to build up a network of friends on here for support

arewethereyet

Hi. If a poster is rude, report them. If you quote and make a comment, then I have to delete your post, too!

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/welcome/guidelines

1. No Attacks or Insults and No Reciprocation
a) Do not attack, mock, or otherwise insult others


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