6'2, 250lb fiance wants to only eat 1500 calories... help me

red_hatorade

My fiance is former military so is in pretty good shape. He has gained some weight over the years and wants to get back to being lean. He wants me to count the calories for his meals for him and stay at 1500 calories a day. He is 6'2 and 250 lbs. I try to tell him this is way too few calories but he just wants to lose weight quick. He claims he can lose 10 lbs a week because he has a super fast metabolism. Please give me some ides on how to back up the fct that this is NOT healthy.

mrsdizzyd84

What you really need to do is tell him to count his own darn calories. Why should you do it for him. That's the first problem. He needs to take responsibility for his own weight loss.

As to him eating 1500 a day, if he is hell bent on it, good luck getting him to do otherwise. My husband was the same except he was 6'2" and 311. Once he started to see how bad he felt on that few calories he started eating more. Your husband will figure it out. It's not up to you to change his mind. Just mention that it's too few calories, tell him why and then be done with it.

Speedtrap

I am 6'1" and around 250, I do have plenty of days I eat less than 1500 Cal, not because I want to, but because I am full.

It is his choice, just be ready to support him if it fails, don't say I told you so, encourage him to change and make better choices, but if he is determined to eat so little, let min try. I think he will discover his metabolism is not so super anymore

red_hatorade

I count for him because I make all his meals. I stay at home with our daughter, so I make the meals. It is easier to measure and notate as I cook. I don't mind doing it, really.

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

If you're counting couldn't you just feed him as many calories has you want? :devil:

Ok that's not exactly the basis for an honest relationship, but seriously-- maybe he'll start at 1500 and figure out it's not enough. I seriously doubt he'll lose 10 lbs a week. I wouldn't sweat it too much.

vinylscratch

Let go of the illusion of control... he will figure it out :flowerforyou:

Justjoshin

What's MFP saying he should be eating? If he has a sedentary Job, a 2lb a week loss probably is 1500 calories.

achief192

I am 6'1 and was 230 pounds. I ate around 1500 and did a lot of running. It worked for me. Everyone is different.

twanthe1

When I started I was 6'5 260 and my calorie goal was about 1,800, I averaged about 1,900 and have lost 17 pounds in a month.

noexcuses84

i learnt a long time ago that if a man is hell bent on doing something, they will do it no matter wat u say! just support him and let him figure this out for himself

jrich1

he should be probably closer to about 1800ish.

rayleansout

Tell him to do it himself!

Cassi1990

What you really need to do is tell him to count his own darn calories. Why should you do it for him. That's the first problem. He needs to take responsibility for his own weight loss.

This^^^

Melroxsox

I count for him because I make all his meals. I stay at home with our daughter, so I make the meals. It is easier to measure and notate as I cook. I don't mind doing it, really.

I do this as well because I am the only one that cooks out of the two of us..( I work alot though).plus I cook everything from scratch....Alot of people don't really understand why women spoil their hubbies like that....but I do because he deserves it:) I would just make sure he's getting enough nutrients, but 1500 cals seems okay to me. If he's starving then make something satisfying, but HEALTHY and low cal. Hope this helped a little.

onedayillbamilf

Since YOU'RE the one counting the calories for him, can't you just feed him more than 1500 (but create enough of a deficit for him to lose) and not tell him?

journalistjen

I agree that he should do the tracking himself. That is way too few calories for a man that size. The quicker he loses that weight, he will only gain it even faster when he stops "dieting." He needs a lifestyle change, it the weight needs to come off slowly at 2 pounds a week. This is the healthiest way to lose weight, plus you risk having excess skin if you lose too quickly.

bigtone34

Those are my numbers as well. I eat between 1400-1700 a day.

memcd911

What you really need to do is tell him to count his own darn calories. Why should you do it for him. That's the first problem. He needs to take responsibility for his own weight loss.

^ This. Times 412.

Happyguy

i learnt a long time ago that if a man is hell bent on doing something, they will do it no matter wat u say! just support him and let him figure this out for himself

Yeah, we tend to be headstrong, but in the end the wife is usually right.

I thought everyone already knew that though. LOL

KAB0

My father at 6'4" 385 lbs has been on about 1500 calories a day for over a year and it has helped him lose over 100lbs. 1500 is not great for someone who is super active, but for people who generally do desk jobs is is generally sufficient. I would not recommend having a high activity level during this, but maintain a moderate activity level and he shoudl be fine. The main thing is that if he is very hungry at the end of the day then he may need a few more calories for his activity level. If he is satisified (maybe a tiny bit hungry) at the end of the day then he is probalby at a good enough level to lose weight.
As others said if his body thinks it is being starved, his metabolism will slow down which will affect him more in the long run once hs stops the "diet".

Good luck to him!

Kenzietea2

He is going to get burnt out extremely quickly and probably won't maintain the loss.
Slow and steady is proven more effective!

purpleipod

His health is his responsibility. How is he supposed to learn anything long term if you do everything for him?

Trail_Addict

Let go of the illusion of control... he will figure it out :flowerforyou:

^^^ This

loozit4good

I agree with DZ Rogers about him taking responsibility for his own weight loss. I don't think 1500 calories is going to kill him but you may want to tell him if he eat way under what he should be eating, it can actually cause your bodies metabolism to hold on to the fat he has. Also, if he loses weight so rapidly he may risk losing a lot of muscle along with it. Good luck.

Hoakiebs

My fiance is former military so is in pretty good shape. He has gained some weight over the years and wants to get back to being lean. He wants me to count the calories for his meals for him and stay at 1500 calories a day. He is 6'2 and 250 lbs. I try to tell him this is way too few calories but he just wants to lose weight quick. He claims he can lose 10 lbs a week because he has a super fast metabolism. Please give me some ides on how to back up the fct that this is NOT healthy.

I started at 5 '11 247 and went on a 1790 cal. Diet and lost 15 lbs. in 1 st 4 weeks. Then they dropped me to 1590 cals. And the loss has slowed somewhat. Have him make sure he gets some fat burning exercise (65% Heart rate).

mrsdizzyd84

I count for him because I make all his meals. I stay at home with our daughter, so I make the meals. It is easier to measure and notate as I cook. I don't mind doing it, really.

I do this as well because I am the only one that cooks out of the two of us..( I work alot though).plus I cook everything from scratch....Alot of people don't really understand why women spoil their hubbies like that....but I do because he deserves it:) I would just make sure he's getting enough nutrients, but 1500 cals seems okay to me. If he's starving then make something satisfying, but HEALTHY and low cal. Hope this helped a little.

I'm at home and I do the cooking (from scratch most of the time), but my husband still counts his own calories. I just tell him what I made. If it's a complicated recipe I create a listing for it. It is up to him to decide how many servings he wants of it. He goes to work and smacks on God knows what. He's accountable for it. My husband has lost over 20lbs. and counting his calories has become an automatic thing for him.

It's not a question of "spoiling" your husband or not. It's a question of personal responsibility.

espence30

What you really need to do is tell him to count his own darn calories. Why should you do it for him. That's the first problem. He needs to take responsibility for his own weight loss.

As to him eating 1500 a day, if he is hell bent on it, good luck getting him to do otherwise. My husband was the same except he was 6'2" and 311. Once he started to see how bad he felt on that few calories he started eating more. Your husband will figure it out. It's not up to you to change his mind. Just mention that it's too few calories, tell him why and then be done with it.

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Hotrodhoodlum

I'm 6'2 " 273 Lbs and I eat 1500 a day . I cant seem to eat at any more I try but it rarely happens . Been doing it for almost 4 months and Im still here

wareagle8706

If he eats too few calories he's going to mess with his blood sugar and could pass out. I suppose he'll figure it out on his own... But if you make all the meals make sure the things you're feeding him are the right choices for his blood sugar so he doesn't get too screwed up.

Not to mention... eating so few calories for someone so big is going to cause that "super high metabolism" of his to come to a screeching hault because his body is going to be trying to conserve as many calories as possible because it's going to think he's starving it.

And there is no way he is going to lose 10 lbs a week. If he does that. Tell me, I'd be very interested to know the result of his little experiment and this "super high metabolism."

ElPumaMex

I count for him because I make all his meals. I stay at home with our daughter, so I make the meals. It is easier to measure and notate as I cook. I don't mind doing it, really.

I do this as well because I am the only one that cooks out of the two of us..( I work alot though).plus I cook everything from scratch....Alot of people don't really understand why women spoil their hubbies like that....but I do because he deserves it:) I would just make sure he's getting enough nutrients, but 1500 cals seems okay to me. If he's starving then make something satisfying, but HEALTHY and low cal. Hope this helped a little.

My 2 cents here:

1) 1500 cal is not necessarily wrong. I am at 6' 1" and my cals is 1880, and will probably be in the low 1700's once I get to my ideal weight.

2) Don't lie to your husband, feeding him more secretely. I would be really mad if my wife did that.

3) Let him count his own calories.
My wife also cooks dinner for me, but I ask her for the ingredients in the recipe, and then I can figure out calories per portion, etc.
My wife spoils me in other ways, but I am in control of what I eat.
If you try to count the calories, you will need to be asking him for what he ate during the day, etc; that would not make sense.
Much better if he counts, so that he knows ahead of time (before eating) how large a portion he should eat, etc.

19bryan57

What has happened to the "community". She ask for some advise about calories and half of you respond that it is "not her job".
My wife does things for me, I do things for her. She does cook more than me - I change the oil more than her.
Come on - don't we do things for each other because we love each other.
Where is the love here?