Problems in you life; who's fault is it??

redefiningmyself

Some discussions yesterday got me curious....

When you think of your problems, what percentage is because of your own fault? and what percentage is caused by other people?

why did you assign the numbers as you did.

Again, just curious to see what others think......

runnercheryl

Some discussions yesterday got me curious....

When you think of your problems, what percentage is because caused by your own fault? and what percentage is caused by other people?

why did you assign the numbers as you did.

Again, just curious to see what others think......

Now, this is interesting. I had an incredibly difficult childhood, but how I reacted to it was my own doing. I'm not saying I could've reacted any differently given the circumstances, but who I am is the result of how I responded to the things that happened to me. I wouldn't 'blame' myself, but I suppose I can't blame anyone else either. I am who I am because of what happened, but who's to say if there's 'fault' to be placed?

I don't think I believe in things being anyone's fault when there are two people involved, though I've never really thought about it before.

Ocarina

Some discussions yesterday got me curious....

When you think of your problems, what percentage is because caused by your own fault? and what percentage is caused by other people?

why did you assign the numbers as you did.

Again, just curious to see what others think......

Well as far as problems go and not coincidences I place all 100% of my "problems" on myself. There is situational things like being born in the US, having certain types of parents, and being a certain economic status but in reality its all my fault I have no problems in my life. I do have some issues like sometimes I'm tired, stressed, and procrastinate but I can't thank or blame my parents for my great life. I just keep them involved as much as possible outside the busy realm of the week and am enjoying and appreciate having them still alive.

I made the right decisions in my life, worked my butt off to get where I am, have had good health so far, and really have had no abnormal stresses the last 3-4 years. I cannot say I've not made mistakes but I've learned from them the first time and will never attempt to do them again. It has resulted in a very good outcome and anything that could be bad would be outside of my control like becoming sick, losing a job, or a loss of someone close. Also I could be so lazy and retarded and wreck the car, throw away some money without thinking, or something else but rarely it happens and that is 100% my fault.

I have to throw in though... I am religious and believe God/religion has played a beneficial role in helping me maintain good morals and is also a part of the blessings and tests on my patience. So I guess, live life to the fullest and don't let things slip you by because the worst thing that could happen is you grow old and regret your life.

NeuroticVirgo

mmm...logically....I would say 75% my fault, 25% the worlds fault.

The way I look at it, most of my problems are caused by decisions I've made. I'm fat...why...because I decided to live off McDonalds and Ice Cream for 15 years (and it doesn't matter the background of why I made those choices, if I was depressed, stressed etc...it was still MY choice) House is dirty...well who didn't clean it up? me! (or my husband or children...but hey...who didn't MAKE them clean up after themselves...me!).

Then sometimes you just can't control the situation. Car breaks down. Did you take care of it, check the oil, make sure there was no leaks etc.... how are you supposed to know on some random Thursday that your radiator is going to blow up?

Your daughter is dating a jerk, and she's over 18. I suppose this becomes your problem, because you make it your problem (so could be thrown back into the 75%), but there's nothing you can really do about. You raised your kids the best you could, hoping when you send them out into the world they won't be idiots...but you can't force them to make good decisions.

....and well...just to throw something out there...periods. I didn't get to choose to be a girl and have them, I just have to deal with the bloating, PMS, and cramping...I blame the world for that one.

I could probably explain more, but it would take a while.

I guess this question also brings up "whats considered a problem?". Some people think everything is a problem (like they can't find the TV remote), while other people only see large issues (like divorce etc.) as their problems.

DQMD

Well it depends...

I know that growing up a lot of things were really up to my parent's. My parents were strict with me because I was a follower and very naive. When I was in my 20's, I did a lot of stupid things that made me into who I am now in my 40's. Do I have any regrets..not really because that stuff drove me to where I am today.

A few pieces of knowledge:

1. Never lend someone your car after they mysteriously have an accident and can't tell you how they did it.

2. Don't lend someone money unless you don't plan on getting it back.

3. Pay your speeding tickets on time becuase they will suspend your lisence and you will get arrested. Calling your father saying come get me is no fun.

4. IF you have to much to drink, sleep it off in car. and remember to take keys out of ignition. (I did that several times and had keys in the back with me)

5. When men say they will call you tomorrow after doing the bump..don't be shocked when they don't.

PS..I did put myself through college in my 30's working full-time and attending school full-time. I have two degrees. SO there is hope when you screw up in your 20s.