Clueless insult?

Minnesnowtagurl

So, little bit of a venting alert here:

So my friend and I were talking and he said that he met a lovely lady. He went on to say, which I have heard so many times.....“She has a beautiful face but...” Yep! You guessed it. “she is a big girl. I mean I’ve never dated a big girl before and I don’t know about having sex with her.”

Before he got any further, and thinking about where I used to be I said “Excuse you! If you are not interested please do not waste your, or her time. I went through many years of hearing “you have such a pretty face. Only being judged on the outside appearance alone.”

Quickly he realized I was becoming defensive and then says “Well I mean she’s pretty but I just would like her a lot more if she lost weight”. Then I said “Seriously!? If she hasn’t lost weight on her own, why the hell would she lose weight for you? That is a personally step that each individual has to take WHEN they are ready!”


WOW! Talk about clueless! He just didn’t get it. I went on to explain that if he can’t accept her for who she is then he needs to move on and find someone else that is closer to his closed minded standards. I was just mind boggled that he was unaware that he was insulting her...and me too. :noway:

xtinalovexo

jetscreaminagain

Good for you. Your friend forgot that you are a woman too. It also means that you've done such a great job getting healthy and slim that he thinks of you at this weight, not your before weight. But what he said was demeaning and indicated he didn't honor that girl as a full and complete woman and not just a piece of *kitten*. Good for you for clarifying.

Qarol

If she hasn’t lost weight on her own, why the hell would she lose weight for you?

Exactly. Well said.

EJWoolcock

Clueless insults - the most common one I used to get is along the lines of "no offence, but this chick I saw had bigger boobs than yours!". Now gee - why would I be offended that I might not be the biggest person on the planet?? No idea!

killagb

It could be worse, what if she was a butterface?

ShadowSoldier23

Your a great person for standing up for us "pretty faced" big girls everywhere! you are SOOO right that people should lose weight for themselves, not for someone else. Thanks girl for being so damn wonderful!

Minnesnowtagurl

Thanks everyone! It's is nice to have a place where I can vent to people that fully understand where I am coming from! :happy:

millerll

Ha-ha! I'll bet she's telling all her friends, "I met this guy, he's really hot, but jeez, he's such a shallow, narcissistic pr!ck. I just can't imagine having sex with him."

jmelyan23

Ha-ha! I'll bet she's telling all her friends, "I met this guy, he's really hot, but jeez, he's such a shallow, narcissistic pr!ck. I just can't imagine having sex with him."

:laugh: