When is it reasonable to consider a boob job?

Lary_babe

I'm just throwing this out there... I'm a christian, fairly conservative. I don't believe God made a mistake in making my body, and I also don't think it would be throwing it in His face to get a breast augmentation if it were for the right reasons... the question is.. what are the right reasons?

At my thinnest, I was teased about being a lesbian or cussed out and told to grow "titties" simply because i was very flat chested, and somewhat underdeveloped. I wear the right support now which gives the illusion of fairly well proportioned (nothing outrageous though, i look very natural and still small busted).

What I'm worried about is when I lose all the weight, I don't want to go back to looking boyish. I want to feel and look like a woman.
It's not that I am super insecure- I like the way I look- I could live without them and be alright.

It is frustrating to not be able to fill out a bra, or have shirts lay like they are supposed to- and have people constantly doing a double take just to make sure i am a girl (even though I am very feminine and quite pretty otherwise).

So... a) how much are boob jobs? b) are you happy with yours c) how did your family/friends react d) why or why wouldn't you support someone in getting them?

for conservative religious types (doesn't have to be christian) have any of you had it done?

All thoughtful, unsnide answers appreciated!

unicornassassin

Personally, I don't think there are any right reasons.

I had a friend get them, and when she told me she was going to I told her I was going to laugh at her. After she did it she was in so much pain and had nasty infections, so I felt too much sympathy to laugh at her (I'm not a total meanie... ha).

I'm a breast cancer survivor, and I do have both my boobs still, but as a result of surgery and radiation, and now weight loss, I have two very different boobs. One is flabby and small, the other is big and perky. It's starting to be noticeable even when I wear clothes.

It's possible that I could get some kind of boob job and even have insurance pay for it, but I'm just going to go the the breast cancer shop and get some unevenly padded bras. You could always get some padded bras yourself.

TheHorribleBlob

I say go for it. If it's something you've put a lot of consideration into it and something you're SURE about, then you should do it. I would try not to worry so much about other people's approval. You're doing it for you.

live4turns

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LiviLou2011

omg take some of mine..big boobs are so annoying..i hate mine, there always in my way, i can never find a bra that fits..i wish mine were smaller lol

6heatherb6

"I like the way I look- I could live without them and be alright. "

Well then...dare I say...prove it!

No right reasons...only pride and self worship..Be God focused and God centred and nothing else will matter.

CrystalMarie253

If you're not happy with your body then do it. I am pretty flat chested and it's frustrating as hell to find clothes and bras that fit so I understand. My friends and family would support me if I went that route! Good luck!

Priincess_Natalie

I have fake ones, I love them and I say if you know the risks and benefits and want to get them then screw what everyone else thinks and just go for it. If you do it for the right reasons you won't regret it . I sure don't!

amoeba15

"So... a) how much are boob jobs? b) are you happy with yours c) how did your family/friends react d) why or why wouldn't you support someone in getting them? "

I had a breast reduction in 2008 (G cups just had to go) so while I was in the opposite side of the spectrum from you I can somewhat sympathize.

a) Around $6,000 to $10,000. Mine ended up being covered by insurance, thankfully, as it was a $57,000 bill after they had to rush me back into surgery because I was bleeding internally. (There's a lot of risks involved.)

b) Quite happy. It was a major quality of life issue for me just as your lack of breasts is a quality of life issue for you. If a small-ish augmentation improves your self-image and helps your interpersonal interactions (and let's face it, there's quite a bit of discrimination against flat-chested women, as you know) then it's worth it, in my opinion.

c) My family members were the ones who first brought it up so they were very supportive.

d) I'm perfectly fine if it's done for a quality of life issue, such as for breast cancer survivors or those who are like you. Doing it because you think it will improve your chances of being a porn star or looking like a celebrity, not so much.

B2BB

Psshh do it, your body your choice. Everyone is always gonna have something to say no matter what. Do u, and make yourself happy. For me after being over weight, breast feeding 3 children, working hard at getting into shape I deserve it. I believe what I believe and my relationship with the higher is mine alone. Only one can judge, everyone else can kiss it haha. Really you gonna go to hell for getting a boob job?? Lol

aweightymatter

Ignoring all the Christian considerations, it's also important to consider that when you get breast aug, you are basically signing up for a lifetime of surgery. Breast implants are not really permanent -- they WILL need to be readjusted over the years. That's a lot of anesthesia and stress on your body, and a lot of stress on your bank account as well.

That said, if you consider all of this carefully, and you want to do it -- then do it, and don't worry about what people on a message board, even other Christians, think. You're the one who ultimately has to live in your own body

Beezil

omg take some of mine..big boobs are so annoying..i hate mine, there always in my way, i can never find a bra that fits..i wish mine were smaller lol

No offense, but I personally have a smaller chest and every time a large chested woman says this, it's never made me feel any better. Usually just kinda irritates me and makes me jealous. :indifferent:

I think if you can afford breast augmentation, have done your research on the risks as well as the actual procedure, and you're still okay with having that kind of thing done to yourself, go for it. I personally wouldn't take the risks, and I think it's a disgusting thing to do to an otherwise healthy, beautiful body. Breasts aren't there just for everyone to gawk at and drool over, they're meant for our children to grow and get what they need to survive until they're old enough to eat solid foods. I'm pretty tired of the female body being objectified and women always being pressured to feel as though they're not a woman just because they don't have the breasts of a porn star.

NoAdditives

If you're seriously thinking about getting any sort of cosmetic surgery you should get a psychological evaluation first to make sure you're doing it for the right reasons. Too many people have procedures done because they think it will make them feel better about themselves and often times it doesn't.

I'm considering a breast lift/augmentation at some point in the future to get my breasts back to where they were before I had three babies. They were pretty perfect and it makes me a little sad that they're different now. But, it will be a while before that happens. Breast augmentation costs (on average) about $5000, so I'll need time to save up!

jenlb99

Everyone I know who has them has almost no sensation in their nipples...and for me, that's a HUUUGGGEEE problem.

I certainly don't need a boob job, and would have considered a lift in the next 10 years or so, but again, everyone I know who's had a lift (or reduction!) has very little feeling in their nipples.

I have a friend who's a plastic surgeon and he says that's the reality for most women who get a boob job. The bottom line is that it's reasonable to get a boob job whenever YOU decide it is.

silverburk

Personally I feel if God created us in his image, he obviously had image issues. :P Sorry, but everyone is supposed to be unique. You're not unique if you were made in someone else's image.

tataliciousd89

I am a pro choice christian as wierd as that sounds. I know what is right for me based on my beliefs, but I truly do believe that there is a time and a place for everything and that you wont be condemned to hell for getting cosmetic surgery. Obviously I don't speak for god, but I find it hard to believe that with all the horrible things going on in this world that a little boob job would be a huge fuss. Beyond that, I was considering the same thing until very recently. I was lucky enough to do a surgical follow through on a patient who was having a mastectomy with reconstruction. It was amazing to watch, but at the same time it got me to thinking a little more about it. Surgery is very invasive and takes a huge toll on your body. Implants get inserted under the muscle and are usually held in place by a synthetic tissue that fuses with the skin. After surgery your sensitivity level in your breasts will never be the same which is kinda the final deal breaker for me. Thats just what I know and feel on the topic. I hope that helps some.

plushkitten

Do not think of it as flaws you want to change, rather than things that you already love and want to enhance.
Either way it's your body.

Good luck!

Elizabeth_C34

First, get to your goal weight, and be healthy. Then, make sure you do your homework on the risks. Lastly, it really is up to you. It is your body so this really should be your decision.

I have no opinion on the matter as I was endowed with the opposite problem. It's hard for me to see it from your perspective.

D446

I am not religious, and I do not really understand the religious reasons as why you shouldn't get a boob job? It is YOUR choice and yours alone. But people that are saying you were created perfectly, well then I hope you don't dye your hair or wear make up.

Maybe I don't understand, but If you would feel More feminine, or more comfortable with a boob job, you deserve one. I don't think god will be disappointed in you. I have not had a boob job, but my boobs are naturally a good size for me. If they were not, I would want one too. Here in Australia they cost about $10000

LilacDreamer

I am honestly considering a lift, if i get to the point where i do lose the weight i'm looking to lose. But I also have not done all the research I need to do on that subject.

Opinions are all well and good, but it is your body and you really need to do the research to see just what will be happening to it before you make any serious decisions.

DakotaKeogh

I don't think you need to worry the reasons or where the acceptable line is. It's up to you. My ex wanted to get it done after our third and last was born. Breastfeeding had so annihilated her breasts that she just want to have some form back. I didn't care myself. I loved her to death. But, it meant a lot to her and I realized she saw it as part of her self image as a woman, and a mother. So I was happy to support her in the decision and stay at her side during the recovery.

It's a very personal choice. And there is no wrong answer. Do what will make you feel best about yourself. My only advice would be to go the premium path. Don't go for the most affordable option. It will yield a bad outcome. We opted for the more expensive, under the muscle implants. It healed up looking completely natural.

You do what's in your heart. Ignore the detractors.

amoeba15

I should add that I still have sensation in my nipples after my reduction even though mine were actually cut off (around the areola) and reattached.

RachelJE

Your body. Your choice.

I have lost over 170 pounds. When I started this journey, I was a 46H. Oddly enough, I'm still an H cup but now am having considerable back and neck pain because basically I don't have the stomach to hold them up any more! Also odd - I consulted with a plastic surgeon, and don't have the volume to qualify for insurance to cover a reduction (although the length - NICE - is a qualifying factor for me). So what I need now would be considered a "lift" and is not covered by insurance. Of course, this was one doctor's opinion and I plan to get several more before making a decision. For me its a matter of comfort (the hanging is literally causing daily back and neck pain). I probably wouldn't consider it if it weren't for that reason. Having said that, I'll repeat again - your body, your choice. Some of the folks responding to you are being very judgemental in the name of Jesus - Lord have mercy. I mean, really?!? My brand of Christianity says - God is love and loves us all. And yes, we are created in the image of a perfect and loving God. But I don't think God stops loving us if we make a decision to alter our body to make ourselves more comfortable - whether that be physically or emotionally.

Bright Blessings on your journey. :flowerforyou:

cjpg

I don't want to be snide, but there is a massive difference between:

- I don't believe God made a mistake in making my body,
- I don't think it would be throwing it in His face to get a breast augmentation if it were for the right reasons

In the most sensitive way I can put this, I personally believe that above all else it is important to remember that God created us in his image. He doesn't make mistakes, and in no light are you a mistake. For this, I don't see any reasons that can justify surgery for what is already perfect.

I think its also important to remember that the words that people have spat at you in the past can and only does hurt you if you let it.

I'm a little confused... if god made you perfect, then why are you on here trying to lose weight/alter your body? o.O

As a woman, I know that that area can change quite a bit, especially when you gain or lose weight. If you are dissatisfied with the way your body looks, I think you should be free to alter yourself whichever way you see fit. Whether that be losing weight, gaining weight, buying padded bras, or getting a breast augmentation, that should be your decision and your decision only.

If YOU have certain religious views that prohibit you from getting a breast augmentation or YOU feel it is in anyway wrong, then you have your answer... I don't think you should rely on other people's opinions to make your decision. Do what you feel in your heart and mind is the best for you

Wanting to lose weight is out of respect of the body God gave me. God didn't put me on this earth to die of heart disease because I was gluttonous.

Losing/gaining weight naturally by exercising and eating properly is something I should be doing anyway. How is that the same as going in to get cut up and put plastic into my body?

It isn't.

smkcx♥

when is it reasonable to consider a boob job?
*there is no answer for this. you as a person have to sit down and weigh your options, does it mean that much to you? do you think it would make you happier as a person? are you willing to live with that change?

how much does it cost?
*there are two girls who live in the town im from, whom both got breast implants for right around 2k. although I think it can depend on place to place, so I would assume anywhere from 2,000-10,000. (I would like to add that both girls look great, they didnt go overly big, mel got a small b and jessica got c's. but both sizes fit each girl. mel is a small/slender girl.)

I personally dont have anything negative to say about it. If its something you wish to do, go for it. Just weigh your options and make sure to read all the facts before you do it and dont pick a place simply on price but the quality (you do not want tara reid's hack job)

Lary_babe

Your body. Your choice.

I have lost over 170 pounds. When I started this journey, I was a 46H. Oddly enough, I'm still an H cup but now am having considerable back and neck pain because basically I don't have the stomach to hold them up any more! Also odd - I consulted with a plastic surgeon, and don't have the volume to qualify for insurance to cover a reduction (although the length - NICE - is a qualifying factor for me). So what I need now would be considered a "lift" and is not covered by insurance. Of course, this was one doctor's opinion and I plan to get several more before making a decision. For me its a matter of comfort (the hanging is literally causing daily back and neck pain). I probably wouldn't consider it if it weren't for that reason. Having said that, I'll repeat again - your body, your choice. Some of the folks responding to you are being very judgemental in the name of Jesus - Lord have mercy. I mean, really?!? My brand of Christianity says - God is love and loves us all. And yes, we are created in the image of a perfect and loving God. But I don't think God stops loving us if we make a decision to alter our body to make ourselves more comfortable - whether that be physically or emotionally.

Bright Blessings on your journey. :flowerforyou:

Your answer was quite helpful. Just to clarify, I am not worried about being condemned to hell. I don't think body alteration is a sin necessarily- it's the motives behind it. And no I am not considering it to be more sexy or because I think I am ugly. As someone mentioned earlier, it's to enhance what I have, to make life more comfortable as a woman. At any rate I can't afford it or justify spending that much money on them when people around the world are going hungry- I have seen it first hand. I was just curious about the various views, and liked to day dream about it for a minute. You have all been very helpful. Amazing how broad the spectrum of views is. I appreciate all your input! (Also I'd like you to know I am not taking personally what anyone has said on here and was not planning on making a decision based off that. I am a strong person- and like to make decisions fully informed. Part of making a good decision is getting feedback from those who have done it. ) Once again thank you all!

Beezil

Your body. Your choice.

I have lost over 170 pounds. When I started this journey, I was a 46H. Oddly enough, I'm still an H cup but now am having considerable back and neck pain because basically I don't have the stomach to hold them up any more! Also odd - I consulted with a plastic surgeon, and don't have the volume to qualify for insurance to cover a reduction (although the length - NICE - is a qualifying factor for me). So what I need now would be considered a "lift" and is not covered by insurance. Of course, this was one doctor's opinion and I plan to get several more before making a decision. For me its a matter of comfort (the hanging is literally causing daily back and neck pain). I probably wouldn't consider it if it weren't for that reason. Having said that, I'll repeat again - your body, your choice. Some of the folks responding to you are being very judgemental in the name of Jesus - Lord have mercy. I mean, really?!? My brand of Christianity says - God is love and loves us all. And yes, we are created in the image of a perfect and loving God. But I don't think God stops loving us if we make a decision to alter our body to make ourselves more comfortable - whether that be physically or emotionally.

Bright Blessings on your journey. :flowerforyou:

Your answer was quite helpful. Just to clarify, I am not worried about being condemned to hell. I don't think body alteration is a sin necessarily- it's the motives behind it. And no I am not considering it to be more sexy or because I think I am ugly. As someone mentioned earlier, it's to enhance what I have, to make life more comfortable as a woman. At any rate I can't afford it or justify spending that much money on them when people around the world are going hungry- I have seen it first hand. I was just curious about the various views, and liked to day dream about it for a minute. You have all been very helpful. Amazing how broad the spectrum of views is. I appreciate all your input! (Also I'd like you to know I am not taking personally what anyone has said on here and was not planning on making a decision based off that. I am a strong person- and like to make decisions fully informed. Part of making a good decision is getting feedback from those who have done it. ) Once again thank you all!

You're probably one of the most down to earth people I've seen post a topic on here... >.> *sending friend request!*

skygoddess86

it's been 14 years, never a moments regret. Love love love them, had a perfect experience, no bleeding, no scarring, no lumps or weirdness. Yes it did hurt really bad for a few days. Just had a fancy new fangled mammo/ultrasound and they look great. ( . Y . )

Nopedotjpeg

Not going to read the sanctimonious bull**** replies that are typical to this type of thread.

What you need to worry about is what you want and how you feel about this. You should also become familiar with what the complications/follow-up requirements for cosmetic surgery like this are. IIRC it is common to need follow-up operations after breast augmentation. Go through a cost-benefit analysis in your mind. In the end, it's your decision alone that matters in this.

holliph

things you need to consider first: are you really doing this because you want to change the way you look for a self image reason? or do you still have unresolved issues from your past with getting teased that you think getting an augmentation will be the bandage to fix those memories? if the second is the reason please see a therapist, because that is for the wrong reason. body image is forced on all of us on a daily basis in advertising, music, television shows, heck even our coworkers and friends. not all of those body images thrust on us are the most positive images either. everyone had a different body type that is UNIQUE to them. accentuate what is your best feature and do a ton of research before you commit to undergo the scalpel.
self image does not immediately improve after surgery. what one imagines to come to fruition does not always occur. not all doctors can work miracles either. the cheaper the surgery = cheaper work and most likely no improvement in your self image. a good plastic surgeon who is board certified with no mars on his record should cost about 10k minimum. a plastic surgeon like this will install a pain pump directly into each breast that will stay for 3 to 4 days so you will have little to no pain with no need to take an oral pain pill