Friends can be cruel..

AmberLee2012

Just take it as willpower training. I’ve been watching the show Ruby on Netflix and she was 700 lbs at her highest weight. I’m in season 2 and she is down to 350. She has taken her nephew through the drive-thru and went in bakery shops and not given purchased anything for herself. Very inspiring! It’s okay to have those things in moderation, but sometimes it can be a slippery slope of the food is a trigger food.

scapez

It's not cruel. They're free to make their own food choices just as you are.

Just because they're not conforming to your choices doesn't make them cruel.

darylinny

Not cruel...unless they were eating your favorite "before" food and taunting you with all the goo-ey, caloric tasty-ness...that would be cruel. Or unless you've specifically asked them to not eat certain things around you and they do it any way...that would be cruel. But if they haven't changed their eating habits and you have then they are just being themselves! Talk to them about it, don't just assume they are being cruel, clueless maybe, insensitive definitely!!! Maybe you should widen your friend circle and hook up with people who are trying to lose weight too, that way you have a support system that is going through what you are too.

thepetiterunner

None of us live in a vacuum, unfortunately. There will ALWAYS be other people, family or friends, strangers or coworkers, who are living their lives around us. They may make choices in their diet or activities or personal life that we don't agree with or wouldn't choose for themselves.

This is about YOU and YOUR path. This is a path that you're traveling on your own and the reasons have to be your own. Don't worry about other people. I can guarantee you not a single one of them was thinking "Bwhahaha, I shall sabotage her by eating this delicious greasy-ness right. in. front. of. her." Most people act out of obliviousness or out of their own desires. It has nothing to do with you. And if they were thinking those thoughts, and you honestly believed that, why are you still friends with them?

Make this about YOU and not about THEM.

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Also, if you guys were used to doing these activities together before (eating pizza, etc), it might not occur to them that it's sensitive for you now.

Articeluvsmemphis

speaking of pizza

Hellbent_Heidi

I don't think its cruel necessarily, but its a hard thing to overcome. For a long time, I always got sucked into sabotaging my own healthy eating because I went out with friends and ordered something terrible for me, because a) they ordered terrible things, and b) those terrible things sounded wonderful at the time and I didn't want to be the one with the boring healthy food while they had something more interesting, and I personally just don't do well with the whole "everything in moderation" theory....

Once I decided that I just HAD to stick to my plans because I'd had enough, I've learned that I'm just as satisfied with the lower calorie options and feel a lot happier when the meal is done (no longer left feeling bloated, overly full and disappointed in my bad choices). After I lost 35 lbs, my friends now watch to see what I'm getting and they too have started planning ahead by checking nutritional info online when we're planning a specific restaurant...or asking my opinion.

Hang in there...once they start noticing your results, they'll be following your lead soon enough!

lisaisso

if that's your definition of cruel..
i agree with some of the other replies, just because u made a change doesn't mean others have to abide by those same rules or guidelines.. it just doesn't work that way.
continue to do what you're doing and you'll see results, despite what others are doing around you.

kaetra

The flip side - My friends always feel guilty when they eat junky or high-cal stuff in front of me, and that in turn, makes me feel bad because I don't want to make them feel bad.

I just want to enjoy time with my friends and have some fun with them - I don't care about their food. Sure, their 5 pound burritos look really yummy, but I know how many calories are in them (yikes!) so it doesn't even phase me. Plus I only eat delicious things that I absoultely love! They don't need to feel bad for me! I love my food!

luvgreen25

I get the opposite, I get someone (family mostly) who says "Can you eat that??" Uggh so annoying. I think people get in mindsets of diet food and gosh at some point in my life I'm going to eat a piece of pizza or a cookie and it's okay, it doesn't mean I'm a failure and it's not going to derail my entire eating plan. It's all about moderation.

Watching other people eat something like pizza if I eat a salad doesn't bother me, mainly because I eat what I want, so if I choose to eat a salad, I'm going to enjoy the crap out of that thing. HA!

I HATE comments like that! Every single time I hear - "are you allowed to eat that?" I cringe. I have to take a deep breathe as to not blow a gasket while answering. After a few LONG seconds, I reply, "Yes, I'm allowed to eat whatever I want. Thank you for asking."

hawkeygal

hang in there David!

Just know you're making a healthy lifestyle change for YOU and not anyone else. If your friends tend to "taunt" you with their fast food/poor food choices, try to meet them after dinner/meal times rather than putting yourself in a hard emotional situation.

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watcherII

really? you are looking forward to laughing at your friends? question: how exactly are they being bad friends? and how are YOU being a friend to them? your friends have not changed, you have. hopefully, you can make it a positive change. your friends are doing the same thing they have always done, going out and enjoying a meal with those they care about. the only thing different is your anger, resentment and that bitter taste in your mouth. instead of being irrationally mad at them, maybe try planning ahead. when you have plans with your friends, eat lighter during the day, so you have extra calories that night to enjoy some pizza. or put in extra work at the gym. either way, you can have a treat, enjoy time with your friends, and avoid the negative feelings. good luck!

noelandy

I dont think we should be judging anyone by what they are eating. As we would not want them to do it to us. Years ago, when I went completelu cold turkey on flour and sugar, I was so self riteous (sp?) about food in general. I would not expect anyone to change their way of eating, because I have to lose weight.

acstansell

Friends? How about Family!

I was at dinner on Saturday night with my family and I had already picked out my meal - 800 calories that I know would fill me up and keep me under my daily goal.

My mother-in-law, my husband, and his brother all ordered appetizers...

and ALL kept asking me if I wanted any - potato skins, fried cheese cubes, and nachos. The kept offering and I kept saying no... but it really bothered me. I know they felt like they didn't want me being the only one at the table not eating (as if my not eating adds to the guilt of them eating that stuff). I said no, drank my water, and watched them eat - wanting one, but at the same time not wanting one - just to prove to them that I could. 5 out of the 6 people eating appetizers said they were going to start losing weight after the first of the year. The only one actively trying and succeeding... is me.

QueenJayJay

Darn those friends, eating what they want and such!

rml_16

And once again, evidence of the need for a sarcasm font.

chevere70

Just ignore them. They will be asking you for the website soon.

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Good luck.