I need a reply to this comment I keep getting

tiggergrrl23

" I like losing weight the way I am doing it... a little more slowly but I eat all the carbs I want!!!!!!!!!!!!! CARBS, NOM NOM NOM ". Then eat carbs in front of her, smacking your lips and moaning with food-pleasure.

Alright, maybe a little over the top but I dislike that obnoxious, competitive weight loss comments from friends

THIS!! LOLOL!!! :laugh:

Kenzietea2

She is the one that is losing. She is damaging her body by losing and gaining weight like that, so let her be competitive with you. You're the one that will be successful in the end anyway.

sc1572

Oh, man...I feel you! My mom did this crazy diet of 500 cals a day and dropped 30 lbs. in one month. She was bragging how she only weighed one pound more than me. It made me mad cause I did it the natural and healthy way and didn't starve myself. Whenever she brings it up and complains how she gained some of it back, I always have some comeback that results in her saying she knows better than to do the diet, but does it anyways.

AmberJslimsAWAY

how about...

correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't you low carb last year too? Why do you have to keep doing it?

its nearly impossible to lose that much actual fat in 2 days, its all probably water weight, because I can see you skin starting to dry up a bit.

Ohh! B*tchy AND helpful!!

lynzy713

Just say "I'm glad you find that it's working for you. I've found a way that I feel is going to work for me long term and I feel confident in my choice even if it's not high numbers all the time".

ajbeans

I guess I'm also wondering why, if this is a friend, you would feel the need to "put her in her place." If you're her friend, you don't need to feel that way. If you feel that way, maybe this isn't a "friendship" you need to continue.

Just a thought.

H0neybug

You reap what you sow...

Everyone has someone toxic in their life that is always trying to bring you down with, how much better their life is supposed to be than yours...don't buy it!

Live your life for you...focus on you...everything else is just there to entertain you...don't take it so serious and laugh it off.

Remember what goes around comes around.

whtlatina1214

@#@# her lol and ignore it and well once you hit your goal and she is heavy again you can laugh

lbigham1

Just ignore it. Why do you need a comeback? It actually has nothing to do with you. It's her journey. Just leave her to it. If she asks for your advice, give it gently, but if not, just congratulate her on her losses and leave it at that.

This - Next year she'll be asking you how you manage to keep it off. Then you can share the healthy lifestyle changes you've made.

Skarlette

I think the comments by "ajbeans" are the wisest way to handle this. Good luck on your journey and know that a lot of us are also on our own journeys and we want you to be successful.

Megdonald1

" I like losing weight the way I am doing it... a little more slowly but I eat all the carbs I want!!!!!!!!!!!!! CARBS, NOM NOM NOM ". Then eat carbs in front of her, smacking your lips and moaning with food-pleasure.

Alright, maybe a little over the top but I dislike that obnoxious, competitive weight loss comments from friends

LOL ^^^ is too funny. Do that just because it will make you laugh

MystiqueASAP

Just ignore it. Why do you need a comeback? It actually has nothing to do with you. It's her journey. Just leave her to it. If she asks for your advice, give it gently, but if not, just congratulate her on her losses and leave it at that.

^^^^^This...

Besides, if you say anything other than congratulations, she may take it the wrong way and accuse you of being jealous, even if you are trying to help her with her long-term goals.

DBiddle69

Just remember:

1) Slow and steady wins the race
2) It's a lifestyle change not a diet
3) It takes three months to create a habit
4) What we are today took a lifetime to create so rules 1-3 need to be remembered every day!

gnrshelton

I would just congratulate her on her loss and be happy in the fact that you are making your own lifestyle change. It sounds like maybe she is just insecure and needs more attention when she does something. The less you let it bother you the less she will bother you with it. You know you are working hard. Most of the time (not all) they are just trying to find something in common with you. They don't even realize they bother you. Just move on and look the other way. You will be the better person.

bluepixxy

ALL I CAN SAY IS GOOD JOB ,YOU ARE DOING IT THE RIGHT WAY AND YOU HAVE LOST 9 LBS ,THAT IS AWESOME.

spollard40

Hahahaha I love these replies! In actuality I will probably say nothing but keep those hilarious remarks tucked away for the next reminder on how much she's now lost! Like I said, I know it's her competitive nature to try and one-up me and whatever it is at the moment, but I just found it insensitive, that's all. I don't have a competitive bone in my body, so that's certainly not it. Thanks, all!

Oh, and I recommended this site to her and she said "Oh I use Spark People and it's SO much better." LOL

DaniellePF

" I like losing weight the way I am doing it... a little more slowly but I eat all the carbs I want!!!!!!!!!!!!! CARBS, NOM NOM NOM ". Then eat carbs in front of her, smacking your lips and moaning with food-pleasure.

Alright, maybe a little over the top but I dislike that obnoxious, competitive weight loss comments from friends

^^^THIS!!!!

ffuunnnnyy__ggiirrll

Patience.
She will lose the 20 pounds. You will lose a few.
She will gain the 20 pounds back. You will lose a few more pounds.
Then you can post on Facebook....I lost 20 pounds and kept it off! Yay me!

alishasickler

I agree to ignore her or just say "that's nice, good for you" and hide her from your facebook news feed for now. It's difficult BUT it will satisfy your frustration to keep REMEMBERING that in a few months, she'll have lost her interest and gain it all back. But you'll still be losing and making that lifestyle change. Now how's that for the "last word"?? Good luck!

mrmanmeat

Just ignore it. Why do you need a comeback? It actually has nothing to do with you. It's her journey. Just leave her to it. If she asks for your advice, give it gently, but if not, just congratulate her on her losses and leave it at that.

Give it gently. This is exactly what's wrong w/ America.


Give her the truth, not some watered down "be nice" version. The truth is the best thing you can give anyone.

ChristineDiet

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Say "that's nice, I'm changing my lifestyle so I can get healthy and fit, AND stay that way. I wouldn't want to do the yo-yo thing" And leave it at that

I agree, say this, x

killagb

Hahahaha I love these replies! In actuality I will probably say nothing but keep those hilarious remarks tucked away for the next reminder on how much she's now lost! Like I said, I know it's her competitive nature to try and one-up me and whatever it is at the moment, but I just found it insensitive, that's all. I don't have a competitive bone in my body, so that's certainly not it. Thanks, all!

Oh, and I recommended this site to her and she said "Oh I use Spark People and it's SO much better." LOL

Spark People? Oh hell no...she's asking for it...

Elzecat

I have a friend like that - she mocks calorie counting and is always on the latest fad diet - you name it, she's tried it so that makes her an expert. Every now and then she loses 20lb, then puts it back, with more on top. As a consequence, in the time that I've known her, she's got bigger and I've got smaller, but she's still 'the expert'!
Guess what her latest fad was? Yes, calorie counting! I'd recommended MFP to her, she found a different site which she said was better, stuck with it for a few weeks and then got bored!
So just smile and nod - one day she'll come to her senses!

One of my coworkers used to make fun of my calorie counting on MFP and tell me I was obsessed with being healthy because I was logging my foods...she recently started doing the Tim Ferris (?) Four Hour Diet plan and gushes about how she doesn't have to count calories...I do have to give her credit though, she's eating much healthier and losing weight and inches, so it's working for her and I'm happy for her--I am gonna continue to count calories because it works for me. To each their own, I guess.

JVanDam77

Maybe she feels the need to "out do" you because she is jealous of you, and insecure about herself. I would just encourage her and maybe even compliment her. After all, you usually get what you give. Good luck!

ajbeans

Just ignore it. Why do you need a comeback? It actually has nothing to do with you. It's her journey. Just leave her to it. If she asks for your advice, give it gently, but if not, just congratulate her on her losses and leave it at that.

Give it gently. This is exactly what's wrong w/ America.


Give her the truth, not some watered down "be nice" version. The truth is the best thing you can give anyone.

You can give the truth without being a jerk though. That's all I meant. No need for a harsh or witty comeback.

BeeElMarvin

I've got two "go to" responses for most things:

1. "Well aren't you f***ing precious."

2. "Go f*** off."

Profane, sure. But it works.

CrazyDaisysMommy

I'd take the high road. I'd say "That's terrific!" and move on. It's enough that you know that you are making an actual lifestyle choice.

I agree. I've had competitive friends, and it stings when they try to one-up me, but I realize that often they're just being needy and want my praise and approval. You're doing something amazing for yourself, and it stinks that this friend is trying to steal your thunder, but some people can only give what they can give. She doesn't sound like she's capable of being your cheerleader. Good thing you have all of us!

Slugsasarus

If you guys are friends, why don't you just talk to her about it. Like, "hey, I don't like it when you talk about how much weight you lost because it makes me feel bad." Why try and find a "come back?"

Be honest with yourself about why your upset. Be honest with her. If you're friends you should be able to talk this out instead of going behind her back to find a way to cut her down. I sure wouldn't want a friend like that!!!

I don't think you're wanting or trying to be petty. But here's your wake up call: you're being petty. If she's your friend you should be happy for her. If you can't be happy for her, then talk it out with her.

BeeElMarvin

Just ignore it. Why do you need a comeback? It actually has nothing to do with you. It's her journey. Just leave her to it. If she asks for your advice, give it gently, but if not, just congratulate her on her losses and leave it at that.

Give it gently. This is exactly what's wrong w/ America.


Give her the truth, not some watered down "be nice" version. The truth is the best thing you can give anyone.

You can give the truth without being a jerk though. That's all I meant. No need for a harsh or witty comeback.

What fun is that?

AzGilrock

I'm not even on a low carb diet and I saw a big drop the first week. We all know it's mainly water if we've done this before. As an engineer I like to throw math at them. "Oh really, you lost 4 pounds in 2 days. Well you know it's gotta be mainly water because you need to burn 3,600 calories to lose a pound of fat so you would need to burn 14,400 calories above you're calorie intake in 2 days to lose 4 pounds of actual fat."