am i different

DWK28

A girl I was in love with got pregnant by another man......we stayed in touch, but I saw her today, had lunch with her,,,,,and it still bothers me.

ColleenMichele

I don't know how long ago all of this happened for you but it is ok to still be bothered by it. She hurt you. You are allowed to me mad/sad/upset/whatever for as long as you need.

DWK28

This happened in september......I ate to feed my emotions and gained like 50 pounds....just feel like it shouldn't have bothered me, but it does....idk....just tryin to stay focused on me now....today was hard though

ChelSleeve

When you love someone and they hurt you.. sadly the pain never goes away.. it will fade in time though don't worry.. it helped make you who you are today.. and it inadvertently lead you to this site where you have the support from all of us..

wantmorepies

Did she know how you felt at the time or feel now?

farmers_daughter

Did it possibly feel like when that happened she took something away from you? Like the possiblity of you and her having children together?
For a gal to do that to you, that's a BIG hit to your heart, so I would say acknowledge your feelings today, but don't dwell on them, because
1. she's not worth your time
2. it happened because something better is meant to come along, something that deserves your loyalty and honesty and love.

When we are in the moment it is hard sometimes to see the big picture, there's no doubt you really loved her, but you have to love you now and move forward with YOUR life. Because when you love you, you can really dole it out to the next gal.

Chin up man!

DWK28

Yes she knew, like I said we are still friends, it was just weird seeing her today and her belly...and all the baby talk