When do you stop trying.....

angiemartin78

Let me say first off that this is not another one of those posts complaining about someone, I really want some input from you all...

My SIL has been after to me to start going to the gym with her (this started in the middle of december). Well, I have been going regularly since before the start of the new year. EVERY day I email/text her and ask her if she's going today and she hasn't been once since I started going. How much longer would you all continue to text/email? At first I was getting excuses as to why she couldn't go, but now she's just not answering me.

How long would you all continue attempting to motivate someone before you gave up on them? I mean, it has been almost 2 months.

SinIsIn

After the 2nd time of blowing me off.. I'd stop and just keep doing my thing.

La_Amazona

I would have stopped a month and 3 weeks ago.

angiemartin78

I would have stopped a month and 3 weeks ago.

LOL I hear ya and I've thought about it!

SueInAz

I would have given up before now, to be honest, probably after the first three times she made excuses. I'd say text her once more and when she doesn't respond send another text that states this is the last time you're going to make the attempt and that if she wants to go in the future to let you know.

I'm a bit baffled that she was bugging you to do it and now shows no interest but it's not your job to provide her with motivation. That's something that has to come from within.

therealangd

A long time ago.

Two blow offs and I'm done.

MissionZero

Two texts and then it is their turn to reply. No reply, no problem, move on.

KBGirts

If she's not answering then the time is now to stop.

Send one final message that leaves it open like "Whenever you want to go to the gym, let me know". Don't send her another invite after that.

Bentley2718

Two texts and then it is their turn to reply. No reply, no problem, move on.

This. If she's not even bothering to respond, clearly she's not interested. I like the suggestion to send one final message saying she can contact you if she ever wants to go, that leaves things open if *she* decides to get motivated. It sucks, but at least you're going! After all, you are the only one you can control.

kb455

Yep, I would have given up long ago. Its not your responsibility to motivate her. When you're looking all strong and fit, she'll be thinking "Damn, I should have started when she did."