Maybe I'm meant to be fat................

raylenebrooks

edit Oh Gosh this is not going well
No I am not eating "Clean" and if/when I stop loosing I will reevaluate that
I was not saying this is not working I just had a day where I had cravings and wrote this
I have lost everyweek so far and right now feel like this is the answer I was just saying regardless I enjoy the support
although the responses are making me second guess that one

Maybe I should not have posted it but oh well


Maybe I'm meant to be fat

My grandma is overweight they say I am built like her
My dad is overweight I obviously got the fat gene
My sisters are overweight see it runs in the family
I have been on every diet medifast, Atkins, lindora, non processed foods, tried Ali phentermine (ok that worked but I was a tweaker and it all came back) , wls , you name it I have tried it
See I am hopeless
Yes my thyroid is ok
I have tried to excercise, owned a ab roller , eliptical, videos galore from abs/ buns of steal, to walkway the pounds , gym over and over in fact I am a life time member at 24 hr I have had 2 personal trainers and did follow what was told to me
Yet her I am still fat
I have never ate a whole bag of chips or box of cookies in 1 sitting, no I don't eat burgers and fries and never really have I hate hamburger, I have not had soda in 3 years and only drink plain water yet here I am still fat
Countless new year resolutions diets lifestyle changes and just flat out gimmicks have got me nowhere.
MFP I am not sure if you will get me to my goal, BUT I love you and the support of everyone, and all I have to loose is the weight

jfluchere

Stop eating food that comes out of packages...start there.

mgmlap

I don't think anyone is meant to be fat. Some people can't handle certain foods...so they become big. I can't handle processed carbs...so I became fat. I think the trick is to see what is the cause ( food journal) and weigh. I also think some people need to move more. I know for me..I will never have a small waist or tight abs..but I am fit..and have learned what to eat...you can do it...

raylenebrooks

I don't think anyone is meant to be fat. Some people can't handle certain foods...so they become big. I can't handle processed carbs...so I became fat. I think the trick is to see what is the cause ( food journal) and weigh. I also think some people need to move more. I know for me..I will never have a small waist or tight abs..but I am fit..and have learned what to eat...you can do it...

Thanks I do believe it is a learning and plan to really sticking with it and figuring it out. The scale is moving since joining and I may have to change as I go but plan to get there

pinuplove

I could never function on what you're eating. I would be starving! You definitely aren't eating enough. I saw a lot of pre-packaged 'diet' food, too. That is no way to live, in my opinion. I want to lose weight, bit I still want to be able to EAT, ya know? You can take a look at my food diary, if you want. Not that I'm the picture of perfect nutrition - I had leftover (homemade) pizza for breakfast this morning :laugh: But it shows that you can still eat well and stay within a reasonable amount of calories. My goal is set for 1/2 pound per week. 1410 calories is my goal for 1 pound per week, so I usually try to fall somewhere between those two numbers.

Please don't give up! But do take a look at what you are doing and try to reconsider why maybe it isn't working.

Edit I see you aren't looking for advice, so I apologize for giving it unsolicited. I will leave my original post, but of course feel free to ignore it. Best of luck to you!

firesoforion

I feel like experimentation is needed to figure out exactly how to lose the weight (personal experience, I've done a lot that doesn't work, hoping the new thing will be the thing that does!). Don't give up, you'll get there!!

WinterB2003

I completely understand where you are coming from being that my background is similar. It is hard staying motivated but easier being on here. For me I have found MFP to be very inspirational and motivating. You can do it stay focused and stick with positive people. Maybe this time will be different for the both of us!!

nu2012

So I felt like this for the longest time,until an year or so ago. I thought I was meant to be chubby even when I went to the gym regularly but then I had 3 months in my life where I joined a dance class on top of the gym and I started practicing the dance routine at home for at least 30 mins. And I lost 15 lbs! I couldn't believe it because for as far as I remember, I had not reached that weight. I gained it all back plus a couple of lbs. And I have been trying for almost 10 months and it's difficult to lose.

But due to those 3 months, I know I can lose and I know I am not meant to be chubby. I just need to work much harder than the other girls with high metabolic rate. Those 3 months I worked out a lot and I enjoyed it and I kept pushing myself. I know it's a tough journey but we can't give up and think negative.

We are NOT meant to be fat. We are meant to be healthy and fit. To some people it might be easy but for us it's difficult. We just got to find what works for us and do it wholeheartedly.

To me MFP's food log seems good.If we are in calorie deficit state,we are bound to lose weight.

Venus2011

Have you tried some of the recipes MFP are posting on the site. They are good,easy to prepare, healthy and filling. The food diary is a big tool for me along with exercise. You didn't say if you were doing any exercise. This is a journey, a life style change and it will not happen over night. You may want to recalculate your calories for the day. It doesn't look like you are eating enough. Throw thiose negative thoughts right out the window!!!! Think positive!!!! You can do it along with everyone else at MFP. :flowerforyou:

raylenebrooks

I completely understand where you are coming from being that my background is similar. It is hard staying motivated but easier being on here. For me I have found MFP to be very inspirational and motivating. You can do it stay focused and stick with positive people. Maybe this time will be different for the both of us!!

We will make this be different I know we can do it

zeeeb

i know where you're coming from... when i see these teeny tiny little size 10's and they eat rubbish, barely work up a few beads of perspiration once every six months.

i'm fit, i love vegies, i love fruit etc. i'm short, and i am fat... even when i look at my best, i'm a bit chubby.

i see people who start an exercise regime that consists of a half an hour of walking and they lose weight, yet me, i have to sweat it out. i have to go hard, to the point of my whole body and clothes being drenched with sweat, just in order to keep in shape and stop myself gaining weight.

it's hard to not give up, throw your hands in the air and say "I don't care". but it's even harder going to the shops and ending up in tears because everything looks terrible on you and you are humiliated just by being alive, you feel like you are offending ppl by just being there and being fat. so i keep on chipping away. battling what seems like an unwinnable battle.

Keep at it, there is hope that we will defy the odds one day.

ashtonvv

I know you didn't want to post this, but you did and I am NOT trying to be a *****... BUT I come from a family full of medical illness. My mom had her thyroid REMOVED, my dad is a type 2 diabetic, and my brother has chrones disease.

This all effects weight, and obviously overall health.

I however, am healthy (touch wood). As a family we are becoming healthier together to help the ailments that already make it hard for them to LIVE on a daily basis. My parents have both lost weight and my brother thanks to a good diet and medication is stable enough to have a "normal" life.

If anything, your genes should make you want to change your lifestyle for the better. Our bodies are not meant to carry excess weight, period. You have to WANT to change. It is not a diet, or something you do short-term... this is a lifestyle change. Start by swapping out things that you used to eat, for healthier substitutions. I don't believe in "fad" diets, sure they work but how often to those people pack on the weight, and then some?

I am sorry, but you can't post this on a site like this and not have it offend anyone. I really feel sorry that you have that mentality, or had a bad enough day where it came down to that (we all have those days). I truly believe everyone, and everyone can do this.

You have to set your mind to it, no short cuts, no cheating, no excuses.

There is a TON of support and success on here for you.

I wish you all the best.

Helloitsdan

Know your TDEE, Body fat% and BMR.
After that weight loss is pretty simple!

smelkoski

Hugs...I feel your pain. Completely. It is not easy. I lost a lot of weight going to a nutritionist.I took tons of supplements that were super expensive. Ate a diet that would barely keep a rat alive.....eliminated almost everything I was used to eating and I did lose weight...rather fast...it fell off. But the cost of that was so over the top, I could not keep it up. I slowly gained back the weight and then some because I knew I would not live and eat like that the rest of my life. For me, personally, it is a mind thing....I like good southern foods and at my age, I need to switch my eating habits. When I was younger, it was not a problem...but now it is. I have had a couple of days I wanted to eat all day too, only thing was, I have nothing here that my "mind" was wanting and I did not go out to get that snack I wanted to have....not fun or easy.

I am just rambling I know..but you are not alone in this struggle...it is hard plain and simple. Hugs.

OnceAndFutureAthlete

Yes, days like the one you seem to be having absolutely suck.

January can be especially tough because there are all these articles on "27 tips on how to lose weight" (or whatever). You read them and go:
eliminate soda and switch to water? check! did that 10 years ago!
no snacking after 8? check! 2 years ago.
have a healthy breakfast? check - all my life!
cardio/walking 4-5x per week, weights at least twice? check!
etc., etc. down the list...

And you wonder why you at the weight you are given that you do ALL THESE THINGS ALREADY and who are these people that can do just this and have it work? Grrr....

So you're right, it's a journey, and your solution (and mine) will be your own. But at least you can come here and find some people that understand and are also struggling, and maybe tomorrow you will feel stronger and have better results. (and if you don't try, it'll definitely never happen!)

Good luck!

adross3

Cook 95% of your meals. Eat most of your carbs exercise. You learned how to drive, now learn how to eat. You answered your own question.. eat clean.

Helloitsdan

Hugs...I feel your pain. Completely. It is not easy. I lost a lot of weight going to a nutritionist.I took tons of supplements that were super expensive. Ate a diet that would barely keep a rat alive.....eliminated almost everything I was used to eating and I did lose weight...rather fast...it fell off. But the cost of that was so over the top, I could not keep it up. I slowly gained back the weight and then some because I knew I would not live and eat like that the rest of my life. For me, personally, it is a mind thing....I like good southern foods and at my age, I need to switch my eating habits. When I was younger, it was not a problem...but now it is. I have had a couple of days I wanted to eat all day too, only thing was, I have nothing here that my "mind" was wanting and I did not go out to get that snack I wanted to have....not fun or easy.

I am just rambling I know..but you are not alone in this struggle...it is hard plain and simple. Hugs.

And the moral of the story is....

1) Eat about 1600-2200 calories to lose weight
2) Dont fall for buying supplements you should be eating
3) Eat southern foods all the time but in the proper portions
4) Sleep 8 hours a day/night

January can be especially tough because there are all these articles on "27 tips on how to lose weight" (or whatever). You read them and go:
eliminate soda and switch to water? check! did that 10 years ago!
no snacking after 8? check! 2 years ago.
have a healthy breakfast? check - all my life!
cardio/walking 4-5x per week, weights at least twice? check!
etc., etc. down the list...

The after 8pm myth has been broken as well as meal frequency so if you want to eat right before going to bed, go for it!
It regulates blood sugar and give us a restful sleep.
Studies from 2000 up to now show that overweight subjects who consume most of their carbs at night lost more weight than subjects who taper.

Studies have also shown if you sleep 8 hours and skip breakfast opting to eat after 2 pm you may extend your life, have a better HGH boost when sleeping, have better cholesterol counts , decrease insulin levels and increase insulin sensitivity.
You can also eliminate most cardio as long as you already have a strong cardiovascular system.
Thats a whole different forum post on Intermittent Fasting though.
PM me if you need help!
=D

Signia

I agree with the exercise/gym PLUS taking dance!

I went from a size 14 to a size 10 when I added dance on top of it!

At least you'll have fun!!

raylenebrooks

Know your TDEE, Body fat% and BMR.
After that weight loss is pretty simple!

Thank you I started the new counts Monday and can't wait to see how it goes

gemmaldavies

dont give up. i bet there has been some weight loss over the time. its always more difficult to see it urself. u dont have 2 tell us but are u on any medication that may affect the weight loss. somat to think about. good luck.

raylenebrooks

dont give up. i bet there has been some weight loss over the time. its always more difficult to see it urself. u dont have 2 tell us but are u on any medication that may affect the weight loss. somat to think about. good luck.

Thank You
and no medication at all truelly I am healthy and although obesity runs in my family noone has diabetes HD HB etc. My grandparents are all alive and active and independent in their 80s .

Nope not giving up and I did make things private as I didnt feel like being scrutinized I am currently about 45 lbs from highest and 13 down from january start I am feeling successful and know I will have to adjust as we go I am trying to loose about 70 lbs in 18 months completely doable. I think sometimes people who are 20 lbs overweight think I eat junk all the time really not the case just the body I was given HOWEVER I know I can loose weight it is just more work for some than others.

Scorpioangel

I can relate to your post from friends that I know. I truly wish you the best on your journey! You will reach your goal :-) I know people that eat a heck of a lot cleaner than I do and still can't results anywhere close to mine. I know people that eat a lot of what some would call "junk" foods and got to their goal quicker than I. We are all unique and you will get there girl Lots of hugs!

GlitterGoldJem

I think you have yourself talked into being "fat" and if your mind is set in stone that you're "fat" then you'll be "fat" forever. You need to realize you're better than what you think you are and if you can accept the challenge to make your already awesome self BETTER then half your battle is over. It sucks losing weight, we can all agree to that but if you want to do it, it'll happen. You're going to have set backs, your going to not want to work out, etc and that's all normal. What you need to do is get a mini goal weight, get to that then maintain for a month or two, if you can then move onto another goal weight, maintain and move forward. If you want it, you can do it, always remember that. Best of luck!

mdtoll

I know where you are coming from! My whole family is overweight and honestly i don't think ill ever be skinny. Ive tried several different times to diet but i always seem to gain right back to my starting weight but no more. I gave up for a long time thinking "whats the point." Everybody has different body types and classifications of "fat". Truthfully my goal weight is till classified "overweight according to my BMI. Ive lost about 13 lbs since the beginning of January and i hope i can keep it up this time. I wish you all the best and I hope you reach your goal!

jeyko

Stop eating food that comes out of packages...start there.

Really does it?? HA HA maybe you missed it I clearly said (non processed foods) but I did that for over a year before joining MFP I was not asking for advice from you just had a hard day and felt like writing BUT THANKS you are not one that I was refering too when I said I love MFP

I was thinking the same thing when I read the first comment! I didn't take your post as a cry for help or that you were looking for opinions, some days you just need to get your feelings off your chest. You want to know if anyone else feels like that some days. Some people need to remember that if you don't have something nice/supportive to say, don't say anything at all.

JanieJack

i know where you're coming from... when i see these teeny tiny little size 10's and they eat rubbish, barely work up a few beads of perspiration once every six months.

i'm fit, i love vegies, i love fruit etc. i'm short, and i am fat... even when i look at my best, i'm a bit chubby.

i see people who start an exercise regime that consists of a half an hour of walking and they lose weight, yet me, i have to sweat it out. i have to go hard, to the point of my whole body and clothes being drenched with sweat, just in order to keep in shape and stop myself gaining weight.

I'm right there with you! I hate how girls I know start walking a mile every day and the weight falls off (even though they eat out lunch every day) yet I run half marathons to keep my weight steady. Right now I'm discovering that eating out is really the source of my weight gain. Not cool since that's all anyone does around here.

It's not possible for me to get down to a size 0. I looked sickly the one time I had starved myself and got down to an 8. And I has dizzy all the time. But the good news is, even though I won't be a beanpole, I look really good as a size 10. So I'm not going to give up. Becasue I CAN lose weight from where I am now. It will just take owrk. And I've stopped whining about how unfair it is that I can't eat like everyone else. I have to accept that I'm blessed with certain abilities and eating whatever I want *isn't* one of them. But other people can't do math, or they can't comprehend that the meaning of the universe is 42, so I will just keep working with what I've got!

MaximalLife

cop out - typical of new year resolution dieters.
By mid February, most are looking for reasons to give up.
Resolve to be different.
It's your choice.

Cold_Steel

Please do not post topics in Motivation and Support and then get irritated when people are trying to motivate you or support you. If you post something with the intent of not getting a response I suggest putting that as the header or the first line of your post because most people don't even read to the third sentence before their brains are already formulating responses...

Go on Chit Chat and Fun... when you post here people are going to respond..

If you just want to "write" and get it off your chest; use the blog function or your own status update.

When you toss your bait into the water that is the internet, you will get sharks.

raylenebrooks

cop out - typical of new year resolution dieters.
By mid February, most are looking for reasons to give up.
Resolve to be different.
It's your choice.

I agree once the weight is harder to get off it is easy to give up Yet I wont be

becoming_a_new_me

Please do not post topics in Motivation and Support and then get irritated when people are trying to motivate you or support you. If you post something with the intent of not getting a response I suggest putting that as the header or the first line of your post because most people don't even read to the third sentence before their brains are already formulating responses...

Go on Chit Chat and Fun... when you post here people are going to respond..

If you just want to "write" and get it off your chest; use the blog function or your own status update.

When you toss your bait into the water that is the internet, you will get sharks.

Why respond without reading??
It was meant as motivation and I believe was taken that way for those who have felt the same . Not that I did not want respnoses BUT when I am being attacked for not eating clean (yes I had a lean cuisine that day) because the clean eaters believe their way is the only way then no I wasn't asking you to look at my diary and tell me what I am doing wrong. I will ask that if/when the time comes under General Diet and Weight Loss Help and ask for it .

I think that the poster here was trying to say that since you were just being flippant and not really self-defeating, it would have been advisable to use the fun and chit-chat area instead of the motivational area. People got confused because it seemed like you were reaching out for help, not venting.

MrsNoir

Wanna really do the diet I did which did wonders, and could help you and your whole family? is only three days a week!! and you'll lose, guaranteed! but you have to ve very strict on those three days! the other four you can eat whatever you eat on a normal basis, regardless if it's healthy or not, the diet itself has icecream and cheese, and it's done for people with loads of weight that need to lose some urgently before having a heart stroke. British Foundation diet, it does miracles!:D