need male opinion

mishelnkiki

Ok, so there's this guy I've been crushing on at the gym for about a year now. He flirts like crazy and even connected with my daughter. Here's the issue... I turn to mush around him. So I know a girl that works with and asked her to give him my number. However... she gave me his instead. Should I txt him and say hey? Or leave it b? Not stalking bc I didn't ask for the number. Suggestions? Advice?

Carl01

Do it.

MrsM1ggins

You've got his number for a reason. Use it.

(sorry, you asked for a male opinion )

Sumo813

Well, if it were me, I'd be flattered you tracked me down. But everyone is different. But hey, whats the worse that could happen? He says no? I have a feeling that wont happen though. GO GET HIM, CHICKIE!

tmarie2715

Ok, so there's this guy I've been crushing on at the gym for about a year now. He flirts like crazy and even connected with my daughter. Here's the issue... I turn to mush around him. So I know a girl that works with and asked her to give him my number. However... she gave me his instead. Should I txt him and say hey? Or leave it b? Not stalking bc I didn't ask for the number. Suggestions? Advice?

OMG chick, do it! He obviously likes you. Go for it!

SHBoss1673

go for it, if he's a nice guy, he'll respond. I would say this though, a call or better yet, talking in person is 100000000 times better than a text.

Matt_Wild

Better to do it and regret rather than doing nothing and wondering what if.

bloodguilt

Ok, so there's this guy I've been crushing on at the gym for about a year now. He flirts like crazy and even connected with my daughter. Here's the issue... I turn to mush around him. So I know a girl that works with and asked her to give him my number. However... she gave me his instead. Should I txt him and say hey? Or leave it b? Not stalking bc I didn't ask for the number. Suggestions? Advice?

Hmm, Sumo is correct. Better go and shoot him a message or two before someone else does. :-)

taliesyn_

Nothing ventured, nothing gained... better that if it's a no, you know rather than spend time going gooey over him for nothing - and if it's not a no... have a great time exploring!

noemike

Totally use it when me and my wife first meet she cut my hair I was crushing on her and flirting then she took my # off my client card and called me I was very excited to get that first call. She had a son also after some dating we got married the rest is history. So I say yes call him !!!!

Hmrjmr1

Well, if it were me, I'd be flattered you tracked me down. But everyone is different. But hey, whats the worse that could happen? He says no? I have a feeling that wont happen though. GO GET HIM, CHICKIE!

Dittos

Indy_Mario

go for it, if he's a nice guy, he'll respond. I would say this though, a call or better yet, talking in person is 100000000 times better than a text.

Yep, in person is better.


You should say something like:

"Hey, my name is: (your name). My friend/acquaintance gave me your number because I told her you're kinda cute.
I thought about texting you but I was afraid you'd think I was a crazy stalker or something. I'm not! *look to the left, now to the right*
Anyhow, I'd love to know you a bit better. I've seen you around and find you interesting".

stresco

Go for it! Never let a missed opportunity be your regrets in life.

Newf77

My opinion is slightly different; you stated that a mutual friend who he works with gave you his number. I would be a little concerned and would want to know if he authorized you to have that information. If he did not authorize this information being shared then there could be some serious breach of employee records and your friend could be in some serious policy violations. If you know that he wanted this information shared and since you turn to “mush” talking to him then send the text and start the conversation otherwise, muster it up and talk to him at the gym and invite him out for a bite to eat with your daughter and you.

BigBeaver

make the move doll, text him, say hi, go for it, if he already flirts with you, he likes yeah, give it a shot.

brigg9

Go for it! I have to agree with the above poster though, a text is flattering, but a phone call would be even more flattering. Good luck!

LorinaLynn

Call him. Don't text. If you text, you'll be on pins and needles until he textes back. And texts are a terrible way of actually communicating with another person, unless you just want to share a quick message with no emotional attachment, like, "I'm running 5 minutes late."

rjt1000

Some of us guys can be pretty slow on the uptake. So it's always helpful if the girl makes it perfectly clear that she's interested and available. Because all of us fear rejection and if you make it clear you won't reject his asking you out, he might actually get past the fear that you'll STILL blow him off that he'll do it.

Text him, email him, call him, whatever but don't be coy and subtle. Tell him, "hey, want to grab a smoothie or a horrendously fatting bacon cheeseburger and fries after your next gym session?"

He might say no. It can happen. But then you're no worse off than you are now, right? And more than likely he'll say "uhhh, ummm, ahhhhh, you mean, ummm, like, ummmm, ahhh, you'd ummmm, want to ahhhhhh, go out with mmmmmmm, ahhhhhhh, ummmmm, me??? YES!!! But now I have to go to church every sunday and sing in the choir....."

Indy_Mario

Some of us guys can be pretty slow on the uptake. So it's always helpful if the girl makes it perfectly clear that she's interested and available. Because all of us fear rejection and if you make it clear you won't reject his asking you out, he might actually get past the fear that you'll STILL blow him off that he'll do it.

Text him, email him, call him, whatever but don't be coy and subtle. Tell him, "hey, want to grab a smoothie or a horrendously fatting bacon cheeseburger and fries after your next gym session?"

He might say no. It can happen. But then you're no worse off than you are now, right? And more than likely he'll say "uhhh, ummm, ahhhhh, you mean, ummm, like, ummmm, ahhh, you'd ummmm, want to ahhhhhh, go out with mmmmmmm, ahhhhhhh, ummmmm, me??? YES!!! But now I have to go to church every sunday and sing in the choir....."

LMAO! :laugh:

mikey1976

i agree with the above post. i would be flatterd to get a text and i would blush full of happyness

surlydave

Better to do it and regret rather than doing nothing and wondering what if.

This.

laughingnome

go for it

rayleansout

Get over it and call the guy, dont text, to chicken, just say Hi, its me the girl from the gym,, whatever, I always notice you smiling at me, and I thought, what the hell, im just going to ask you out for lunch, your treat! He will love it!!!

goron59

Can't hurt - do it.

dukes418

ask him for a spot and go from there. Thank him and strike up a convo. Don't be scared!!!

bloodguilt

Get over it and call the guy, dont text, to chicken, just say Hi, its me the girl from the gym,, whatever, I always notice you smiling at me, and I thought, what the hell, im just going to ask you out for lunch, your treat! He will love it!!!

LMAO!

bloodguilt

My opinion is slightly different; you stated that a mutual friend who he works with gave you his number. I would be a little concerned and would want to know if he authorized you to have that information. If he did not authorize this information being shared then there could be some serious breach of employee records and your friend could be in some serious policy violations. If you know that he wanted this information shared and since you turn to “mush” talking to him then send the text and start the conversation otherwise, muster it up and talk to him at the gym and invite him out for a bite to eat with your daughter and you.

Make sense to me.

cigarzzz

Just do it - you will feel better and have no regrets...

DS67ATX

I love it when women come up and talk to me or call me,email,text whatever the case.It makes me feel good as a man that a woman takes the first step,its awesome.Go for it and text.

La_Amazona

DO IT!!!

I'm an aggressive girl.. I'd go for it... of course once you do give him the space to initiate contact too.

Good luck!

AllanMisner

Geez. Text him. Uhg.