DEPRESSING DISCOVERY+ need motivation.

rima933

I tried to open a MFP account last week. turns out that my username was taken, i clicked forgot my password and it turns out i opened an account here 18 months ago. i looked at it and i am now 20 pounds HEAVIER than last year. i opened this account a long time ago because i thought i was heavy then. Now i did have a baby last year but still. SO DISAPPOINTING, especially since I cant seem to break the 190's for like at least a month now. i feel as though i will NEVER get to the 140's again, and after seeing peoples pics at 125 i am even more depressed and feel like crying. PLEASE MOTIVATE ME SOMEONE. my first baby i lost 90 pounds (mostly pregnancy weight) but ended up at 165 not even 140. This baby I lost 30 pounds mostly pregnancy and am now 192 (gained a pound this week?) I looked at my old pics when i was 135-140 and cried.

lwoods34

I know that you are looking at everyone else's pic and want to cry but you have to do this journey for you! Nothing worthwhile comes easy. You have to work really hard for it and Ive learned that if you want something bad enough you will do what you need to do and get there no matter what. The only person that can TRULY motivate you is YOU! We will be here to give that extra support and motivation but at the end of the day its YOU that has to want to change more than anything or anyone.

Once you set some specific goals and put them into action, you will be fine. Feel free to add me!

awolf2011

I feel for you. I had my 3rd boy in May 2011 and I have stayed around 180ish for the past 9 months. I finally got to the point where I needed to do something for myself to make me feel better. I look at pics in albums of myself before I had kids and I too was very emotional. I too gained weight since last week....2 pounds!! It is so hard to keep going having gained weight. I am hoping that it is muscle weight since I have been working out a lot harder, but we will see. I try to not step on the scale a lot cause I would rather have my clothes tell me how much I have lost. Keep it up and don't get discouraged. We are all here for you to give you the support that you need!!

rima933

Thanks ladies.

misskerouac

I haven't even had kids and I started here at 185. I have pictures of myself at 155 that can make me sad but I no longer let them make me sad, I just have to look at them and say "It might take me a year, and it's going to be hard, but I'll get back there" and keep going.

I've been here since November and I've lost 8 lbs (actually I lost 7, then gained 4 over the holidays, then i've lost 5 since then) and I see people on here that lose 3 times as much in the same time frame, but I have to remember that everybody is different, everyone's bodies are different, and although it's slow, the number is still going down.

It's a long road. It took a long time for the weight to come on, and it'll take a long time for it to come off.

Don't get discouraged, get up, dust yourself off and keep going.

If you need some supportive friends feel free to add me.
I'm 28, 5'7", currently at 177.2lbs, married, no kids (just one damn cute niece).

rima933

I haven't even had kids and I started here at 185. I have pictures of myself at 155 that can make me sad but I no longer let them make me sad, I just have to look at them and say "It might take me a year, and it's going to be hard, but I'll get back there" and keep going.

I've been here since November and I've lost 8 lbs (actually I lost 7, then gained 4 over the holidays, then i've lost 5 since then) and I see people on here that lose 3 times as much in the same time frame, but I have to remember that everybody is different, everyone's bodies are different, and although it's slow, the number is still going down.

It's a long road. It took a long time for the weight to come on, and it'll take a long time for it to come off.

Don't get discouraged, get up, dust yourself off and keep going.

If you need some supportive friends feel free to add me.
I'm 28, 5'7", currently at 177.2lbs, married, no kids (just one damn cute niece).

Wow almost exactly my story. Thanks for the motivation girl. Definately need friends like you.

30yearssincebikini

I remember reading a letter from Ann Landers many years ago that stuck in my mind. Someone had wrote to her asking if he is too old to get his doctorate. He said he would be XXX age in 7 years when he finished and would that be too old? You know what her answer was?

"How old will you be in 7 years if you don't finish?"

I only thought of this because it may be a long journey, but you will be the same, overweight sad person you are now if you don't make a life change. Do it. I know you can!

lizard053

I started here in 2010, with the phone app. I was 178 then. I'm back to my original diet start weight yet again!

I have a problem with consistency. I do really good, loose a whole lot of weight (almost goal 2x, and a 3rd about 15 pounds away) then I get distracted or get sick and forget about it. Ugh!

I need people to pester me constantly. Otherwise I do neglect myself. I have students remind me to eat! I get working in the lab and the next thing I know its 8 hours later, and I'm supposed to be eating every 2 hours. I rarely put myself ahead of my work, and I need it to stop!

I'm enlisting as much help as I can get! This site sure helps alot! Easy to track all my food and exercise.

kd80538

Forget what's happened over the last 18 months. What matters is what you are doing NOW! And that is putting focus on you! I have been where you are. I actually lost weight (without trying) with both of my pregnancies over 10 years ago...and gained every pound back, and then some. But you know what...it doesn't matter. Today is what matters. The last year that I've dedicated to ME is what matters. I've had days that were amazing good, I worked out HARD, and I ate (almost) perfect. And sometimes in that same week, I've had NO progress on the scale. Or, in some cases I gained. Oh well! (I know...so easy to say, believe me I know! I am my own worst critic!) I've had other days where I threw all common sense out the window and have had a big fat greasy cheeseburger from my favorite restaurant, or ate too many gourmet malt balls (currently my nemesis - they are from the DEVIL!) And despite those days, I've lost 60 lbs over the last year. It's been a helluva ride...with lots of ups and downs, both on the scale and emotionally...but I've made it almost a full year, and I feel AMAZING!

Take each day as a new day. Set mini goals for yourself. Maybe it's as simple as increasing your water intake by 1.5 glasses that day. Maybe it's logging everything. Maybe it's avoiding those darn malt balls that are ready to attack at any time (see, there they are again! And they are 42 calories each...not bad if I could stop at 1 as a sweet treat, but I could eat the whole darn 1.5 lb bag of them!) Baby steps. Each day incorporate something new into your challenge - build it up. For me, I started just by counting my calories, and watching what I was eating. Then I looked at alternatives to meet those needs/desires that could reduce the calories. Then I built in movement. At first it was a sweaty workout once a week and a walk once a week...now, it's looking at what I eat, and paying closer attention to my nutrients and trying to get a good sweaty workout in at least 4-5 days a week (and avoiding the malt balls!) Some days, it all goes out the window...and I let myself have those days. This is my life, and I'm human, and let's face it, I like food! But I try to not allow myself the guilt that comes with those days...I just move on from them!

You can do this...and we're all here to support each other!! Good luck and pat yourself on the back for making the decision to focus on you!! You should be so proud of yourself!

rima933

Forget what's happened over the last 18 months. What matters is what you are doing NOW! And that is putting focus on you! I have been where you are. I actually lost weight (without trying) with both of my pregnancies over 10 years ago...and gained every pound back, and then some. But you know what...it doesn't matter. Today is what matters. The last year that I've dedicated to ME is what matters. I've had days that were amazing good, I worked out HARD, and I ate (almost) perfect. And sometimes in that same week, I've had NO progress on the scale. Or, in some cases I gained. Oh well! (I know...so easy to say, believe me I know! I am my own worst critic!) I've had other days where I threw all common sense out the window and have had a big fat greasy cheeseburger from my favorite restaurant, or ate too many gourmet malt balls (currently my nemesis - they are from the DEVIL!) And despite those days, I've lost 60 lbs over the last year. It's been a helluva ride...with lots of ups and downs, both on the scale and emotionally...but I've made it almost a full year, and I feel AMAZING!

Take each day as a new day. Set mini goals for yourself. Maybe it's as simple as increasing your water intake by 1.5 glasses that day. Maybe it's logging everything. Maybe it's avoiding those darn malt balls that are ready to attack at any time (see, there they are again! And they are 42 calories each...not bad if I could stop at 1 as a sweet treat, but I could eat the whole darn 1.5 lb bag of them!) Baby steps. Each day incorporate something new into your challenge - build it up. For me, I started just by counting my calories, and watching what I was eating. Then I looked at alternatives to meet those needs/desires that could reduce the calories. Then I built in movement. At first it was a sweaty workout once a week and a walk once a week...now, it's looking at what I eat, and paying closer attention to my nutrients and trying to get a good sweaty workout in at least 4-5 days a week (and avoiding the malt balls!) Some days, it all goes out the window...and I let myself have those days. This is my life, and I'm human, and let's face it, I like food! But I try to not allow myself the guilt that comes with those days...I just move on from them!

You can do this...and we're all here to support each other!! Good luck and pat yourself on the back for making the decision to focus on you!! You should be so proud of yourself!

OMG, this is so good. I LOVE CHOCOLATE MALT BALLS TOO! 42 cals?! holy crap! Thank you sooo much for your motivation. 60 pounds in one year, you are my inspiration. I wanna lose that much too. I guess I'll also have to put in the work. You know what I realized today? I realized that I keep complaining about not losing weight even though I'm trying hard, however,Im not trying as hard as I should be! When I lost my weight with my first baby I was doing 2 classes at the gym 1 hour each. I was doing this about 5-6 times a week. And sometimes I would even go on the treadmill for half an hour after those classes. AND one of the classes involved weights which im doing at all now.

All Im doing now is Insanity. You asked my my opinion on it yesterday. I hate it! It's not fun like group excersise classes usually are. There's weird music and its very low, and unnatural movements that are so hard to do. Yes you get an amazing workout, and yes you burn alot of calories. But at what cost? After 2 weeks I am now suffering from knee pain.Im only 24, I have never had joint pains in my life! And knee pain is common when you do insanity, just google it! I skipped my workout yesterday because I just don't look forward to it. Ít's very repetitive and boring. All of the people in the insanity videos are muscular and fit and seem as though theyve been excersising since they were born and its very hard to keep up with them. The instructor ( Shaun T) doesnt even give you alternatives to take it at your own level! You have to work at their level.'Even though I've been doing these high intense insane workouts my body is so shocked that I'm not even losing weight its like "youre not going anywhere!!!!"

I guess I miss the group excersise classes at Goodlife because of the environment. But i cancelled my membership there and bought a brand new Livestrong treadmill, a home gym weight system and INSANITY. We've had the home gym for more than a month and still haven't put it together lol. I am not one to give up so i am not even thinking about quitting insanity. They say month 2 is when you lose all the weight and the workout increase by half an hour, we'll see how that goes. For my knee pain i guess i will just deal with it. Do I recommend insanity? Yes. however, not if you are a beginner. Only if you are looking to lose the last 10 pounds and tone. And only if you are willing to commit. You must be a self-driven individual.

Thank you for your wake up call and congrats on your successful weight loss journey.

bcattoes

I understand your frustration, but crying is not going change anything. Adjust your diet so that you are eating only enough healthy foods to keep yourself full. Throw out the junk food so that it's not around for temptation. Have a treat now and then. And move!! Find an exercise that fits your schedule and you enjoy and do it regularly. That will help.

thepetiterunner

It's hard to realize where you are and no one likes a reality check, but here we are.

Here are the things I suggest:

1. Make a list of all of the reasons why you want to get healthy/lose weight/be fit, etc. Post pictures of your ideal body type around the house.
2. Put those reasons on post-it notes with CURRENT pictures of yourself all around the house and in places you'll be likely to see them (i.e. in the bathroom, on the closet door, on the fridge, on pantry door, etc).
3. Write down mini goals for yourself for the next 2-3 weeks. Write down a daily goal for yourself that will help you get to these weekly goals.
4. Keep logging MFP every day.
5. Go through and clean out your pantry. Get rid of anything you don't want/shouldn't eat.
6. Make a grocery list and KEEP to the list. Do NOT go shopping when you're hungry. Don't buy anything you don't want to keep in the house (i.e. snack foods, cookies, crackers, soda, etc). If it's not around, you won't eat it.
7. Believe that you can do this. If you don't think you can, you're right. If you think you can, you're also right.
8. Take one day at a time. Worry about making good decisions in the MOMENT. Do NOT put off eating better for "the next meal" or exercising tomorrow instead of today.
9. Forgive yourself for minor setbacks. One day of bad eating or non-exercise is not going to destroy you.
10. Tell your significant others/friends/family about your desire to get healthy so they can support you.
11. Celebrate small victories. Keep at it!

Good luck!

rima933

i want you all to know how thankful I am for your advice and support. I felt depressed and down and ready to give up and you ladies have helped me back up and motivated me to not give up. Really, thankyou!