Deleting friends??????

vballscriscuolo

So, I have the understanding that the entire basis of MFP is for support, friendship and a way to assist in reaching the goals we all want.....but it seems, a lot of people "clear their friends list" if people havent been on for a few days or a week or so? I don't understand that really? Didn't you accept the friends you have on MFP because you either needed help or wanted to support others? Isn't that completely the opposite? I have people on my friends list that haven't logged in for weeks and 2 of them for months.....but when I accepted their requests or sent them my own, I made the decision to support them through whatever they needed........I guess everyone can make their own choices, but don't you think that if a friend on your list hasn't logged in for a bit they might need a push? So isn't deleting them completely counterproductive?

I am a top offender when it comes to not logging infor a few days at a time...I have a few friends in my list that have been AMAZING and if I ever lost them on MFP it would really set me back, but they understand that life happens and we can't always be in front of the computer all the time! It just upsets me to see posts saying......well I cleared my friends list, if your still here you made the cut!......it brings me back to gym class and being the last called for dodgeball or badmitton.....this sites about support and deleting friends is doing the opposite.......guess that's my rant!!

gecho

:happy: I wouldn't delete you!


At least if i do delete someone there is a valid reason behind it.

seaglass2

Personally I think creating a post to announce you are deleting friends is pretty passive-aggressive.

lmelangley

I routinely send messages to friends who haven't been on for a while. After 3 months I delete them because in most cases, my experience is that they aren't coming back. Of those I delete, I discover half of them no longer have MFP accounts- but they're still appearing on my list.

I have a good MFP friend who routinely deletes friends. He is extremely motivational and interested and feels he needs to keep his list at a number of friends he can continue to support - no one has unlimited time. I take inspiration from him - I want to be there for as many people as I can, but I need it to be a manageable number.

KayteeBear

I like to have active friends on my list. I delete people who haven't logged in for weeks or months because I can't support them and they can't support me if they are never online. If they haven't logged in for two weeks or more then they probably won't be back. Especially once they're not on for months at a time.

I also delete people sometimes if I never ever see them posting or replying to my posts. Same thing...I can't support them if they never post and they don't support me.

I can only support the people who are online and post.