Distorted Minds...

TheGoblinRoad

I find it baffling, and sad, that in 2004 after being on WW for a few months, I went from 252 lbs to 213, and I felt very fat still at 213. I wasn't positive about how well I had done, really. I felt that it wasn't enough. I could only see where I had left to go, another 40 lbs approximately.

Then, almost predictably, after leaving WW, I gained for years until I reached 300.

Now I'm at 265, 13 lbs more than when I started WW in 2003. Now 252 sounds decent, and 213 sounds amazing.

My hope is that when I get down to 213, my attitude is much better this time. We shouldn't forget our efforts. We should celebrate every step we take toward better health. We need reminders, and we need friends like we have on MFP to keep our brains thinking more clearly.

TheGoblinRoad

I should add:

Yes, I celebrate my 35 lbs lost.

TheGoblinRoad

bump. would like to hear from others on this topic.

GuruOnAMountain

Yeah, you're totally right. It is one of the reasons I love this sight is that people on here really celebrate everyone's achievements and encourage people to see achievement in other things such as increased strength, better cardio fitness, better clothes fitting etc. instead of just a focus on the scales.

It can be hard sometimes on this journey, especially if you aren't moving much on the scales or can't see a change but we all need to remember that by trying this at all we're all making a better life for ourselves and giving ourselves better health!

Bysshe

I always thought I was HUGE when I was around 220... and now I look back and think I WISH I was that size now.
I understand what you mean.
It's funny how life has a way of changing our perspective. I have a feeling you will REALLY celebrate when you reach 213. As well you should!!!!
In life's journey sometimes it's not about when we get there, but ride on the way! Make sure to enjoy every milestone and never forget where you were before. That'll make it easier to be happy when you get there.

TheGoblinRoad

I always thought I was HUGE when I was around 220... and now I look back and think I WISH I was that size now.
I understand what you mean.
It's funny how life has a way of changing our perspective. I have a feeling you will REALLY celebrate when you reach 213. As well you should!!!!
In life's journey sometimes it's not about when we get there, but ride on the way! Make sure to enjoy every milestone and never forget where you were before. That'll make it easier to be happy when you get there.

I definitely will, with some exercise! That way, I'll become 212!.

TheGoblinRoad

Yeah, you're totally right. It is one of the reasons I love this sight is that people on here really celebrate everyone's achievements and encourage people to see achievement in other things such as increased strength, better cardio fitness, better clothes fitting etc. instead of just a focus on the scales.

It can be hard sometimes on this journey, especially if you aren't moving much on the scales or can't see a change but we all need to remember that by trying this at all we're all making a better life for ourselves and giving ourselves better health!

Sometimes I just want to put the scale away for good, but not always. I think putting it away is part of how I got up to 300. I really was shocked when I weighed in. I figured I had gained it all back and a little more, not 48 lbs more.

ViSabbi

I'm sort of worried about the same thing. I remember when I was young and 130 pounds, I was happy. I could buy anything I wanted to wear and it would fit, etc. Now I'm just thinking...will I be satisfied?

Well the fact is, you will be! And I will be! You will see your before picture and think, what an amazing road I took. With my 15 pounds down, I realized that I'm pretty much where I was back in sept. 2011. I feel so much better about that 177 pounds than I did at the time! The reason? I feel the efforts I've put into this, I feel the changes I've made and I'm proud of myself.

I'm sure it's quite the same for you. With this community and all you are, all you have accomplished, I'm sure you feel happy to be where you are right now and you know that you will go further down this road because you -know- it's a good one. Also, we change and we are the only ones having control over how positive we are about what happens in our life and what we do. I'm sure your mindset today, isn't identical to the one you had at the time

TheGoblinRoad

That's a good mindset to have!

Yeah, I don't think I will have the same mindset I did last time. If I do, somebody kick me.

myopus

As a child, when my shoe size changed from a 3 to some larger unknown, I was really beside myself. The shoes I loved weren't out there anymore, and I remember squeezing my little feet into those size 3s after that, whenever I was in my room, I'd just stomp around with my poor feet just shoved into those tiny shoes. This was long before body-consciousness really came into play. Dealing with physical changes is never easy, whatever the age or depth of perspective. Thankfully most of us grow to be more flexible and healthy looking *outward*, but many of us don't extend that same level of compassion and patience to ourselves

nlsalvatore

Earlier this week I was focusing on how far I have to go, instead of how far I have come. I am usually a glass half full kind of girl, but I just couldn't get there that day. I started MFP a year ago at 234, and I have felt great about how far I have come, but for some reason this week, where I currently am has just felt fat! Nice to know it's not just me.

Lona728

I have struggled with this too. When I met my husband (I was 16) I was 135lb (I am 5' 8") and I thought I could lose some weight! When I gained throughout the years and hit 200lb I thought OMG! I am so fat!! Now I am at 244 and can't wait to see that 200 again! My highest non pregnancy weight was 278lb. Over the years, as I have lost and regained I never appreciated where I was, always looking to see where I wish I was. This time I hope it's different.

rob_v

The biggest thing to understand is the its a lifestyle change, not a diet. If you set that mentality its alot easier to get it off and keep it off.
Good luck and stay positive..

jipsybird

I find every pound lost a reason to celebrate. I can totally understand not being content where one is at. The grass is greener on the other side, right? As with many things, it often happens we don't appreciate something till it's gone.

I'm sure you will better appreciate your weight loss this time around!